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Sandmannosleep
Male Dominant, 44, Binghamton, New York
Male Submissive, 42, Cheboygan, Michigan
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sandmva -  Dominant Couple, Manassas Virginia | BDSM Profile on Collarspace

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Good-natured gay couple (10+ years together) looking to find a long-term and eventually live-in situation with an adventurous, friendly guy. Doesn’t matter if you’re a sub, switch, sissy, gay, or bi – but have a good attitude, dynamic interests (i.e. want more than spanking and oral), and be willing to grow. Also, live within 40 miles, have your own transportation, and after a public meeting somewhere in between, travel to us. Be confident, straight-forward, reliable, and persistent when reaching out to us, or in reply to our interests. Don’t be a lurker – take a risk. Neither one of us is into online d/s play, so don’t expect our messages to be in the “get down on your knees and beg us to punish you, boi” sort of vein – comes off as lame to us, but to each their own. We’d prefer someone 25-40 years’ old, 5’11” or shorter, height/weight proportional, DDF, decent/gl face, and medium body hair or smooth.

About us:
(1) He’s hairy, masculine square face, green eyes, shaved head, Irish ancestry, three large tattoos, pierced nipple and prince albert, 6” with girth, big balls, and large mushroom head, outgoing and the kind of guy people immediately like. Very passionate, spontaneous, insatiable sex drive, and a sexsomniac (no joke, look it up if you don’t know). Dominant, and into cock worship, verbal and physical humiliation, ass play, face slapping, riding crops, and underwear fetishes. Grew up on a farm, and loves animals (two dogs and two cats).
(2) He’s moderately hairy, nice oval face with medium build, blue eyes, shaved head, English ancestry, no tats, no piercings, 7.5” good looking cock, and is a quieter, brooding, lone wolf type. Creative, sadistic, selfish, bossy, exudes sex appeal and swagger, and is versatile. Into bondage, keeping you out-of-your-mind horny with edging and chastity, physical humiliation, cbt, and toys (has an absolute arsenal of gear). Handy, nerdy, loves tech & scifi, former frat boy.

Both of us like cooking, wine & beer, and the outdoors. We’ve lived in the same single family home we bought 9 years ago, and are college educated but down to earth. Living in a rural area, we’d describe ourselves as country gays, sometimes classy, sometimes crass. We love each other a great deal, are happy, and aren’t looking for a third to make up for anything that’s lacking; rather, we’re looking for that cherry bottom to put atop our sundae.

Our face pics for yours.

Hi all, we've taken a couple years off, but still recognize a lot of familiar faces.  Glad to see.  Been busy with family (we're uncles!!!), career changes, and more.  Older, not necessarily wiser, but still marvelous.  Ah, collarme.  It looks like a dozen people have added to your ranks since we last visited.  LOL.  Nonetheless, we're happy to see that not everyone has devoted themselves to craiglist killers.  We're looking forward to catching up.

 

 

 

 

When Vanilla Meets Chocolate

Recently M and I met a really great guy online (you know who you are).? Open, honest, attentive, ambitious, attractive, he seemed like a perfect fit.? We talked online and on the phone for weeks, and we even arranged a visit, but unfortunately came to an impasse. The very vanilla parts of our life couldn't mesh because we are at different stages in our respective lives.

And that's okay.? Because we are all good communicators, we became aware of the conflict early, before there was too much investment on either part.? That takes courage, and in our experience, 90% of the submissive men we've talked to are in serious lack of it.? But I'll tell you right now, you're going to have to shed your timidity if you want to make it work with us.? We learned a long time ago that you can't put your sexuality in a box, or it begins to grow mold.? Use discretion, by all means, but when it comes time to get what you want, to meet the challenges ahead, to surrender to your deepest longings, will you have the courage to push forward?

As we learned though, even the most attentive subs can come with complications.? Career, family, expectations: we all carry our baggage, but the question is, will there be enough room for it in the relationship we seek to lead? If you haven't considered - and you're seeking a LTR - I think you need to go back to the drawing board.? If you are married to your job, and you live in Pennsylvania, the chance that we'd be a viable option for you is slim to none.? If you are caring for an ailing family member in Minnesota, it won't work.? My point is, you have to look beyond your D/S desires and consider the very ordinary things you want out of life.? If you can't accomplish those things in northern Virginia, then a LTR with us is a scant possibility.?

M and I are getting more and more into the local scene, and it is there that I expect to find someone (maybe soon, maybe years from now).? That should overcome some of the obstacles we've faced here, especially in dealing with subs who live some distance away.? I'm not going to say we won't talk to those who aren't geographically close, but you'll have to convince us that you're worth the distraction.

~S.
A Communications Primer

Again and again you'll see on the message boards how important communication is.? How no M/S or D/S relationship can work in the long run without openness, honesty, and constant exchange.? Yet how rare it is to find someone who delineates their expectations when it comes to the method or frequency of communiques!

Recently, I've suffered some disappointment with the quality and frequency of communication from those I talk with here and on other sites.? I think a lot of my frustration stems from the fact that my expectations don't match those of the interested subs or slaves with whom I chat.? So, this is my effort at more clearly defining the problems we've had thus far, and what can be done to resolve future issues before they become a problem.

First, to any potential sub or slave, I would remind you that you're dealing with two dominants, so expect double the communication from our end.? Just because you've had a good conversation with me doesn't mean that M won't also want to talk with you.? When you've taken the time to chat with one of us - but not both - you've only just begun.? Take the time to get to know us both before you decide to drop off.? Otherwise, your attentiveness is only half-hearted, and your decisions based on half-truths.? Not the kind of person we're looking for, period.?

Second, I view online communication as an effort to separate the chaff from the wheat.? I don't see this as a proving grounds for your fantasies.? So when you play the "yes, sir" bit, or "what will you do to me?" bit (even worse), it really doesn't mean anything.? I'm not your sir until a) we've met in real life, b) we've confirmed the chemistry, c) we've played together, and d) we've established some ground-rules and negotiated the live-in situation.? So please, dump the trumped up role-playing and tell me who and what you're about.? That's the only way we can assess whether or not we'd be a good fit.? The rest is just meaningless chatter.

Third, when we do confirm a mutual interest, I expect a certain frequency of communication.? I'm not commanding long, involved conversations every day.? But if a week has passed, and we haven't heard from you - even if it's a simple "hey, how are you?" type email - then you've wasted our time and yours, because we'll have moved on.? I don't think this is unreasonable, insecure, unfair, or whatever else the half-assed among you might come up with to rationalize mediocrity and laziness.? I will not chase after you like a lap dog, I will not pretend we are courting some silly school girl, and I most certainly won't spend my time puffing up the egos of fools and fakes.? You'll either be attentive, honest, and thoughtful, or you won't be ours.?

~S
Sub or Slave

A lot has been written on the definition of a submissive partner versus a slave.? The message boards here on CollarMe are littered with thoughts and opinions, but I started wondering, what do those terms mean to me? Are we looking for a sub or a slave? Where along a sliding scale of sub to slave do we place our interest?

First, I think both terms are highly subjective.? Though many people have explicit definitions of slavery and submission entailing X, Y, and Z, those notions don't hold water across a broad and diverse spectrum of interests as represented by an equally broad and diverse spectrum of unique individuals.? Personally, the term slavery to me is only valid in the historical sense.? There is no legal framework in the United States for ownership of another human being.? The closest thing in my book is if you hand over Power of Attorney rights to another.? However, in the event of my incapacitation, I have made for M to gain Power of Attorney, but does that make me his slave? No way.

The particular ways in which power is exchanged, the extent of submission, and the outcomes of negotiation, are often cited as determinants of submission versus slavery.? Again, we're knocking on the door of subjectivity.? If a guy is willing to be tattooed with our names, does that make him a slave? If the submissive isn't willing, does that mean he can't be a slave? I'm sure you can begin to see the hilarity of trying to peg down such nebulous terms.

However we wish to refer to our boy, whether it be as sub or slave, we have a baseline of expectations for activity as expressed in a few documents that we provide to anyone we consider a serious potential.? If you've been talking to us, and haven't received them, that should give you some idea of where we stand.? I don't really care what someone wants to be called so long as they conform to the baseline.? If our expectations aren't compatible, it doesn't really matter what you consider yourself, because you won't become part of our tribe.

~S.
Feeling a bit optimistic tonight.? We finally met someone who seems to show at least an ounce of follow-through.? What can I say? I'm tired of pansies.? I can take my time, but not when it means I have to call in a cheer-leading squad in order for you to make a decision.? Especially when it's a small decision, such as to, oh, I don't know, remain in contact.? Honesty, attentiveness, and courtesy go a long way with us.? It's kind of lame when subordinates can give me that, but submissives can't.?

Where do you go when so much doubt and fear hang over you? Do you dare walk outside when the storms of your past foretell rain? It's a new dawn, it's a new day, it's a new year.? Walk outside.? Explore yourself and your world.? Dare to get what you want, and to keep looking.? And by God, have fun despite the hardship!

Okay, I'm beginning to sound a little like a cheer-leading squad myself.? Chink-chink.? Pow! Seriously, I think we wouldn't go through this if, ultimately, it didn't reward us in some deep and moving way.? Even in spite of the frustration, the gloom, the disappointment.? We persist because we hope.? We move because we have to.

And we plan to keep on moving and improving.? Hopefully, we'll find what we seek, and our tribe will grow and thrive.? Is it you? Or you? Or you? I trust we'll know, and 'we' will conquer 'me.'? Forever.? Now, now, won't you come and see?

~S.
Why we can wait

We seem to keep running into guys who seem to fall off the face of the earth.? Guys who, for some unexplained reason or another, just stop talking to us.? Guys without the perseverance to identify and work past misunderstandings, which abound in strictly textual communication.? Guys who rush to judge with a limited contextual account.? Guys who have no idea of our vision.? Guys who cower.? Guys who flee.

I think it only too easy to say the chemistry is off.? Rather, I believe chemistry only happens in face-to-face meetings.? Only then do you see a person in whole.? Here on collarme.com, all we have is the fictional representations of individuality.? Caricatures pieced together from rote catch phrases; second-rate philosophies parsed from uninspired fantasy.?

Only in real-life can caricature become character, philosophy become action.? Consequence only holds meaning when it can be felt, when you can literally see the flames and feel the heat from the burning bridges you leave behind.? I'm sure many people make lasting connections here, cyber relationships thrive, and some lucky individuals find what they're looking for.? Good for them.? I hope we can say the same one day.? But for the both of us, it's inconsequential until we see someone with the requisite courage to step away from computer screen and step toward action and accountability.

Fortunately, M and I have each other, so when we meet with so many kinksters, fakes, and players, we experience only minimal frustration.? We can always entertain ourselves while we bide our time.? When we do meet someone who looks promising, we communicate intensely.? We are intense men.? Some wilt in the spotlight.? Some retreat.? Not a big loss to either of us, because we're strong with ourselves and with each other.? We're not looking for another boyfriend, we're not looking to spice up our sex life, and we're not looking for a child in adult's clothing.? Somewhere out there, probably shifting through similar sludge, is the one for us.? The one worth waiting for.

~S.
I am not a master.? Still reading? Let me continue then.? I am not a master because I do not have a slave, and because I do not have a full breadth of experience.? I wrote awhile back that M and I have been role playing for the better part of five years.? While it certainly has given us each an intimate knowledge of tools and applications, it hasn't prepared us to take on a slave in a 24/7 type of situation.? Sure, some of it may translate, but unevenly and with consequences I can't even comprehend at this point.? My toy chest is not a reliable predictor of my skills any more than my erotic stories are.

That said, why would you even consider submitting to us?? If we lack true experience, what makes us think we can really handle this type of relationship?? How can we make it work if all our experience has amounted to play?

First, we can't make you submit.? We can't ensure that the reality of the dynamics would meet your expectations, and most assuredly, your fantasies.? We can't promise a perfect meshing of minds and attitudes.? We can't implement a power exchange that is free from conflict, misunderstanding, or misdirection.? We can't pretend our play experience will equal a mastery of you and your environment.? We can't execute a perfect 10.? We are, after all, only human.

But there are some saving graces.? First, and most important, we are a sound couple.? We talk through problems rationally (rather than rationalizing), admit fears and hangups, build each other up with assurance and encouragement, identify weaknesses, overcome obstacles, delight in passion, persist when times are tough, and work hard to secure a shared future.? I don't think any D/S or M/S dynamic can thrive sustainably without these fundamentals.? In fact, I don't think any successful long-term relationship can.

Second, just because there isn't a 1:1 match of our experience with desire doesn't mean that what we gained from other experiences doesn't translate.? When M and I bought our house four years ago, the price bubble was at its largest.? Instead of foolishly living beyond our means, we found a dump in northern Virginia (one of the most expensive real estate markets in the nation) with over an acre of land.? Over the course of the years, we replaced every window, every fixture, every floor, every door.? We sanded, painted, scrubbed, and sweated for a good many years.? The result is a very nice home that we've molded to our liking.? I refuse to believe that kind of perseverance wouldn't lend itself to the maintenance of a M/S relationship.

Third, we know how to hold on to relationships, molding and mending both others and ourselves for mutual benefit.? I've been with the same company now for over five years, during which I put myself through graduate school while working full-time (4.0 GPA).? With many years of nearly perfect performance reviews, I now command over 20 subordinates, many of whom are nearly twice my age.? Moreover, I am the only person in my position in the company given the trust to work from home.? Similarly, when I first met M, he was overweight and uneducated.? During our time together, he has lost over 15% body fat, earned a bachelor's in psychology (magna cum laude), and is returning to school in the fall to earn a second bachelor's in nursing.? We have a great capacity for the patience required to pursue goals that have delayed reinforcements, as these examples show.? Without a mastery of ourselves and our environment, we would not have succeeded.

Finally, we have great big hearts, and the stewardship and caring neccessary to ensure the success of a dependent.? Three dogs, two cats, and two goats whom the vet calls the healthiest animals in his patient base can attest to this.? No, I don't think a slave is an animal, or a pet.? But I do believe that their thriving health and the great effort it takes to sustain so many lives we care about says something about the kinds of men we are.

If you think this makes us seem soft, weak, or foolish, check please! I look forward to living and learning with a slave, perfecting the imperfect, overcoming the unrealistic.? Slaves teach their masters just as much as masters teach their slaves.? Instinct only goes so far, and even the most experienced among us must peddle backwards sometimes.? I don't think you can expect a perfect master if you can't expect him to be human.? So let me be your teacher, and I'll let you be mine.

~S. ??
What a productive day.? M was most impressed that I cleaned the entire study today.? We were having a bit of book crisis.? Books were literally piled up to the ceiling, and threatened imminent collapse.? I found some nice big rocks outside, scrubbed them, dried them, and now they are some stylish - but cheap - book ends.?

I look forward to the creative solutions a slave might find for us.? He will be granted the full use of his imaginative faculties.? This goes along with my whole anti-micromanagement philosophy of ownership.? I want to set the goal, and allow him whatever resources he needs to accomplish it.? I don't feel that that is a surrender of control.? I think it a monument to efficiency.

For it is only he who possesses an efficient utility that will win our guidance.? For even as a master must master himself, his slave must do the same.? Without utility, he is useless.? Without efficiency, he wastes his skill.? Our aim is to strengthen our tribe, and so should our slave.? How will you benefit us? How will you build yourself and our shared world? In exchange, we offer passion, vision, control, encouragement, and love (more on that later, but it'll be worth the wait). ? ??

~S.


What's in a cage?

Not just a slave but a psyche, wanting, waiting, needing control.? To be broken down, molded, and manipulated.? It thinks it's strong but what it doesn't know is that it's fragile.

Easily it fills with questions: Is this for me? Can I handle the control? It wants to be punished for doubting its place, but it needs to know if this is what it wants.

The truth is that it desires to serve,
it has told itself that this is the only way to live.? Questioning its motives is only a natural reflection of its fragility but the gnawing of its uncontrolled existence makes it weak.?
Only it can make the choice to stay or go,
but to stay is to fulfill the innate desires it cannot ignore.

It cannot function without control because it knows the one it serves can only complete it.
That is why the cage gives it only partial solace, because without the Master's key, its truth is hidden beyond its reach.

~M.
I had a special request from a feisty little fucker for some more erotic fiction.? Something sadistic.? I can't say I like this better than my first (see 12/14), but it's a start.? I hope you all enjoy this brief piece.

The Game

S.

 

Rob had been living with us for a good three months as our slave: obedient, attractive, attentive; we thought we'd struck it rich. He'd come from the kind of privileged middle-class background that hardly ever left him wanting. A prime example of the video game generation. Still, the day we found this twenty-something boy with the tenacity to make it work was a real payday, to be sure. 

 

Imagine the surprise of Master M. and I then when we should arrive home early from a conference only to find Rob playing video games! M. had provided Rob with explicit instructions that he was to rake the pine needles off the bank, and as soon as we pulled up the drive to witness the tangled mess of a bank, I turned to M.: ?Maybe we forgot to untie him before we left?? The anger in M.'s eyes told a different story.

 

Inside, we found Rob lounging in front of the TV in the basement, with a Wii remote in his hands, fully dressed, and a beer within reach. Parched, I grabbed the beer and downed it in a few gulps. ?What do you think you're doing?? M. asked calmly.

 

?Oh, I...I wasn't expecting you home. So early.?

 

?How unfortunate!? I pined. ?We're cutting into his vacation.?

 

?Well, S., we can't always expect the boy to put chores before recreation,? Mike sneered.

 

?Indeed, it's not like he signed on as our slave, is it?? I sung.

 

?I'm sorry, Sirs. Please forgive me.?

 

?It remains to be seen how sorry you really are. Or will be. And as for our forgiveness, you'll get it after your penance,? M. hissed.  With that, M. wrapped one large hand around Rob's jaw and hoisted him to his feet. Mechanics hands, I thought. Then he ripped Rob's t-shirt clear in half, so that he stood half naked before us.

 

?Remove your jeans,? I barked. Quickly, without making eye contact, Rob slipped them off and tossed them aside. ?Where is your cock cage, worm??

 

?I left it in the bathroom.?

 

M. and I exchanged a dark look before I trotted off upstairs. Behind me I could hear the sharp smack of bare hand on bare ass, followed by Rob's unctuous whimpering. Quickly I found the CB6000, an ingenious little chastity device that Rob is supposed to wear at all times. Before returning to the scene of the crime however, I stopped to root through the bathroom cupboard for the baby oil that's often required to put the thing on. That's when I saw it, and smiled: a whole tube of Bengay. After applying liberal amounts to the inside of the cage, I pocketed the remainder of the tube and slinked back downstairs.

 

I arrived to witness Rob bent over M.'s lap, as he sat comfortably on the couch. Rob's ass was already red as Rudolph's nose, and only getting redder as M.'s broad hand came down on his plump lobes again and again, with alarming speed. Rob was already on the verge of tears, but I knew that this was nothing next to the punishment I had in mind.

 

?Now boys, play nice. It's only fair that I get my turn now.? M. landed a few more devastating blows on the boy's rear and let him slide off into a slump on the cold, tiled floor. M. then retreated upstairs, for what I did not know.

 

I patted Rob on the back while he regained his composure. ?I really was going to rake the bank, I just thought I had more time,? he sobbed.

 

?Shh...I know. I know.? Rob sat up, his back propped against the legs of the couch. He looked like such a little kid then, his eyes full of tears. But it had no effect on me, the anger too entrenched in my heart. ?But you slacked off. You put your own trifle pleasures ahead of ours. Disrespectful. And lazy.? With that, I held up the chastity device and raised my eyebrows.

 

?I'm sorry, I know, I'm not supposed to take it off, I just wanted a breather,? Rob rationalized.

 

?Quiet! The only way you remove this is if your cock and balls come with it. I hid the key, which means that you must have searched through our belongings. Again, such disrespect! That won't do, Rob, and we won't tolerate it in the least. Here now, let me help you put it back on.?

 

Rob wore a grateful expression as he stood up so that I might help him into his cock cage. ?So you're not going to punish me? What about all that 'double your pleasure, double your pain' stuff??

 

I smiled to myself as I slid the cage over his flaccid member and locked it into place. ?Oh, it will come,? I ruminated.  And in fact, it only took about thirty seconds before Rob's happy smile turned to a grimace of horror. 

 

?Get it off! Take it off!? Rob pleaded.

 

?I'm sorry, I don't take orders from slaves,? I hissed, slapping him strongly across the face. ?Now watch your tongue, bitch, and learn to appreciate the penalties.? With that, I grabbed a fistful of his hair and forced him to his knees. Unzipping my pants, I drew his lips to my dick, and let loose the beer I gulped earlier in a flood of hot piss.

 

M. returned as Rob was licking the last few dribbles off the head of my cock. In his hands he held a two pound ball weight and a fat plug. ?Here,? I said, reaching into my pocket to retrieve the tube of Bengay, ?you may need to lube it up first.? Comprehension dawned on M.s face as his eyes met the bottle, the quaking body of Rob, and the chastity device. 

 

Lathering both the ball weight and the butt plug with the Bengay, M. moved to Rob: ?Position 3,? and with that, Rob stood up and grabbed his ankles. Working quickly, we stuffed his whore hole and secured his balls. The burning must have been unbelievable, as Rob's tears and body tremors seemed to indicate.

 

?Well now,? M. began in an upbeat tone, ?who's ready for some Wii Tennis?? That's when comprehension dawned on my face: usually we didn't combine a chastity device with ball weights, but now that I knew what M. had in mind, I couldn't help but admire the suitability and brilliant cruelty of the punishment for Rob's crime. Ball weights in and of themselves are tolerable, but when combined with quick movements, they become excruciating.

 

?I vote for best of five!?

 

?I knew you would, Master S,? M. said with a smile. ?But the boy's on my team. And mind yourself, boy: for every failed return, your ass gets another taste of my palm.?

 

?Now, let's begin.?

I've been a busy bee today.? Blame an unbelievable amount of vacation time, and a bored master.? Anyway, I've just added a tasteful picture of my CB6000.? Chastity is one of my favorite pastimes.? I think it an indispensable reinforcement tool for the male slave.? Naturally, I tend to be possessive (M. even more so), and so a boy on lock down gives me some peace of mind.? Add to that the unbelievable buildup in sexual energy, and the fireworks are ready for lighting.? This is the only attire our boy will need around the house.

Though if M. doesn't post a journal entry here soon, I've threatened to lock him up and throw away the key.? But that would only punish us both!? Seriously, this is beginning to look like a one-man show.? But M. has been busy with work and finals, and to tell the truth, he did most of the grunt work last time we went shopping for slaves.? After that disappointment, I'm sure he's not too keen to jump into the cauldron again.? I think he just needs to dip his feet in first.

Anyway, worm, we look forward to caging your little cock and fucking the spunk right out of you.? M. and I would love the pleasure of breaking your box with a little double penetration.? Make that a lot!

~S.


Well, in the regular course of my Christmas shopping, I ran across some hot boots.? I decided to post a picture here so that all of you worms out there can salivate.? I myself don't harbor a foot fetish, but these boots were too good to pass up.? And I certainly wouldn't mind a slave tongue cleaning them for me every so often.

What I could really use though is a worm to wash my feet, trim my toenails, and rub the calluses off.? If I'm feeling generous I might even provide a toenail clipper.? Otherwise you'd have to use your teeth.? Disgusting? Please! I knew a slave once whose master chained him to a toilet until he had licked it completely clean. Personally, I think I would vomit just from watching. So be content providing your masters with a little foot rub and pedicure: it could be a lot worse.

~S.
Well, yesterday's entry was about what kind of guy we're looking for, so I figure today's entry should focus on the kind of guy we're trying to avoid.  Do-nothing loafers are at the top of the list.  Maybe your idea of D/S is Falcon's latest leather flick put on repeat.  That kind of vision isn't sustainable or realistic.  The majority of mental life is led in fantasy, be it reading, hobbying, or fucking.  But fantasy unchecked by reality quickly leads to the kind of escapism that can destroy relationships.  If you're exploring D/S relationships as a way to find a free fantasy ticket, move on, and move on quick. 

Next on the list are guys looking to use us as a proving grounds to work out whether or not they're actually interested in the lifestyle.  A boy who doesn't know what he wants is next to lost in our book, and this is perhaps one of the most frustrating scenarios a dominant man can face.  Don't get me wrong, we expect a give and take at the beginning, and indecisiveness is frequent among subservient men (but not always).  Still, if you don't know whether this is for you or not, what are you doing on collarme? To me, this is an entirely different issue than trying to find the right master.  If our personalities don't mesh well, fine.  But don't waste my time while you decide whether or not you're ready to make fantasy a reality.  Most often, the two won't match anyway, but sometimes, they do.  If you aren't ready to take the risk, get out of the way.

Finally, we abhor men without utility.  If you can't add value to our family, why take you on? I tell you, one of the sexiest things I find on profiles (aside from hot pics) are sub men with skills in automotive repair, construction, woodworking, accounting, etc.  If neither M. nor I posess these skills, it makes them all the more attractive, because I know that this potential will add serious value to our tribe.  Educated, career-oriented men are also a huge turn-on.  It speaks to your capacity to tolerate and seek delayed reinforcement.  Face it: serving won't be all lollypops and rainbows; it will mean perservering even when the rewards aren't immediately apparent.  The kind that can is the kind we want.

~S.
So, what kind of guy are we looking for? Well, aside from age (18-35), the attributes we're looking for most are tenacity, attentiveness, and loyalty: tenacity to risk exploring this relationship and to stick to it, attentiveness to meet the demands made of you, and loyalty to hang on, even when your romantic ideas clash with reality.  We are looking for someone attractive, but we value nice faces over hard bodies.  The latter can be managed with exercise and nutrition, but there's no getting around a busted face (And you can't wear a leather hood to the grocery store without making a scene).  Beyond that, we're looking for someone that can get along with us on a daily basis: in that respect, an easy-going personality, a good sense of humor, and a reasonable mind go a long way.

Ultimately, we're looking for someone to join our "family."  Much easier said than done.  If you're envisioning being kept in a cage all day long while your Masters go out and work, forget about it.  I have dogs for that, and at least they play their part as a cheap alarm system.  We aren't looking for an exercise in micromanagement.  Yes, we have drawn up some guidelines as far as schedule, protocols, and requirements, but we'd expect you to be able to follow through without constant supervision.  After all, if you can manage to stay employed without hand-holding, you should be able to do it at home as well.  That's not to say we're disinterested, just choosy about how we spend our time.  I'd much rather spend my time thinking up new punishments or rewarding good behavior than picking out your clothes for the day.

~S. 
So, I wrote in my last journal entry about the lack of erotic fiction from a Dom's perspective.  While not entirely true, there's no doubt that the literature is flooded with fantasies from the sub perspective.  To help combat that, I'd like to share a small piece I wrote a few months ago.  Do not re-post this without my expressed permission, or Master M.s bad ass of a lawyer sister will get you good.


Just Deserves

by Master S.

 

When the white Volkswagen Passat pulled up to the house, Master M. and I exchanged knowing looks.  For months we'd been searching for a boy to occupy our household as our slave.  Months? worth of emails, conversations, negotiations, foiled plans, frustration, and vain hopes swept about our lives like so many spider webs tucked in the dark corners of the deck on which we now sat and drank deeply from tall glasses of M.'s homemade lemonade.  So this one has the balls, Master M.'s eyes seemed to whisper.

 

We watched the boy, a stocky twenty-nine year old, from behind a curtain of morning glories that stretched like so many green and purple tentacles across the rungs of wood that ran the length of our large deck.  I had started the seeds indoors some time ago, imagining great, sweeping vines that would eventually envelop the entire deck, but my expectations there, like so many others, were too great.  Now, all I could think about was how I felt like a predator stalking this poor, unwitting prey.

 

The prey moved briskly up the path, his muscles rippling under the soft cotton of an old t-shirt and athletic shorts ? items that I instructed he wear for our first meeting.  Even from a distance of some thirty feet, I could see the outline of his dick, which was obviously semi-erect, swinging to and fro beneath the blanket of his mesh shorts.  His sandals flopped along as he walked the length of the deck to greet us.

 

?Hello there, John.  Take a seat? I offered as he approached, the tips of his dark brown hair catching a glint of sunlight.  ?Not there!? I barked as he took the liberty of lowering himself onto a lawn chaise.  ?On the floor, of course?

 

?I'm sorry, Sir,? he sang, and dropped, Indian-style, to the floor.

 

?There is no need for sorries, here, boy.  You abide by our rules, we punish your digressions, or you pack your bags,? said M. calmly.

 

?Yes, Sir? John chirped.

 

?Well, that's a start,? I remarked to M., and returning to the boy, ?But there is much more for you to do here besides apologize and sit on your ass.?

 

?May I ask a question, Sir?? M. nodded, with a hint of irritation streaking across his brow.  ?Who is who among you? Who is Master S., and Who is Master M.??

 

?Boy, you will learn that difference later.  For now, let us continue this inside.?  As I motioned to M., all three of us rose up at the same time, and as I led the way across the deck to the front door, I saw that John meant to walk in front of Master M..  I wheeled around and held the boy's face firmly with my hand, such that his cheeks were slightly puckered.  ?You never walk in front, you walk behind!? I hissed.  I guided him by his face so that his back was pressed against the siding.  M. came alongside, grasped his cock and balls from beneath the skirt of his shorts, and squeezed.  John let out a small yelp, and averted his eyes.  Satisfied, I turned to M.: ?He understands.?

 

We entered the house, shutting and locking the door behind us.  ?Now,? Master M. began, ?remove your clothes, fold them, and place them in a small pile beside you.  Go ahead, boy, I just gave you a command!?  I smacked the boy's ass cheeks for emphasis as he hastily undressed.

 

?Yes, Sir, thank you, Sir!? he offered as he kneeled, folding his clothes and placing them neatly to the side.

 

?Good.  Remain kneeling,? I commanded.  ?Spread your knees farther apart...no farther!? As he inched his knees uncomfortably farther apart, his balls swung vulnerably free between his thighs, his dick noticeably rising.  ?Good boy, now place your hands just above the small of your back.  This is known as the kneeling position.  Anytime we tell you to kneel, this is the position you will assume.  Got it??

 

?Yes, Sir? the boy nodded eagerly.

 

?Good, now about which one of us is which...close your eyes and open your mouth!? I approached his waiting mouth, unzipping my jeans.  By this time, I was quite excited, and when my 7 ½-inch cock met his tongue, it already glistened with pre-cum.  John washed my dick with his saliva, turning circles around the head, as I inched toward the back of his throat.  He struggled to take the whole of it, and on several thrusts, gagged but stifled his reaction as best he could.  It is difficult for me to orgasm from fellatio alone, so I made him suck me off for about another 15 minutes, grabbing his hair to direct him to my balls and ass before full-out fucking his face.  After another 15 minutes like that, I came deep into the back of his throat, bent down to his ear, and whispered, ?Master S..?

 

M. stepped up to the whore's mouth hole after I stepped back, and the greedy boy slurped on his fat member.  M. slapped his prince albert on the boys face and tongue, and I peeked down to see John's five-incher standing at attention.  M. caught me looking, bent sideways to spy for himself, and shared a grin with me.  I bent down behind the boy and reached around his buttocks to find his balls hanging loose and long.  Firmly, I gripped them, and pulled them taught.  John groaned, but his sounds were muffled by M.'s thick member, which, due to its upwards orientation, is nearly impossible to deep throat while kneeling.  Still, that didn't stop John from trying, while my work on his balls sent small tremors through his thighs.  As M. inched closer to orgasm, he pulled out and ejected his load onto the boy's face and open mouth.  He then rubbed his hand across the boys face, collecting the semen on his fingers and pushing them into the boys mouth to suck down.  When the boy finished cleaning his muscular hands, M. leaned forward and whispered, ?Master M..?

 

Releasing my stranglehold on the boy's jewels, the boy thanked us for allowing him to serve us.  ?You're welcome boy, but remember this ritual.  Any time you enter our house, you strip, kneel, and thank us for allowing you the pleasure of serving, even if we are not home, or in a different room.?  The boy nodded and I instructed him to open his eyes and stand up.  ?Now,? I said, ?follow me.?

 

We toured the house, and I pointed out the details of the house my lover and I had lived in then for about four years.  I showed him the half-bath he would use exclusively, the douche with which he would use to clean his other whore hole, the plugs ? in increasing length and girth ? that would fill him, the ottoman to which he'd be strapped, the rings in the basement from which he would be chained or suspended.  He wore his hard-on like a badge while he walked stiffly behind me, and I turned to notice the light catching the slick end of his cock, which was dripping with pre-cum.  ?Ha, it looks like you're excited boy! Well, good! But you have work to do first,? I said, slapping the end of his dick playfully.

?Now, go clean your whore hole out and I'll meet you back up in the guest bathroom? I commanded. 

 

After swinging by the toy chest, I was met with a locked door at the guest bathroom.  Immediately I unlocked the door and caught John with the tip of the douche up his bum.  He looked at me with wild eyes, obviously startled that I'd barged in on him.  ?Oh, get used to it boy! Know that the eye of your Masters' is on you always, even here, while you clean your filthy insides.?

 

?Here,? I said, tossing down a plastic bag brimming with leather.  ?Inside this bag you'll find a butt plug harness, your collar, and your restraints.  You're to wear them whenever you're not at work.  Keep in mind that that can change if you don't follow the remainder of our protocols.  I'm sure you reviewed them carefully before arriving? Yes, I'm sure you did.  You'll find the lube beneath the sink.  Meet me in the living room when you have finished here.?  I exited, taking with me the other items I gathered from the toy chest.

 

When I returned to the living room, Master M. was already seated on the leather couch, his feet propped up on an over-sized ottoman.  I had not noticed him slip away while I toured the house with John, but he was an impressive sight in his chaps and black jock.  I always kidded with M. about being a bear-in-training, but here, he looked every bit the part: his dark hair curled tantalizingly from his muscular chest, his thick thighs and buttocks ? equally hairy ? bulged against the leather of his chaps, and he wore a smirk that matched the sinister gleam in his green eyes set against high cheekbones and powerful jaws. 

 

?Careful,? I said, ?I wouldn't want to suck you dry before our boy even gets in here.?

 

?There's plenty enough in here for everyone,? and he was right...M. had the most voracious sexual appetite of any man I'd ever known, and he never failed to shoot at least a foot or more.  Anticipating John's return, I quickly slipped out of my clothes and ferreted out a leather harness and jock of which I was particularly fond.

 

When John returned, we were ready for him.  ?Ah, there you are, boy! I was afraid I might have to come in there and ram the plug up your hole for taking so long,? M. bellowed.

 

?My apologies, Sirs, the plug was big, and it's been awhile? the boy yammered.

 

?Well, we can certainly help you with that,? I offered, ?but first things first: come to the center of the room and stand with your legs farther apart than your shoulders...yes, that's it.  Whenever you stand or kneel, you must keep your thighs separated such that your genitals hang free, loose, and most importantly, vulnerable.? I paced around him, inspecting his goods.  His pert buttocks looked too good to pass without a squeeze and a smack, as did his chest and cock. 

 

?Good boy, now bend forward...no, further, until you can grab your ankles? I said, tightening my stranglehold around his balls.  As he did so, M. rose from the couch, and prowled forward.  Nearly as soon as I began to remove the straps holding in his plug, M. was rubbing J-lube on his fingers.  He inserted his powdered fingers into the boy's hole, rubbing the stuff in a circular motion around the insides of the sphincter, which was now relatively loose on account of the plug.  John moaned a little, but seemed to be enjoying himself.  I peeked down to spy his cock standing on end.

 

?Great! Now I have to take care of that if it's going to fit inside its cage.?

 

?Hey, you were the one who had him so delightfully positioned,? retorted M., who was now spitting on the boy's hole and rubbing it into the powder, making a thick lube, literally right inside the boy.  I left the boy in M.'s care while I returned to the kitchen to fetch a Tupperware container full of ice water.

 

When I returned to the living room, M. was already three fingers deep into the boy, and didn't show signs of stopping.

 

?Alright,? I said, ?that's enough boy...stand up!?  M. shot a sour look at me, but I continued, ?You will find ours to be a very chaste household, for in addition to your utmost monogamy, you shall wear a keepsake of mine.?  With that, I plunged his swollen cock and balls into the ice-water, thrilled by the whimpering emanating from his throat.  His manhood shriveled like a violet.

 

?Th-Thank you sir,? he stammered, as I rustled in another plastic bag for the chastity device.  Returning successful, I borrowed some lube from M.'s slimy hands, which were still massaging and prodding the boy's ass.  I swabbed his now soft member with the lube, attached the rings, and slid the cage over his dick.  I was glad now that the boy wasn't too well-endowed, as I knew from personal experience that getting the cage on myself ? when I had tried previously ? was quite difficult.

 

Removing his thick fingers from the boy's ass, M. directed John to the ottoman, laying him on his stomach.  We quickly secured his limbs to chains that ran underneath the ottoman, giving him barely an inches' worth of wiggle room.  Applying a blindfold to the boy, I sat down in front of him and began to fuck his open mouth while M. lubed his fat member and slid into the boy from behind.  ?Now, boy, who controls your mouth??

 

?Master S.? he managed to choke out. 

 

?Good, and your ass?? questioned M..

 

?Master M.?

 

?Good,? I said, ?now show us that you appreciate our attentions.? He greedily slurped on my cock while M. built up a ferocious pace on his other hole.  After about another 15 minutes of this, M. said, ?now, about it having been awhile,? and slid out of the boy, his hole dripping with lube.  I saw M. turn around and grab the orange bag wherein we hold our dongs and other insertables.  He pulled out a blue 18? double dong, and I knew what was coming.  He lubed the dong, and began feeding it into the boy's greedy hole.  Inch upon inch disappeared into his rectum, and soon I knew it would enter his colon.  My own thick cock muffled the boys cries, until M. had fed him the whole of the long dong. 

 

?Looks like your hole is hungry this afternoon,? M. snickered, but the boy's mouth couldn't even respond with a 'Yes, Sir,' filled as it was.

 

One by one, M. continued to lube up bigger and thicker toys for the boy's awaiting hole, until at last, he arrived at our biggest: a nine-inch monster, nearly three inches in diameter.  I wasn't sure if he'd be able to take it, but M. wasn't taking any excuses.  Again he lubed it up and began to push the monster past the last remaining gates of John's sphincter.  This time, the boy's cries made it out loudly as M. pushed on past and into his rectum.  He then began an all-out assault on the boy's hole, fucking him feverishly with this monster cock.  The boy's colon wasn't stretched enough to take the toy beyond the initial five inches, and his body ran thick with tremors whenever M. hit the entrance to his colon.  He continued pounding the boy with the monster for a good fifteen minutes, and it was clear the boy was having trouble focusing on my own cock.  It started to soften in his inattentive mouth.

 

?Well, boy, if you can't stay focused...? I began, and soon he found his mouth filling with my warm piss.  ?You'll have to swallow fast boy before you drown,? and he began swallowing as fast as he could as I continued to unload the full contents of my bladder.

 

Finishing up, I backed away from the boy's mouth, and M. placed the big dong aside.  Coming around to where I sat just a moment ago, M. too pushed the head of his cock into the boy's mouth and began to relieve himself.

 

?Good,? said M., shaking the excess droplets onto the boy's face.  ?Maybe next time, you'll remain focused on both your Masters' needs.  But do not consider this a punishment, for that will come later.?

 

As I took up position at John's rear, I groped his swollen balls that hung loftily behind his chastity cage, which was dripping with the liquids M.'s ass pounding had just forced out.  I squeezed and pulled gently, but with increasing force, until his balls were nearly pulled up to his asshole.  Good, I thought: something to work toward.  But for now, I flicked around his balls, and his body jumped with each and every flick.  He moaned against the tension built up in his ? no my ? balls, for I knew his mind was beginning to wrap itself around our ownership of even this, the most sensitive of his bodily parts. 

 

?These will grow swollen, and ache for release...a release that you will have to earn,? I said, flicking his balls to add emphasis to the words.  I could see the back of his head shake in acknowledgment, as M. began to harden, thrusting himself deep into the boy's mouth.   Still holding his nuts, I plowed into his gaping hole, making him take the length of my 7 ½ inches.  His body lurched forward, as my head teased the entrance of his colon, but my vice-grip on his balls prevented him from pulling away too far.  Vigorously again, I pulled out.  And in again, and on and on, until I pulled out and shot all over and inside his gaping asshole.  M. followed suit soon after, and filled the boy's mouth.  I rubbed my semen  around his sphincter, and walking around to his front, I allowed the boy to clean my fingers and my cock with his tongue.  ?Treasure these liquids,? I said simply.

 

?Yes, Sir, Thank you, Sir!?

 

M. unclipped John from the Ottoman, and I moved to the adjacent couch, replying ?Good boy, now about that punishment...remove your blindfold and come lie across my lap.?

 

The butt plug still hung from his harness, and as he motioned to reinsert it, M. snapped, ?No, mongrel! That hole is ours now, and nothing comes out, or goes in, without our expressed permission.?

 

?I'm sorry, Sir,? he pleaded, ?it won't happen again.?

 

?You're sure as fuck it won't,? I said, gesturing for him to lie himself across my lap as directed.  He followed, and I ran my hand lightly across his cheeks.  ?Now, tell me why you deserve this punishment,? I guided.

 

As he began to speak, I slid three fingers into his rectum, feeling for his prostate.  ?Because I was inattentive to your needs,? John offered. 

 

?And...? I said, pressing hard against his swollen prostate.

 

?And I assumed to return my butt plug before commanded,? he confessed, and with that, I gave him two, firm and forceful smacks, his body jumping, my hand-print retreating slowly on each cheek.

 

?That is correct, and now I want you to repeat your reasons aloud until I tell you to stop,? and as he finished one crime, he got another wallop to his butt, and on and on he went, repeating himself another 5 times, each smack of my hand becoming more and more forceful.  Soon, his legs trembled and his voice cracked.  M., who up until this point had been watching with lustful, angry eyes, now rummaged in one of the bags of goodies.  Seeing that he retrieved the slapper, I let John continue his apologies for another five whacks, until at last I ordered, ?Stop now, that is good enough.?

 

?However,? pipped M., ?You cannot have twice the pleasure without twice the punishment.  Get up boy, and place your hands on the ottoman.?  The boy, who was cradled on the ground since I let him slip off my lap, jumped to his feet to follow M.'s lead.  ?Good! Now spread your legs wider?that's it! And stick your butt out,? which was facing in my direction, while M. circled, gently running the slapper around his balls.  M. swatted lightly at the boy's jewels, and John jumped and moaned abruptly. 

 

?Thank you, Sir!? said the boy.  ?Should I continue to recite my wrongdoings??

 

?Yes, but I want you to whisper them to yourself as I continue.?  Slowly, and deliberately, M. began to lay down long strips of white on the boy's already reddened rear.  He cried out loudly, but continued to whisper his trespasses.  After about ten strokes from M., John's legs shook violently, and I swore I saw a tear or two hit the leather surface of the ottoman.  Finishing up with another five, M. put down his slapper, and pulled the boy into a tight embrace.  I got up and joined in the embrace, while M. whispered, ?It's over...you took it well.  Your resilience gives us pride.?  We hugged for another minute, all of us basking in the warmth of each others' bodies and each others' love.

 

Pulling apart, I reached down into a nearby bag, and produced a 1-pound ball stretcher, fastening it to the boy's goods.  As soon I let them absorb the full weight of the metal weight, he moaned deeply.  ?Now, go clean the kitchen!? I said while quickly reinserting his plug and tightening the straps, ?and continue your schedule as you were provided before you arrived.  Our rewards, or punishments, await you.?

Here I'd like to share a little about my background, to all those interested enough to read about it.? For visual reference, mine is the primary photo, the shot in front of the mirror.?

First, I've always considered myself ambitious, aggressive, even a tad narcissistic.? Those qualities have proven useful to me over the years in school, work, and play.? But not always.? After all, you can't play the perpetual Dom at the office and expect underlings to stick around.? Not unless you have an office full of subs...wow, I know what my dreams will look like tonight.?

Anyway, I have an innate desire to control and lead combined with an interest in BDSM cultured very early on in my sexual life.? As most of the stories I read as a teen or even pre-teen were from the perspective of the sub, I came to misidentify with that role.? But there is no greater teacher than experience! I learned quickly that, aside from being just about the bossiest sub ever and making most doms feel like unimaginative twits, the sub role was not for me.? For one thing, I discovered in myself a sexual energy and forceful imagination that just weren't suited to anything but domination.? I know a lot of other Doms like feisty subs, but my case was entirely different, as it went way deeper than those who merely want to be broken.

Anyway, after a lot of wandering, I met Master M, and though we pursued a very vanilla relationship at first, I quickly steered our sexual hijinks down the road less traveled.? We've spent the past five years switching, which has been a great way to explore roles, learn techniques, and most importantly, have fun! In many ways, we're more best friends than lovers, and it shouldn't surprise you that we share many of those same characteristics I mentioned earlier.? That also means that neither one of us is all that interested in playing a sub for long...it just goes against our natural inclinations.? Still, that kind of play has vastly increased our shared understanding of domination and submission.? I think that there's a lot of sense in the Old Guard tradition, and in a way, we've replicated it within the confines of our own relationship, though with obviously less strict adherence than one with more immediate access to the larger BDSM community.?

~Master S.
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