SaintAlia


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	About SaintAlia [I'm transgender. Collarspace has no official location to enter that information except for in place of gender, which isn't how any of this works.] My name is Alia. I'm a 31 year old woman. Primary interest and experience is and has been with women, but I do consider myself bisexual. I've had Dommes and I've had subs and slaves. My long-term girlfriend and I may begin looking for our third some time in the near future, but for the moment I'm mainly here for friends and the occasional flirt. My interest and taste is varied, in both life and the kink scene. There's little I won't try at least once, and little I've tried I didn't enjoy. While we both switch with each other, my attitude toward anyone I don't explicitly trust will not necessarily be some sort of automatic subby trigger mechanism. I view people as people first, and dom/domme, sub, slave, top, or bottom second. I'm a layered person, with a huge capacity for care, love, and strength, and I respond to different people different ways, as I'm sure most of us do. How I carry myself is often a reflection in one way or another of the energy of the dynamic I feel with the person I'm talking to. If you have an open mind, a touch of patience, and a sense of humor, try me. Anyone can feel free to message me. I'm quite open and talkative, and plenty engaging to anyone with the time, respect, and interest to have a chat!

Banned from chat... for mentioning how im not sure collarspace is a safe place for trans folk. In the banning message I was told to "find a space that's safe for everyone."

Fun fact... there are things about me that *aren't* about being trans. Odd... I know.

Maybe one day I'll get a message from someone who asks "Hey, what's the last good book you read?" or "What's your favorite sex toy?"

Unlikely though...

I'm not your cd fetish. Your fetish is fine, but don't correlate your dressing up to get off with what I do to go to work.

Really like, I shouldn't have to say it... treat me a person please?

My name is not "tran."

Don't call me "a transgender" like it's its own special thing in totality.

Neither of those are even things, by themselves. At the very least, it's HORRIBLE grammar, which is inexcusable anyway, and at the worst it boils my entire existence down to half of part of one ect of who I am.

Seriously... I shouldn't have to explain that.

**A note on being transgender**
As the first words of my profile state, I am transgender. No, I don't have it listed on the top of my profile. That isn't due to "hiding," as I have no desire or need to hide. But Collarspace is set up such that the only way to list trans on your profile is in the drop down for gender. Transgender is *not* a third gender. If I have to explain this, you probably want to be on another profile.

In case you do need an explanation and are not ready to click away yet:
Trans is an adjective. It describes, in one small way, what TYPE of person I am. One could say that they're a "learned man," or an "educated woman." It's perfectly reasonable for someone to identify themselves as "an Italian woman," or "gamer girl." People say they're, "a gay man," a "a girly girl," and any of a million other qualifiers. All these words describe one element of who that person is. They are add-ons. One doesn't negate another, and none supplant the core elements of who you are.

I'm a gamer girl, a bisexual woman, talkative, inquisitive, an educated woman, and trans. Being bi, intelligent, chatty, or trans do not impact how much of a woman I am or replace my gender. They're just words that give you a bit more info about who I am.

Glad we cleared that up. ;-)

~Alia

So as an explanation for anyone who recently viewed me and is checking back, I changed my profile around a bit. Things may look a bit different, and I wanted to briefly explain the shift. Nothing changed, in reality, but when I first set up this profile I was essentially cloning my original profile from back before my transition. Lots has happened since then, obviously. Haven't edited it much in the interim, but now that my girlfriend and I are considering poking around for a third, I figured I should make my profile reflect more of who I am and what I'm looking for at the moment.

Yes, I'm switch. It's kind of a silly word, but whatever. Everyone has their own connotations for it, and I won't attempt to change them. What I'll simply say is what I mean when I say it. I'm complex. I do not view the world one way at all times, nor do I view all people the same way. I'm very attuned to energy and attitude. This doesn't mean I will be submissive to all dominants or dominant to all submissives. Anyone expecting a cookie-cutter response from will be as disappointed by my response as I am with their expectation.

Read me as I am, not as I "should be." Trust me, you will know which way I lean with you. While I'm not *looking* for anyone at the moment, I'm not all that interested in other switches, romantically. I already have one, and the shifting dynamics are quite enough as it is. That being said, I'll talk or even flirt with anyone, given some core basic elements of effort and humanity.

I needed my profile to reflect this. Thank you for your time. :-)

~Alia

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