Rover

• It makes no difference to me that you're "horny all the time". I use what I own whenever I desire, horny or not.
  


• Being a "slut" does not make you submissive, it just makes you promiscuous.
  


• Needing to get "laid" does not make you a submissive, it just makes you sexually unfulfilled.
  


• Being "kinky" does not make you submissive, it just makes you more sexually adventurous than the "average" vanilla.
  


• "Needing a spanking" (or any other type of sensation play) does not make you a submissive, it makes you a bottom (not that there's anything wrong with being a bottom).
  


• Being a "brat" does not make you a submissive, it just makes you either the product of poor parenting or someone who thinks they can manipulate their Dominant (read: topping from the bottom).
  


• Wanting to be "kept chained in the basement 24/7" does not make you a submissive, it just makes you either deeply psychologically disturbed or so new that you don't yet understand that great fantasies sometimes make for crappy realities. Of course, it might just mean that you're online to enjoy a cyber fantasy (wouldn't that be unheard of).
  


• Exposing your genitalia online or via email doesn't make you a submissive, it just makes you an exhibitionist (not that I'm above peeking every now and then).
  


• Control that's restricted to the bedroom does not constitute a power exchange relationship, nor make you a submissive. It's role play (not that there's anything wrong with role play).
  


• I couldn't care less what your favorite "play" activities are (so long as they are within my limits). They're not what constitute a compatible relationship. It makes no difference to me if your fetish is to be smeared head to toe in guacamole, so long as I control the smearing (read: I'm a Dominant, and my "pleasure" is the control).
  


• If you think you have no limits or rights, then you're either too inexperienced to safely consider a power exchange relationship, or you're not in touch with reality. In either case, those are your issues, not mine. Deal with them first before even thinking about a relationship with me.
  


• No one can "make you submit" (amongst other reasons, that would be nonconsensual). The best that any Dominant can do is to create an environment in which you desire to submit.
  


• I have no desire whatsoever to engage in a power struggle. You'll either submit willingly, or find someone else with whom you can argue.
  


• Your profile pictures that are hijacked from magazines and websites aren't fooling anyone.... except those that want to be fooled (ie: they're pretending to be someone they're not, just like you are).
  


• It's intellectually dishonest (read: you're lying) to claim a lengthy and intimate involvement in the lifestyle, and be unable to provide references from legitimate lifestyle organizations.
  


• Thinking or fantasizing about being in a power exchange relationship is not the same as living one.
  


• Erotic novels and the internet are not suitable preparation for living a real time power exchange relationship.
  


• Being a jerk doesn't make someone Dominant, it just makes them a jerk. There's nothing incompatible about being a Dominant and being courteous and well mannered.
  


• What value is there in "submission" that's offered to everyone? It's about as valuable to me as junk mail (and I dispose of it in the same manner).
  


• Just because you offer me your submission does not mean that I will (or should) accept it. If we're not compatible, there's no use trying to fit a square peg into a round hole (though the thought does have some appeal for scening purposes).
  


• If you're a dolt, then devoting six months of training to you will make you... a dolt with six months of wasted training.
  


• If your husband or boyfriend can't trust you not to screw around behind their back, what in the world makes you think that I would? (open relationships excepted).

I'm an experienced lifestyle Dominant of some minor note within the community, seeking a lasting relationship with a lifestyle submissive (in other words, be prepared to submit and serve).

I'm single, never married, and have no children. I'm well rounded and multi-faceted with a wide variety of interests and pursuits beyond BDSM. I enjoy sports, music, travel, concerts, museums, history, cultural events, close friends and family, and a plethora of social events. Being a Dominant may describe my relationship dynamics, but it does not mean that my life revolves exclusively around the lifestyle.

I'm a "good boy" in every outward appearance... though appearances can be deceiving. Similarly, I seek a "good girl" who wishes to cultivate and refine her private "bad girl" qualities. I possess an enthusiasm for the power exchange in all its forms and expressions.

I'm an active member in my local lifestyle community and attend and/or present (on topics related to power exchange relationships) at events locally, regionally and nationally. I'm a member of the Leather Archives & Museum, the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), Pittsburgh Leather Archives for Newcomers (PLAN), and write for "The Dominant's View" (www.thedomsview.com). My references are exceptional.

Prior experience in a power exchange relationship is not required. I will train to suit both our needs. I am NOT interested in casual sex or a discreet relationship. Don't ask me to meet you to fulfill some lifelong fantasy, or as some sort of occasional diversion from your husband or boyfriend. All such requests will be ignored. Though I invite you to inquire further about my personal version of the lifestyle. I'll be happy to share.

My compatible partner will be:

• 1. Single and unattached.
  


• 2. Open, honest and trustworthy.
  


• 3. Intelligent, strong, independent and understand that these qualities are perfectly compatible with submission in a power exchange relationship.
  


• 4. Slim, attractive, and able to provide a recent casual photograph.
  


• 5. Seeking a stable, long-term 24/7 power exchange relationship and be open to the possibility of both marriage and family.
  


• 6. Comfortable in a wide variety of social and lifestyle settings.
  


• 7. In possession of a wit and charm to match my own.
  


• 8. A resident of (or be willing to relocate to) the Pittsburgh, PA area.
  


• 9. Willing and able to dedicate the time necessary to forge a lasting relationship.
  


• 10. Understand the difference between fantasy and reality.
  


• 11. Have high expectations of her self, and of me.
  


• 12. Desirous of a relationship and Master to challenge her to grow and evolve.
  

Please do NOT contact me if:

• 1. You are seeking role play, fantasy fulfillment or a diversion from your marriage or current relationship.
  


• 2. You do not understand the difference between a 24/7 power exchange relationship and a 24/7 scene.
  


• 3. You require micro management of your daily activities.
  


• 4. You are seeking an exclusively domestic service-oriented relationship (I already have a cleaning lady and have other, more valuable, ways in which you will serve me).
  


• 5. You are seeking training without commitment.
  


• 6. You are seeking an email or online relationship.
  


• 7. You are unable to function as a normal adult.
  


• 8. You have unresolved baggage from prior relationships.
  


• 9. You think that anyone (including me) can "tell" you what you want or need in a partner or relationship dynamic.