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	About RomanticSubbie I'm gonna have two sections here, my vanilla stuff and my "kinky-er" stuff. Skip to the bottom if you want, but the top is much more of who I am, instead of what I'm looking for. Vanilla: The short version: I'm a geek. I like learning and video games and writing and reading. I'm looking for a guy to have fun with and hopefully evolve into something more. The long version: I read a whole lot. I enjoy a wide and eclectic variety of books, including mysteries, fantasy/sci-fi, a good deal of romance, and any non-fiction book that strikes my fancy at the library. I'm still rather in touch with my "inner child", which rests very close to the surface. Being the "youngster" that I am, I haven't had the opportunity to travel very many places. I've been to Florida a number of times, Disney being my favorite place to visit (major Disney dork). I'd love to have the chance to travel, especially to Europe. Rome, Athens, and Madrid, these are the travels I've only gotten to dream about. I love singing, but it's a very personal thing to me. I don't sing for just anyone. I sing a wide range of things, from opera, to musical theater, to pop. It all depends on my mood. I like the "sophisticated" things, such as theater and ballet, but I also love video games. I love classical music, but also enjoy techno. I'm rather complex, or so I like to think. I'm rather shy, especially at first. I know when and how to be silly or serious depending on what the mood calls for. I have more of a sarcastic dry wit, rather than the slapstick variety (although I enjoy both). I'm looking for the kind of relationship where there are comfortable silences and moments of outrageous silliness. I like having someone to hold or be held by, to talk or listen to, to miss and be missed by. I guess that sound like a friend, and it should. For me, a solid base as friends is essential. "Kinky"/What I'm looking for: I'll be perfectly honest. I am, as the name implies, a hopeless romantic. I like cuddling, holding hands, all those little things that make you think of puppy love. So, I'm looking for romance in any D/s relationship I come to be in. I'm looking for a gentler kind of domination. By that I mean there's a good deal of emotion and affection tempering the strictness. Rough play and all is all fine and well, but "aftercare" is just as important to me. I'm coming to recognize my 'little' side and desire for a Daddy. At this point, I'd say my little is about 8 or so, but that could change. Little interests include: coloring, stuffed animals, Disney, Sanrio, and stickers. That's hardly an exhaustive list, but a beginning, since I'm still exploring that side or myself. I'm mostly monogamous, I think. Occasionally playing with someone else might be ok in my book, but I want to be the one my Daddy comes home to and builds a life with. The idea of a triad relationship is intriguing, but I don't know if I'd actually be into it. This is a bit random, but I prefer to get to know someone online a bit before meeting up, Not necessarily a LONG time, but I would like to now more than your name and orientation. lol Anyways, if my profile intrigues you, go ahead and drop a line. I'll answer most questions. I'm pretty open, but always reserve the right to not answer. Talk to you soon. ;) Hope to find my Daddy/dom soon. P.S. I'm looking for a semi-serious relationship, not a sex-buddy. So, I'm looking for someone close to my own age. Basically, that comes down to under 40. It's not a hard and fast rule, but for me to be with someone over 40 would require AMAZING chemistry.

So I was reading this story, internet porn really, about a couple in a loving D/s type relationship. While the actual story only really dealt with scenes, there was an almost train-of-consciousness style ramble at points about the Dom's reasoning for pushing or not pushing the sub at certain points. The bit that stood out to me was (paraphrased slightly):

"He was the Dom. When she gave herself to him, it was up to him to make sure she was happy, not just at that moment but always."

In this particular case, it was a matter of the sub 'allowing' something to happen via not using a safe word that they likely would have regretted later. A case of being caught up in the moment and going past boundaries too quickly. Now, I'm not sure if I fully agree with the thought or not, but it struck me as an interesting one and resonates for whatever reason. If not the actual words, the IDEA behind them, that the Dom isn't just thinking about going as far as he can as fast as he can, because he loves the sub is right about what I'm looking for.

Da mi basia mille...

I'm in Norfolk, Va for up to a month at this point. Not terribly busy either. ;)

I think it's time to take a bit of a break from the site. Maybe till I move.

I love my family. I really do. But my GOD, they drive me nuts.

Re-discovering my love of logic puzzles thanks to my sister's Kindle. Who'd've thunk it?

So I just read that Leonard Nimoy just appeared at his last Star Trek convention. And I never got to go to one with him at it. This makes me sad. :(

Oops, never mind, there it is.

Hmmm... I've tried to add a picture, but apparently the site hates me.

Volunteered at a pet adopt-a-thon today. Saw a beautiful Akita I would have loved to adopt. Oh, well, not this time.

*sigh* I need someone to cuddle/kiss with for a while. I miss it.

I know we kinky people aren't exactly normal... But is no one possibly interested in me like... normal-adjacent?

I've recently come to a bit of an epiphany. I'm the type of submissive who wants/needs to be seduced to submit. What I mean by that is that I want to find someone who'll go on vanilla dates and stuff, especially at first. I have a desire/preference to be submissive, but I don't feel the inclination to do so to the first person I meet. I've discovered I'm not really the type for scenes or just "playing". In the right context that can be fun, but I primarily want a relationship, and not just a play-partner...

Hmm... too much rambling...

"Love, love is something else. It?s the weather being good every day because wind and rain is just another kind of good weather. That?s love."
?-Casanova

Holy hell, I've gotten tons of "Africa scam" emails (where they want you to help them cash a large sum of money) in my accounts all over the place, yahoo, msn, gmail, hotmail, even my school accounts. I never thought I'd get one on a personal site. But, what just turned my Mail red? An Africa scam mail. >.<

My ideal is a loving D/s relationship. One of the more obscure ways I've described it is a kinky version of "I Dream of Jeannie". Jeannie is under the command/control of her master, but everything she does is out of her love for him. That's what I want.?

But with whips for fun. >.>

From a book I recently read: "Defying him was the last thing on her mind. She wanted to please him, needed to earn his approval. To earn his touch."

Nesquik chocolate milk is awesome.

>.>

I seriously need some friends to play WoW with. I started playing while dating my ex, and recently it's gotten lonely. Any takers?

I was recently introduced (through too much random surfing) to the concept of cohousing and find the prospect interesting.?

I recently (this past hour) found a website called WJD?, which is maintained by a network of churches called the Metropolitan Community Church. This seems like a church I would be able to attend, given the GLBT-friendly base (I'm not gay, just can't stand attending a church that is anti-gay and such).

Anyways, I'm curious to know if anyone has heard of or perhaps attended or thought about attending a MCC sermon or activity?

I recently saw a contest on another site for the best definition of love. This was my entry.?

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Love is patient, love is kind, love is... Forget all that. Sometimes, love is going to bed angry because only they have the ability to hurt you this much. Love is crying because you can't believe they don't see how much you love them back. Love is hard, love can be cruel, but when it's right, love is bliss.

I've received a few mails regarding some of my journal entries, saying that they are not a place to bitch, but a place only to represent the "joys of D/s" and show what I "offer any Dom". I disagree with the first point outright. The second point is absolutely right, and I'm doing that. All I have to offer is me. That includes all of my assets, as well as all my faults. Faults which are fairly common and completely human. Faults like feelings, apparently. My journals express my sadness, my hope, my anger. If a man, Dom or no, can not handle the fact that I have a variety of emotions and express them, not always appropriately, they do not deserve me. This is not snobbery. This is a sense of self-worth and a passion to find someone who fits me.

All right, let's get this out there. I'm fat. I know I'm fat. Yes, I'm working on it. Yes, it is a good deal my own fault, though some genetic issues are to blame for some of it.
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Despite all of this, a stranger, Dom or not, has absolutely no right to make that the subject of their first email. Telling me to lose a certain amount of weight and then "get back in touch" does not make you sound Dom-mish or endear you to anyone. It makes you sound like an Ass. And that's the only capital you're deserving of.?

I keep reading journals, by Doms around my age, complaining about the lack of "real" people on this site. Granted some of them are a far distance away, and I'm not gonna appeal to a far number of them, but at the same time, I feel like sending out a mass mail shouting, "I'm real, I'm real!"

So, I'm considering putting up a picture (albeit with my eyes blocked). I'm not sure though... Any thoughts?

From what I've seen, on this site and others, the Doms who are interested in the same kind of D/s as I are primarily interested in the "housewife" type of sub.? Now, that isn't a problem, except, if those are the only kinds of "gentle" Doms, I'm screwed.?

I can't cook; I've burned water. I have a black thumb of death, which means gardening doesn't work. I've never bought anything pink in my life, but have plenty of pink clothes, thanks to a few mishaps with the laundry.?

Guess that ends my rant or whatever you wanna call it.

To avoid any possible misconceptions...

No, I don't have a cam right now.
Yes, I am female.
Really.
Yes, I have (semi-)recent pictures of myself.?
Yes, I'm real.
So, those that require a web cam as proof that I honestly exist, in true female form, be warned.

Lately I've been getting the feeling that asking to be loved for who I am, as I am, is somehow asking too much.If so, what's the point?

So, I'm feeling pretty giddy right now.

Looks like I'll be in Disney over Spring Break! :D

Not the best time to go, but... Going is awesome anytime.

"Most men are simply looking for someone to listen to their tales, cast them an admiring glance from time to time, and hold them through the long, dreary night. I suspect most women are looking for that as well."

Now, I don't know about men, or even most women, but that's pretty true for me at least. Well, and maybe a good spanking once in a while. >.>

So, in addition to being a bit dorky (all right, more than a bit), I'm not particularly elegant or polished. I'm not a horror by any means, but...

Let me put it this way: I'm much more often found in chap stick than lip gloss, let alone lipstick; I've never mastered walking in heels and still teeter and totter on anything with too skinny a heel; I've never learned how to do more than the most basic make up styles; I'm still not comfortable in skirts or dresses, on the rare occasion I wear them.

I've watched men cross dress on occasion, and they seem much more... smooth than I've ever been. >.<

Well, that was a bust. I had a date on Friday, just one of those "get to know you" kind of things. It went well, but... No spark.

It was a bit weird to begin with, since the guy had/has the same name as my ex. I was nervous, like always, but we got to talking and it was good. I had a good time, and he's a nice, good guy, but...

All I could think on the way home was, "I miss my Patrick."

I'm sure I've mentioned before that I am a big dork, in touch with my inner child, etc. But now, just to give you an idea of how dorky I am. My favorite Christmas gifts this year? A Chia pet and a Magic Grow Rock set.

I don't mind being alone, I honestly prefer my solitude a good deal of the time, but this pervading sense of lonliness is killing me.

All righty people, men mostly. If, after seeing my pic(s) you decide I'm not your type, fine. I understand. Please, don't just stop talking for no reason. Let me know you're not into me. It's not that big of a deal.

*sigh* Oh, I'm so bored... I hate being bored.

Well, that was interesting... Just found out the guy I had a crush on for nearly half my life and still daydream about has a daughted and "baby-momma".

I'll probably still wonder what might have been, but I was a bit surprised. This is what I get for "wanting" someone I haven't seen in 5 years.

*sigh* That sounded really pathetic.

Okay, I wanna know, honestly. What does everyone have against Disney movies?

I admit fully to being a complete dork and Disney freak, but why do so many people hate them?

I thought I found someone special, but I wound up crying all the same.

Damn it, I should be worth two freaking days, at least!

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