I am in search of a woman who considers D/s the cherry on top of an otherwise fulfilling and full life. One who on occasion enjoys submission as a diversion, an escape from her vanilla life, not a substitute, but wants this experience to be with a man who she has developed a lasting and meaningful relationship with. This woman will most likely be married, or one who understands that in life one cannot always get everything they need, both vanilla and D/s, from a single relationship.

The sub that I seek is strong, successful, and responsible in the vanilla world, highly goal oriented and of course thrives on pleasing. I am not interested in lost causes where this lifestyle is their only hope, I am looking for a woman who is confident in who she is and knows what she wants, even if she is unsure about how to go about finding it. My D/s life and my vanilla life do not intersect, I am in search of a woman who keeps these in parallel also.

I am a man who you would probably not pick from the crowd as having interest in the D/s lifestyle. I am quite conservative in the vanilla world. I am considered successful by most people’s traditional measures and have many and varied interests outside of the D/s lifestyle. I have experience as a Dom, but not so much that I wouldn’t be thrilled to work with a novice.

For me, a Dom/sub relationship is too private, too intense and too special to be shared with others. It is tainted by the judgment of others and is best satisfied in a vacuum, two people reaching a deeply trusting, intimate and loving place together.