Some common themes are reoccurring so I am going to touch on them, if I said it before, obviously no one saw it the first time so I'll repeat it.
First, I am not into white men, I don't know how often I must say this. To the white guys who insist on sending me negative comments, perhaps YOU might be the reason I am not interested and not all white men are fools but you are forming a stereotype type for your peers so think about it. My reasons are very personal, so for those who ask why I am interested in black men, there you have it. It's personal and if I get to know you I might share the reason. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with size. Which leads me on to my next topic.
I really do not care to see your junk. If you expose yourself on your profile, that is your personal choice. I can not speak for other women because there are some who probably enjoy looking. IMO if you are determining your worth by your penis size, you are really objectifying yourself and are merely a penis. I am not impressed.
Speaking of impressing, I am not impressed by those who speak of Old Guard because when asked most have no idea what it is. If you were mentored by Master So and So that's fine but I never know the person you speak of so why would I be impressed by that.
I also dislike cliques; the Dominant's Creed is one of them. You did not write it yet many claim to live by it. I like those that can think for themselves and not try to live up to some standard set by someone else. Other things that are truly annoying are those who claim to protect their submissive. What are you protecting her from? Herself? If that is the case, advise her to call her local mental health center, because if you believe in the 'standards' set forth in this lifestyle what about SSC one of those S's stands for SANE. Other annoyances, are those who feel a submissive needs to be taken care of. There are those who might however, am not seeking a white knight. I am very independent. I have a career, am my own financial planner and I even do my own taxes. I can cook, I keep things neat and tidy, and I vote.
I am NOT looking to join a Poly family. I am not opposed to them, but, I do not will not take orders from another female, and honestly some men are lead by their women. If that is your thing, that is fine but I really find it sort of distasteful. Also there is the jealousy issue. All people possess the green-eyed monster, it comes from insecurities with in. We all have them. Some women are skilled at masking their jealousy, and I am not talking about stuffing it, but displaying it in a way that it doesn't appear they are jealous at all. Many men are fooled by this, but women know because we are masters at the game. I'd rather just avoid the whole thing. As a side note, if I am jealous, I'll simply say it. If I feel insecure, I'll say it. Releasing it is far more productive than holding it in or playing some sort of mental mind game.
I live in the hood. I enjoy it here. There is beauty in everything if one looks for it. Here the people are very friendly. I am not sure why but the black folks in my community are mostly very outgoing and speak to those they encounter. I feel very welcomed here. I also enjoy my travels through my neighborhood. Most people are appalled by the boarded up houses and slow decay and yes that is depressing but I love looking at old buildings with wonderment of who occupied the dwelling and how it must has looked back in the day. It makes my walks more enjoyable to occupy my mind with, 'if those building could only talk.'
Onwards, fakes. Fake is very subjective. I have my own definitions and they may not be your personal definition. If you want to call me a fake, shrugs. I am called worse on a daily basis at my job and it rolls. True and real, I have no idea what true and real are. So am I true and real, to most probably not but who cares, I am not here to impress the masses. I am here to find ONE.
Topping from the bottom an over used expression that's is defined differently by different people. So when I am accused of it, I laugh because I simply can not get away from it. IMO, it's a manipulation. Saying no, is not manipulation. Having a mind and being able to think is not manipulation. IMO, true topping from the bottom is extremely difficult to see. And those that accuse are either not aware of what it is or are doing their own topping (if it's a submissive who is accusing.)
Red flags, I always get this mental picture of someone waving flags like at the start of a race. I never see red flag, I just see it as someone I would not be compatible with. Red is so negative. Occasionally, I will detect that I am not compatible but hang for a bit, just to be sure. It's not a bad thing, so I wasted a little bit of time, shrugs. What do we really have but time. I just move forward and when I move forward I never worry about what I may have lost. I hate that when people say, "Your loss." How on earth do you know it's my loss? If it is so not going to work for me, how is it a loss? IMO, saying it's your loss is a persons way of making themselves feel comforted by rejection. If that works for you, fine. But trust me, I am not loosing any sleep over it. I am very patient and content in my life right now. I am merely seeking to share my content part of the universe.
Limits. If I had a dollar for every time I am asked for them, I could stop working. As you get to know me you will discover my likes and dislikes. But simply put, I don't enjoy doing immoral things or things that will damage me physically or mentally. I avoid stress and refuse to be put in any type of situation that will cause me extreme stress. For example, if your occupation is selling drugs, that would cause me extreme stress, not because I am worried about you going to jail, I'd worry about me going to jail. If you want a lavish lifestyle and are not willing to work for it, that would cause me stress, sorry we can't eat your 'bling'. I also refuse to be called names that are degrading. I get called all sorts of names on my job, but it's because the people I deal with are frustrated and I am their board plus I get paid for it.
Pictures of toy collections: Why do they nearly always include objects used for insertion? Does the Dom use them on himself? Or does he recycle? Okay I know the stuff is expensive but, no I am not into recycled toys and no I really don't want to insert things into you. Sorry and if you tell me they were never used, unless they are still in the store wrapper, there it is; the first hard limit.
Lastly, for those who don't get my refusal to label myself, I am not submissive to all. If there is chemistry, it can happen and as my emotions increase so does my submission. I can become extremely submissive to the right person but I tend to hold back because I can become very vulnerable. However the fact that I may be vulnerable, does not mean I loose my common sense. I have a built in trigger, that can totally was away those feelings. I am a seasoned submissive. I have made every mistake in the book and I won't be taken advantage of. I can be the greatest submissive you have ever experienced, but I have a rough exterior and my tongue can expresses my bitterness. And if you think I am comparing you to someone else who dumped on me in the past, I am not I am just going into a protective mode. If you can not understand that, I suggest you get a back bone. It takes wide shoulders to be a Dominant and if you can't handle human nature you have no business taking on the responsibility.
