rwaldo

I’m an American, currently living and working in Japan. I’m divorced, and still close to my ex-wife. I still have to take care of her and my youngest daughter financially—that’s why I’m working in Japan. As a teacher, I can earn more here than I could in most countries, including the U.S. I’ve been a teacher—or supervisor of teachers—for over twenty-five years, and believe me, I’m tired of it and would love to find some other way to earn a living.

I would like to find a dominant woman with whom I could have a long-term, even permanent relationship. Obviously, not many people would be willing to come to Japan, but if there were some way that I could find work—any kind of work—elsewhere, I would be willing to move. These are real-world constraints.

At two different times in the past, I have taken female hormones; once off and on for about a year, and another time for several months. Though to look at me, you would think that I am a masculine man, I do have semi-developed breasts, which are hidden when I wear a loose shirt.

Another result of the hormones is temporary “chemical castration”. Only temporary. However, if I became involved in a woman who wanted to continue the process of feminizing me, I would be willing (again, if I could somehow find work). On the other hand, this is not something that I feel I need to do.

I am a very oral person and have a lot of experience in giving oral sex and analingua—both of which I really enjoy. I like the physical sensation, and I like the feeling of giving pleasure.

I also have some experience in being penetrated by a dildo—which I find pleasurable and exciting. Whether feminized or not, I would prefer to play the submissive role in a relationship in the future.

I have no experience with the bathroom aspect of bdsm, but would be willing to learn, to be trained. Again, I’m only expressing my willingness—it’s not something I would need in a relationship.

Frankly, I am not attracted by pain; I would not like to be cut, burned, or to have needles used on me. Something milder—with no breaking of the skin—I could probably learn to accept if it gave pleasure to my partner.

The same is true of homosexuality: despite my interest in being feminized, I am not attracted to men. However, if it pleased my partner for me to be so engaged—as long as it was safe—I would be willing.

Finally, honesty compels me to mention that I have a curvature of the spine (so I would make a really ugly transvestite or transgender); I have also suffered from asthma all my life, and this would limit to some degree the activities I could engage in.

Please forgive my dry writing style; I’ve been an academic too long.