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Male Dominant, 44, Binghamton, New York
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Male Submissive, 42, Cheboygan, Michigan
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Male Dominant, 50, 48120, Michigan
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About sandman000000
Most people look out at the world and see chaos. They see to many options, to many colors, to many choices. It makes them more erratic and less reliable in my opinion. I see the world in a different light. I see black, white, and sometimes i see shades of gray. To me you are either an enemy or a friend. It makes life quite a bit simpler for me.
At heart i am a provider. I enjoy providing the emotional and physical support my partner needs. I enjoy giving the pain if she craves it or drowning her in pleasure. There are very few kinks i would not indulge my little girl with, even if they were not strictly to my liking. People have kinks because it satisfies some deep need of theirs. I understand this.
My needs are fairly simple. I'm a Daddy Dom. I need my little girl. However i do not need a girl who needs to be diapered. I need a little girl who is intelligent enough to be on par with me, someone who can understand my jokes and provide some herself. I need a little girl who is independent in terms of the world outside of this lifestyle. I need to know that should i grow to love this little girl of mine that she will be ok if i pass away. Simple enough.
I am also always looking for new friends to discuss this lifestyle and other things with. To me no question is taboo. If you have questions ask them, because i know i will ask you questions should i feel the need and i will expect answers. Again simplicity itself |
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I came across this in a girls profile. It struck a chord deep within, as in my mind it expressed with words that which i could not. This is trully what i wish, and i am happy i have found a way to express it.
"Daddy/little
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girl does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants.
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Nor does it imply closet desires. In my relationship my Dom is not my
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father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to
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replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play
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specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy *s*) and our
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relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am
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always all woman, and always a very independent woman.?
He
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does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a
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very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I
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revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the
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freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.? Daddy Dom is a
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feeling, an environment that two people have created.? A Daddy Dom is
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so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he
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provides.?
So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom??
A
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Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able
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to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to
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be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become.
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He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater
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status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he
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wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he
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has created.? To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of
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love, respect, and discipline.?
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His
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love for his little girl goes without saying.? He loves her as much for
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who she is as for who she will become with his guidance.? She is his
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prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and
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he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create
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her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest
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power to hurt him.?
This love
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would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride
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in his little girl. He needs to know she can hold her own in the
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outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect
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for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it?s
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value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man
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and she chooses to be with him.?
He
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knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more
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important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the little
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girl to really trust, she must know he means what he says.? If his
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little girl is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand
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firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to
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provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.?
If
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he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing.
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If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing
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her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes
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impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be
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possessed by someone you do not respect.?
This
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takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and
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to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her
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confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out
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into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms.
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And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be
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disciplined.?
A Daddy Dom
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provides something else that is very important to his
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submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her,
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everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she
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knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it
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doesn?t matter. To him she is beautiful.?
Daddy
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Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive.? Many Daddy
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Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their
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submissive's masochism.? This balance is necessary to many little girls
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because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an
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incredibly fulfilling relationship.?
I
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think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the
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role of male authority figure in the submissive?s life and using their
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power to enrich that life. Daddy/little girl verbalizes that feeling,
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and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it?s
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participants crave.?
There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand."??
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????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? http://www.subspace.cc/daddydoms.htm
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The picture most recently added with the yin yang is a commissioned drawing of the tattoo i will be getting in the next month or so. Thank you switchmenow for doing it. Its wonderfully done and worth the price.
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Tiger,
tiger,
burning
bright??
In the forests
of the night,??
What immortal hand or eye??
Could frame
thy fearful
symmetry???
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In what
distant
deeps
or skies????????????
Burnt the fire of thine
eyes???
On what
wings
dare he aspire???
What
the hand dare seize
the fire???
And what shoulder and what
art??
Could twist the sinews of
thy heart???
And when thy heart began
to beat,??
What dread hand and what
dread feet???
What the hammer? what the
chain???
In what furnace was thy
brain???
What the anvil? What dread
grasp??
Dare its deadly terrors
clasp???
When the stars threw down
their spears,??
And water'd heaven with
their tears,??
Did He smile His work to
see???
Did He who made the lamb
make thee???
Tiger, tiger, burning bright??
In the forests of the night,??
What immortal hand or eye??
Dare frame thy fearful symmetry?
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I once knew a submissive girl. We spoke a bit and agreed to meet. We had dinner and i helped her to distribute some ads for a performance that she had an interest in. When it was over we parted ways with a hug and smile. I personally thought things went well.
It turns out she didnt believe that to be the case. because i did not dominate the entire night, make all the choices, tell her where, when, how, why, ect that she perceived me to not be a dominate. I've never understood this behavior.
As a person who was trained in submission when i first entered this lifestyle, i cant imagine meeting someone and expecting them to dominate me without me first giving the gift of my submission. Is this just a factor of the way i was taught? Do submissives really expect to he completely dominated on a first meeting? I've often wondered if i acted wrongly, but for me, Domination cant happen unless first submission is given.
As the Dominant i have become, often look back at my teachings from the first and only Mistress i ever had. She was an old style Domme. Very formal and more interested in the mental and emotional aspects rather then the physical. Those teachings have be a bit out of sort when dealing with some of the submissive's today. My first Mistress drilled into me etiquett. This was further reinforced by my southern upbringing. Manners are important to me. The way a women should be treated is important to me. I suppose those two factors are partially why i became a Daddy Dom. It just seemed to fit my personality so well. So if your one of those subbys that cant handle a friend, a person who will respect you even as he flogs you, who will care for you even as he spanks you, then obviously your not for me. I would advise you to seriously think about self image. If you dont expect respect and courtesy, why should you get it?
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