SaskMasser

Funny thing I've noticed. A persons went on a rant about how if you don't have a picture you better not message them because without a picture you could be a fake. That there isn't a security reason due to a sensitive job, divorce etc to not have a picture because anyone on the site must be in the lifestyle.

This person's next rant was about all the fake people on the site just trolling and wasting peoples time. How these people are not here looking for someone but to stir the pot, troll or otherwise cause trouble.

I'm waiting for their next rant. I'm hoping it is about people using other people's pictures and why it is wrong.

I met someone awhile back. They used their own picture. They just forgot to say it was 15 years old.I don't have a picture up right now. Partly because I'm going through a divorce. Partly because the only ones I have are about 2 years old and I've lost about 60 pounds since then.

A picture doesn't make me a Master. It doesn't make you a slave. I am less looking for a look and more for a mindset. 

Give me a lady with brains and a slave heart. Much more important then red hair, green eyes, big tits and a tiny waist.

Something I wrote that I thought might be a good way to look at just starting out in the world of kink:

Hello and welcome to the wonderful world of kink ;) Its a lot like walking through a candy store. There are a lot of things that look awesome but taste kind of off to you but others seem to love. There are some weird things that you would think you would hate but love. And some things that make you run for the door. Who ever heard of a lollipop with a bug in it!!!!
You have to pick what you like and leave the other thing on the shelf.

Okay.. before you message someone saying I'll be your cocksucker until you find .. check to see if they would even be interested in you. I have no interest in males for ANY sexual activity at all.
Triple that before sending a chat request.
There is no respect shown there.
I am more then willing to wait to find the right lady.
Not to say I don't like having my cock in a hot mouth.. but not if there is a beard rubbing against it... just not my turn on.
Now if a girl were to make that offer... well I have an empty cage, set of shackles, collar and cuffs that you might just fit in.. not all at once of course.. lol

Now I am not an adult baby.. but how cool are these?

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Love and respect are the strongest chains and best whips. No matter how hard a Master is a good slave will punish herself far more. If she trusts, respects and loves her Master then failing him and knowing it starts her punishment.
Her heart is heavy. She needs to fix it. She will comes and beg to be punished.
I have seen this happen.
And once the punishment is given she knows she is forgiven. She will work harder to fix it and not make the same mistake again.
Without that love and respect.. nothing works.

Doormats need not apply.

Let's face it most Masters fantasize about that slave with no will of her own. The one you see on TV in the comedies who is little more then a blow up doll that can walk on her own.

BUT in the real world it is the exchange of power that is a part of our thrill. The struggle for her to submit, to take her to that limit and have her surrender herself. I believe that is part of why OTK spanking is such a thrill. The entire struggle is there. Her placing her naked flesh across your lap, her body fighting against the need to fight, to run. Then the surrender. It happens again with the first contact of flesh against flesh. The tears and kicks. The cries and tears. And then the final release.

A side note. Once punishment is done all MUST be forgiven unless the behaviour is repeated.

A doormat cannot give that.

Knowing that a strong submissive is what I want I also know she will have opinions. I know she must have a way to express them. So as a good Master I will help that happen. BUT it must be done in a respectful way! She must do so with the knowledge that my word will be final though. After listening I will do what I believe is right. I will make mistakes.

I ain't purfect neither. 

But if we have trust and respect it will work out.

The following is NOT a real conversation. It is an example to prove a point.

You have no limits? Really? So if I tell you to put this plastic bag over your head you will do it? NO? Well then we have a limit. No an insane one but a limit.

Well I know it is a stupid request, but breathe play is something many people indulge in. That you are not one of them is not the point dear. The point is you do have a limit.

You may not go to the bathroom without permission. Oh you have IBS and cannot control your movements that well. Well we now have two limits. I understand it is not your fault. But medical limits are limits. Be they heart conditions, allergies or.. what do I mean allergies? Well if you react in a harmful way to ice, ginger, rubs, vinyl or something that is a limit. I cannot insert ice into you or rub it over your skin if it can send you into shock. raise hives, cause swelling in a bad way or cause you to die right?

The fact is we all HAVE limits. Not all limits are bad. Some are moral, ethical or health related. Perhaps you will not perform oral sex in a church since you believe it will endanger your immortal soul. Perhaps there are medical reasons you cannot have anal sex. They are still limits.

Now pass the flogger and anal beads... let's see how much you can take ;-)

A week or so ago I read something that bothered me deeply. A girl was quoted as saying she didn't know her lifestyle was wrong and that what was done was done TO her.

At least until her lifestyle came out and the societies guard dogs got their rancid fangs into her mind. 

Her lifestyle isn't what was important. What is, is how she was content with her past until the professional busybodies jumped in.

In roughly her words "...it wasn't until Dr. so and so and others convinced me that this wasn't something I participated in but was done to me...until then I didn't realize that this was done to people...now my family won't talk to me..."

She was happy until convinced she wasn't. She was a participant until she was shown she was a victim.

How many times have we all encountered someone like this? The person who was doing what some part of society "knows" is wrong. Often it is doing something that has been done for hundreds if not thousands of years, but now is wrong. I'm not talking about dangerous activities such as drugs, smoking etc. But living a lifestyle that the great majority KNOWS is dirty, sick, perverse, EVIL!!!!

And so they show you why it is. Want examples? Sadism, masochism, homosexuality and.. well the list goes on. All diseases of the mind at one time or another. But slowly gaining acceptance.

The watch dogs of our minds, those guardians of morality, the keepers of the keys to the kingdom of mental health and sanity have screwed up far too often. And when they finally admit it, when they own up to their mistakes what happens? Are those people who were injected with the "cure" for their homosexuality, tormented by the understanding that their sick cravings for pain or to inflict it made better? No. It is far too late for them. But hey they are still learning, give them a break. After all if they don't try how can they figure it all out? Never mind the whole generation right now in school who collapse at the fist sign of failure in the real world because they never paid a price for shoddy work in school. Who grab a gun and kill the first boss that fires them. After all how were THEY to know that failing was an important part of growing up and as important as protecting this generations poor little egos?

And who is their next victims once they go oooooppppsie sorry about begin wrong again?

After all polygamy is slowly getting acceptance. So the hounds will have to find their next fox to chase. Otherwise they might have to find another way to keep us worshipping at their alters.

This is NOT an attack on all mental health workers either. Just on those parasites on TV and who care more about their wallets and popularity then they do about people. I know many who are dedicated workers who care about victims and those who are afflicted with the problems of the mind and soul. Tireless people who don't see colour, creed, wealth or religion.

They are the true heroes in the battle for our minds and souls.

Dr Phil.. you ain't one of those.

Okay a small bit of advice that won't be taken by most people but I will have fun posting anyway.

Do not post a long list of all the negative things you do not want. Think about it. Do you want to be around a person that only tells you what they don't want?

Do not post long rants about all the jerks online. We all know how many there are. Trust me we have run into as many if not more then you have! We know 90% of the people online are lying. We are looking for that 10% that aren't. Again do you want to be around someone that only sees the negative? Just block them and walk away.

Please however do delete my messages unread! Thank you for saving me the time it would take to find out how shallow you are!!!! I'm too old, fat, lazy, hairy, young, tall, short or whatever you are not looking for. At least I don't have to waste my time :)

The one person I talk to today may end up being a life long friend. I have several I met online. We took time to talk and enjoyed the conversation. Now we talk whenever we have the time. Even though we are in different province since I moved we still talk. Guess we won on that one didn't we?

Do tell us what you are looking for. What age, size, experience and so on. Not everyone will respect that. But hey if you went to the bar you would find a few jerks there too. If you spend the whole night upset over it you might miss out on Master Right One because he sure is not looking for someone that will rant and rave all night long.

Funny thing. I saw a profile of a "sub" who was ranting about how all the Masters here need to stop ranting about all the scammers trying to get money from us when they mail her.... after a two page journal entry of her's bitching about all the jerks messaging her.

Ever hear the saying... like attracts like? Stop being so bitter and close minded. That dirty old man you just blocked could have been your new best friend. I have been lucky enough to meet some people who taught me skills I treasure and given advice that helped me more then I can say. Thank you :)

And you'll have a lot more fun if you just point at them and laugh ;)

If we do chat don't make the mistake my small talk as a lack of sadism, dominance, control or skill
I can give you more examples of what I have done in the past. And I think that would be a better guide then what I think I might be willing to maybe do to you. Don't you?

I can sit here and write you a story about the pain you will be in, the humiliation you will feel and so on. But what you truly want is what I can and am willing to do.

Learn from the past pet. And remember if I give you a rose, there is always the thorn. Have you ever been whipped with a long rose stem? It hurts, or so she said.

A hand can strike flesh in more ways than most people can imagine. From an flat slap to a cupping blow to a pinch to a fist. Plus where it strikes can change what it does to the mind and body.

It truly is an art form. One that many people know something about but not as much as they think they do. But it takes a long time to study how a hand can be used.

I read some of this year ago and then added to it:

It is one of life's ironies that the hand that may break bones and cut flesh may also heal a wound with a gentle caress. It may write great poetry, soothe a fever and bring life into the world. It is our greatest weapon and our greatest tool. If you learn to wound you should learn to heal. Use your hands well and let your heart guide them.

Used right a Master's hand should guide a girl, train her, punish her and soothe her.

Happy New Year all. Best wishing in your life and your search in 2011 and the future. And remember when you turn your back on one person, that one could be your special one. When you turn your back on two people, someone may turn their back on you.

That doesn't mean you have to answer every jerk who talks to you either. There is a balance you have to find.

Something that occurred to me before but that I was explaining today:

 A good Master knows that his property is only human and will make mistake. He knows that he will also. He accepts that and allows for it. Knowing that no one is perfect he works not to have perfection but improvement. He works to better his girl or girls so he can have his ideal. He works to better her for both of them.

A poor Master just punishes out of anger and fear.

I've been asked about why I punish and what's the difference between abuse and punishment.
My answer to both is you punish to correct a behaviour. If you punish out of anger then you are not in the right head space to punish someone. You punish out of love. Out of the desire to improve what you own or are controlling.
The punishment must fit the offence. 100 lashes with a belt for getting your coffee wrong only makes sense if it is the 100th time. Without knowing the girl it is hard to say what would be best. Wrong amount of sugar? Maybe walking around with a 2.5kg (5lbs) bag of sugar hanging from a body part. Warm spoons placed in certain areas of the body might work.
Be inventive.
And once the punishment is done.. the event is over unless the behaviour is repeated.

Now.. lol how many people couldn't care less what I think? Too bad.. I'm writing this for those who might care and for myself!