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{Insert Rant Here}
I surf a lof of profiles,as they make good reading, both women and mens, and i have came to notice something...
People jump into a collaring way to quickly, without really knowing much about each other, which not only results in the relationship failing (usually within 3-6 months), but also cheapens the ideals behind a collar.
Some of you collar for role play, personally, I see a collar as MUCH more...and if I must explain what that is, then you and I do not share ,even remotely, the same views about what "collaring" really is.
I know, to each their own, but here are a few pieces of advice, take them or leave them, to both icrease the probability that you will find your true master, your true slave, your true dominant, or your true submissive.....and to honor the meaning of a collar...instead of cheapening it by being collared 5 times a year by misc. individuals.
Piece of advice #1)
Spend some time getting to know the individual BEFORE anything else. Let's face it, if you can't spend an hour talking to them without the conversation revolving back to sex...then THAT is all your relationship will EVER be, you have been warned, so when the shiny wears off the relationship, don't be crying because it ended. Sex and associated activities, merely are an ENHANCEMENT to a relationship, and do not make a good FOUNDATION for one.
Piece of advice #2)
QUIT SUBMITTING/DEMANDING SUBMISSION UNTIL YOU HAVE FOLLOWED ADVICE #1.....Again, I submit, if your relationship is based upon sex, as soon as the newsness is gone...one of you will be too. A solid D/s relationship must have more substance than what you can do with a rope or in the sack...If that is all you are offering someone...they are better off without you unless they are just seeking play partners.
Piece of advice #3)
Be honest, with each other, and most of all...YOURSELF. Playing is playing, relationships are relationships, the two are neither mutually inclusive, or exclusive, they are what YOU make them...what YOU require out of it. Playing someone along, on either side of the fence, is only destructive. For example, do not tell someone it is merely play, while secretly you pine away in their absence, conversely, do not profess your love for them if it is merely lust....Call an apple an apple, and an orange an orange.
Piece of advice #4)
Yes, you very well may be a Dominant individual, but if you have to include "Master" in your username...you are trying to convince yourself, or inflate your own ego...Dominant is a state of being, not a self titled moniker. So how about laying off the rediculous usernames that you try to use to force everyone to include master or lord when speaking to you... I will refer to no one as master anything because of their name...If i refer to someone as Master whatever, it is not because THEY want me to, it is because i truly consider them to be a Master of something, if it is only of themselves (that, after all, is the FIRST thing one must master...themself)....whether it is your username or not, so do not be upset when your name is MasterJoe, and you only get Joe out of me.You want to be called Master...EARN it.
Hope you enjoyed my little rant, and I do hope that at least one person learned something from it, or found something in it to be sound advice, but I also hope that someone took offense at it...because they are EXACTLY the ones who need to read something like this.
I am not perfect, FAR FAR from it...but I admit my shortcomings, as they are MY shortcomings...and everyone else should be mature and self confident to admit theirs.
Piece of advice #5)
AVOID THOSE OFFERING TO "TRAIN" YOU...These "masters" have no intention of training you in anything except how to fall for their bullshit and give them what they want.
Personally, I (and many others I have spoken with) DO NOT want a sub "trained" by ANYONE else, because after those MORONS are finished ruining your perspective of this lifestyle, anyone engaging you after the aforementioned MORON trainer, will have to RETRAIN you in a manner more consistent with their own views....
NO THANKS..I will train my own.
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