I am very creative, intelligent, and unconventional. I'm a musician and a craftsperson, currently making my living doing IT work, although I have had several other careers in the past. I'm well read and knowledgable about the world and comfortable in a wide range of settings. I live a healthy lifestyle, like to do things outdoors and travel. I have many and varied interests and usually have multiple projects going on at one time. I'm educated, sophisticated, and financially secure.

I have good relationships with family and friends and appreciate a drama-free existence. Those who earn my respect are treated honestly and fairly, and I am quite protective and supportive of people I care about. I communicate well with others, and though I am assertive and sometimes quite opinionated, I am also a good listener. I believe in taking care of the practical things that need to be done, but I also have the desire to experience the extremes of life and passion. We only live once and I intend to make the most of it.

My ideal partner would be someone who is intelligent and confident in public, with a desire to submit in private. I have little desire for a 24/7 type arrangement, because I have many other interests in life, as I'd expect that she would. As a dominant, I am very inventive, constantly trying new things. I am very attuned to the reactions of my partner and enjoy her sighs, cries and expressions immensely. I can be mildly sadistic at times but I have no desire to cause any real or lasting harm. Those who speak of not having limits are deluding themselves, we all have limits, physical, mental, and emotional. I may push them a bit at times but I believe in consensual, well-negotiated relationships. My goal is to create intense, sensual, beautiful experiences for my partner and myself. I have about 5 years of experience in this lifestyle through a several long term, monogamous relationships.

I'm very down to earth and comfortable with myself, not into phony posturing or trying to live some kind of fantasy. I see a lot of profiles on Collarme that seem to reflect people's desire to run away from themselves or to be something they are not. I am not looking for someone who is emotionally damaged or who has mental health issues. I'm looking for a smart, together woman who knows who she is and what she wants in terms of intensity, sensuality, and passion. Someone who is also looking for a romantic connection and intellectual compatibility. Someone who wants to give herself to me, but not from a position of weakness. Someone with many interests and abilities, but also with a strong sexual appetite and a desire to be tamed by a man she can truly respect.

If you are hanging out laundry and get excited looking at the rope and clothespins, you are probably the girl for me!