Ppl rifle through things, so here's the sample (read on after if your interest is peaked to get a more indepth description)

2 Sides: saddistic and sweet

even when 'not in control during play' I still need to be the one with the ultimate say

no cyber/feminizing/domns/gorean/smokers/and ONLY ppl in their 20's(exception: compliments w/o vulgarity, information transfer)

I'm saddistic(with permission of course)...if I can puncture with a needle or run one of my weapons across your flesh that would be wonderful. If I can tie you up to my bed/coffee table/doorway/stairs, cover you with bags of ice just to remove them and throw hot wax on you...that would be fantastic. If I can just tie your leg and give you some rope from my bed for a couple of hours/day long enough for you to go to the washroom and do some cleaning and have some food ready for me when I get home -- that would be just great. If I can tell you not to watch certain movies, not to use the internet or the phone and to stay in and you were actually obediant enough to listen--well that would be super :) If I could lead you in to a play party on a collar and leash (perhaps on all fours...but most likely standing) with a face mask if I so desire that would be cool. If I could use little 20gauge needles and thread and sew a little design in your back while you sit there at a play party that would be great. If you would be willing to act as chauffer to me, massage my sore aching back when required that would be fantastic. If I could appoint you as dom for an hour out of the day and throw you some rope and a whip or paddle and you could take the reins that would be great. If I could tell you to call me dirty things and pull my hair and whip me and pour wax and use icecubes on me and fist me and the like while still being very cautious as to make sure I'm enjoying every second and ready to stop at any moment with a safe word that would be amazing.

I know I sounded more dom there, in a lot of ways I am, but just like the next person I love to be put at times in a situation of 'helplessness' i suppose in my case 'controlled helplessness' would be a better word and it has to be with someone I am comfortable with. I like to be tyed down also...no reason I should do ALL of the work and be the sole creative mind in the process. I enjoy an individual who, like me, is always seeking the betterment of both of us and is willing to read/search out information to use in the play time. I need someone who is patient as things are always akward (generally) between two people who do not know exactly how eachothers specific bodies work/react...I need someone who will treat me with a high degree of consideration and respect. I may humiliate you a LITTLE bit, but I'm not big into the idea and if I am doing it too much (I highly doubt that, I am pretty considerate) I only need it pointed out and I will be apologizing profusely I'm sure (can't think of when I've ever done that..but everyone messes up). I am not into feminizing men...had a couple partners who did that a little and it did nothing for me (so if you want to be feminized, have a pantyhose fetish, want to be humiliated...best to move along). Also I DO NOT do CYBER. Maybe once a year will I try it...and I've never gone any further than short sexual dialogue exchange between a person that I was entering into a monogomous relationship with, so don't even GO THERE okay.

Hmmm...what else? what else?

I'm looking for someone in their twenties...the closer to my age the better.

If you are 30, do not EXPECT a response...depends on your content of your message. If you are bringing to the table an interesting thing to talk about/reflect on or some pointers on how to make cool devices, safety proceedures, cleaning proceedures for play, cool suggestions for locations, invites to play parties and the like, that is cool. If you, in any way-shape-or form, show interest in something more than a pure information exchange (namely a play set up) then I will just skip over you completely...I'm not interested and do not feel bad for not responding bcs I have explicetly put here that I wouldn't.

Compliments are always nice, if you send me one, I will try to look at your profile and if anything jumps out at me that strikes me as compliment worthy I will send one back -- this DOES not mean that I am trying to pick you up (plz do not get yourself confused).

Oh and I am straight...but just because of that does not mean that I will delete your message without reading it...afterall I am looking for info exchange/friends and a compliment regardless of whether it is from someone that has a possibility of a sexual future with me or not is still a compliment. I have had no problems with women messaging me...they have always been very kind and I thank you.

On that topic, a compliment is not (well not a respectful, non degrading one) "I would like to cum on your tits", I feel embarrassed just to type that...you guys should be embarrased to. Such vulgarity with either get you a very negative response or no response at all. Plz, such horrid language is a disgrace to civilization in general...how....degrading.

I am not some object...on that note too...I would entertain the idea of having a slave/sub, but I will never bow down to ANYONE...so if you are a domn looking for a partner...DO NOT MESSAGE ME!!!!

i love men who dance to alternative/heavier music and ravers aswell, i love men who dress in 'baggy attire' with an element of cyber/rave/goth/punk to them, i love to play scrabble and watch anime with someone, i guess in a way you could say i'm trying to fill the vacant holes now in my life. i love to drive to toronto, london, hamilton etc to go to concerts and alternative clubs aswell as fetish events and require company. i have always been curious about having a couple of slaves aswell to live with me who both had a slight bi tendancy so that perhaps the three of us (two guys and myself) could also be together on a more sexual level and not just slave/mistress only. i am not a huge 'sex' person though i do enjoy it at times, i had managed to make 23yrs before losing it to my now ex so obviously i do not require it, but love a LOT of foreplay. whipping people, piercing people, tying people up, etc. etc. are all very fun to me and i enjoy the flair of dressing up for the session. i am a kind person, just saddistic when playing but otherwise i am very passive and in that sense fragile. so switch men are good for me to as i enjoy to be dominated aswell too...but never emotionally...nor do i dominate the other emotionally...my ex i feel was a bit dominating that way and that was very rough on my...i need a person who will hug me when i cry and protect me, but not a dominant person because i do not want to be controlled, i am a free spirit.

not sure what else to say, feel almost strange writing all this stuff but you'll never get what you want if you never make out a lifeline to try to get it.

also, i do not smoke cigarettes so please no smokers, i enjoy working out/being active so please be in some sort of shape, i like 'younger looking' guys so please be in your 20s...umm...and if you're heavy into drugs probably not a good idea...