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Male Dominant, 39, columbus, Ohio
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Male Submissive, 21, Temperance, Michigan
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About ronin4now
THE INVITATION
Mountaindreaming, from the book The Invitation published by Harper SanFransico, 1999 All rights reserved
It doesnt interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.
It doesnt interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love for your dream for the adventure of being alive.
It doesnt interest me what planets are squaring your moon...I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow if you have been opened by lifes betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain. I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful to be realistic to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesnt interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, Yes.
It doesnt interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesnt interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesnt interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.
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I think I can: Exhibit B:
I think I can…tell from just a sentence whether or not I want to take the time to even open your message.
Exhibit B:
Hello sub on you’re knees your Dom is here.
OMFG!!!! Where do I even start with this one?
Honestly I think I notice the grammar first. This is typically forgivable, one too many edibles or sips or using your phone and auto-correct Dom’s you…lots of reasons for this to happen.
Next, my brain actually realizes what it’s read…grammar hick-ups subsiding…and screams WTF! Really? And I start laughing. Genuine, fully belly laughter and again I think; Thank you!
Frankly, I am not a door mat. Submission is not about being a door mat; dominance is not about owning a rug. If your thing is to collect rugs or get a new rug every week because you’re too lazy to take care of it and prefer to just toss it in the trash and replace it…good for you and Thank you for not stealing another second of my time.
Need I say more? *g*
*If anyone has honest, genuine positive perspectives they can share with me about this statement please, please do share with me. I want to understand so I can stop feeling hypocritical and judgmental myself. * |
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I think I can…Exhibit A
I think I can…tell from just a sentence whether or not I want to take the time to even open your message.
Exhibit A:
Tattoos and Piercings Ewwww.
If you state this, the first thing I think is THANK YOU. You’ve saved me precious minutes of my life reading a syllable further. What kind of person says this? I can’t think of one positive characteristic this perspective imbues. I naturally can think of too many negatives to list; judgmental, close-minded, small minded and more.
Yes I understand everyone has their kinks, twists, turn ons and turn offs. Yes, perhaps you make this statement because it’s a sincere expression of who you are; I respect that and again think: Thank you with a tidge of pity. If you can’t over look something this minuscule in the grand perspective of human beings…I simply feel pity.
*If anyone has honest, genuine positive perspectives they can share with me about this statement please, please do share with me. I want to understand so I can stop feeling hypocritical and judgmental myself. * |
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To save us all some valuable time I have answered a few questions below in a rather generic fashion in no particular order:
What are you looking for?
In the moment right now I am looking for attention, good conversation, smiles, laughter and intelligence.
Down the road I hope to find: Friendship, D/s and eventually M/s.
I seek the exchange of power, the passion and desire that can only be found in such realms. All the 'sexual' toys and tools are nothing but vanilla implements if the Dynamics are not present. :) And when they are oh how much more pleasurable & painful they can be. :P
The Invitation is in my journal here because it truly resonates with me.
What are you seeking in a Dom/Master?
Huge question…grins. Everything???
Hmm I think diversity would be a must. A man whom is capable of loving, cherishing and respecting his sub/slave and yet at the same time not faltering in guidance, discipline and position. Someone who is secure enough to be able to laugh, cry or be embarrassed with me.
Someone who is not ‘soul searching’ to figure out if they are ‘truly’ Dom or maybe switch or ??? lol. They would need to be skilled, kinky, edgy & sadistic even at times as well as gentle, caring and loving.
One who listens not out of obligation but out of sincere interest.
Some one who takes care of themselves and is clean. If a Dom/Master can’t manage these two things what on earth makes them think they can manage a slave.
One who is ignited by the M/s exchange and feels his balls tighten and his cock harden when contemplating his property. Please don't pretend to be Dom to get laid or get off...that is pathetic. (Need to phrase this more eloquently and clearly?)
One who has the ability to actually surprise me in positive ways? I cannot remember the last time I could not read someone I was with; I just knew where they were heading or what they were expecting. Sounds crazy...but I want someone who is as insightful, creative and in tune as I...therefore able to outwit me sometimes...:)
Fantasy-land: would include a Billionaire with the desire to create a workshop for his girl to create endless toys, furniture and tools for the M/s realm OR a wonderful space for a girl to write 'sensational' erotic stories of d/s, M/s and MORE...:D
He would live on a secluded piece of property with water of some sort running through it or on it. We would be surrounded by nature and free to explore endless possibilities together.
He would love me unconditionally for all eternity and find every part of me seductive, beautiful and desirable. OH and I almost forgot, he could read my mind too. (Only of course when I wanted him to???? Lol) |
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He who wishes to be obeyed must know how to command. -Niccolo Machiavelli |
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"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder "
~David Henry Thoreau~ |
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Ever feel like you just want someone to talk to about the good stuff with out all the stress and pressure of wondering if the person you are talking to "fits" the perfect image of what you are seeking?
You know, gab about the real stuff. Day to day M/s, D/s, ups and downs...just share thoughts with someone who "gets" it.
Tough to stumble upon folks who know some of the what the dynamics can bring, understand the maturity required, the communication necessary as well as the mental, physical and spiritual peace that can only be found within such realms.
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10 Ways to make your Submissive feel owned
Stolen from Facebook but ever so true
10 Ways to make your Submissive feel owned.
1. Challenge them.
Don't be lazy when giving tasks. Give them a task that allows them to impress you. If you tell them to wear a certain color of panties/underpants, you are giving them a very closed task. It's either failed or succeeded.
Be creative and they will be.
2. Think about them.
As a Submissive they will ideally think of you a lot. Return the favor. Message them when you miss them. Remember important things for them. You may care, but you have to make them feel like you care.
3. Listen to them.
Be open to their suggestions, their issues, the things they wish to talk about. Often when someone tells you of a problem, they know you can't provide a solution... They merely want a listening ear, so provide it.
4. Have fun with them outside of kink.
Watch a movie with them, joke with them, flirt. Dare to be silly and be open to just stepping outside the little comfort zone that is kink. They aren't just your plaything, and they deserve to be more.
5. Be honest.
If something dissatisfies you about them, tell them. Don't be rude, don't be mean, but let them know. Nothing's worse than feeling something is wrong and not knowing what. At least give them the chance to improve on it, if you cannot ignore it.
6. Communicate.
Communication is so vital. I know it pretty much what I said in the past few points, but it deserves one on its own. Don't just mindlessly churn out tasks, don't just play. Be a friend to them.
7. Don't turn your back on them.
It's not all sunshine and rainbows in any relationships. Things may go shitty in their life, or they may go shitty in your life. If they ask for your help, at the very least, make sure you are there to listen how you can help and if you can help.
8. Give rules and guidelines.
When you aren't around leave specific instruction on what to do and when; Then in spite of your absence they will still feel like they are pleasing you.
9. Be trustworthy.
Nothing makes you feel less of a person than being lied to. You are their owner, you are responsible for them. If you don't make yourself worthy of that right, it's not ending well.
10. Work on it!
Seriously. Don't be lazy. Don't slack off. How would you treat them if they did? You have expectations, but you also have duties and if you don't fulfill those duties you will sooner or later lose them to someone who will.
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Ronin:
wikipedia defines as:
The word ronin literally means "drifting person". The term originated in the Nara and Heian periods, when it referred to a serf who had fled or deserted his master's land. It then came to be used for a samurai who had lost his master.
I have researched the word ronin. I am aware of many different definitons and historys for it.
I find the handle quite informative and do not take the word in the absolute sense of the many definitions out there.
I like to simply look at it like a masterless slave, although he is not present in my world yet I diligently continue to hold to my beliefs, and strive to attain worthiness to present one day.
Please enjoy your journeys,
~ronin~ |
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Desiderata
-- written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s --
Not "Found in Old St. Paul's Church"! -- see below
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.
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Express yourself completely, then become quiet........... Open yourself to heaven and earth, then trust your natural responses; and everything will fall into place. ~Lao Tsu
Marquis DeSade~
"There are thorns everywhere, but along the path of vice, roses bloom above them."
"When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it"
- Henry Ford-
Life
There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.
- from the film, Don Juan DeMarco-
Someone
"We wait all these years to find someone who understands us, I thought, someone who accepts us as we are, someone with a wizard's power to melt stone to sunlight, who can bring us happiness in spite of trials, who can face our dragons in the night, who can transform us into the soul we choose to be. Just yesterday I found that magical someone is the face we see in the mirror: It's us and our homemade masks."
~ Richard Bach~
In Elementary school my teacher went around the classroom and asked each student what they wanted to be when they grew up. When she got to me, I told her I wanted to be happy. She told me I was missing the whole point of the question. I told her she was missing the whole point of life. ~ From the Daily Buddha~
You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.
- Kahlil Gibran-
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
~Marianne Williamson~
“There are two kinds of strengths: the strength to lead and the strength to follow: the strength to control and the strength to yield. There are two kinds of power: the power to strip another's soul bare, and the power to stand naked." Yaldah Tovah
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Two Wolves
A Cherokee Legend
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego." He continued, "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
Here is the same story, but it is called "Grandfather Tells" which is also known as "The Wolves Within"
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, "Let me tell you a story.
I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do.
But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times." He continued, "It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.
But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger,for his anger will change nothing.
Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eyes and asked, "Which one wins, Grandfather?"
The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, "The one I feed." |
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ronin = A smile that makes the sun seem to be but a mere candle and warmth that no heat wave could match with a gentleness as soothing as silk to bare flesh. Eyes that pierce the soul and yet make you want to tell her everything, and flowing hair that the wind can't help but run its fingers through. |
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The Invitation
It doesn?t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart?s longing.
It doesn?t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn?t interest me what planets are squaring your moon...
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by life?s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn?t interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithful
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
?Yes.?
It doesn?t interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn?t interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn?t interest me where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep
in the empty moments.
© Mountaindreaming, from the book The Invitation published by Harper SanFransico, 1999 All rights reserved |
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