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Male Submissive, 57, salt lake, Utah
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Female Switch, 42, Derry, New Hampshire
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Male Dominant, 57, Lansing, Michigan
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About riverwings
Note: I am mostly looking for friends right now... am leaving the rest of my profile as is, so that those who wish to know me can know me more fully. :-)
I really appreciate when people read my journal, too.Thanks!
ALSO: I DO NOT SUBMIT TO MEN. PERIOD. ANY KIND OF MAN. I DON'T CARE. I only ever submit full-time to Ladies and Goddesses. Meaning: girls, women, females... I won't submit to you unless you are a Lady or a Goddess. That means you are refined, sure of yourself, are intelligent, know what you are doing and are attractive (to me.) Men are dogs and will be treated as such by me. End of.
About replies and such: Ok, so don't be offended if I read and then don't reply right away. The fact that my profile is as long as it is should show you that I am very methodical. Translation: I don't want to give a half-assed reply to someone when I'm half asleep or too busy to put thought into it. That being said, if you send me a one-liner or tacky message, don't expect a reply at all.
I don't chat on CM (it crashes my computer), so please don't send me a request.
If we haven't actually had a real conversation, don't send me a friend request, as we are not (yet) friends. Wait until we talk, then maybe I will add you. <3
Viele Liebe!
About friends: Be intelligent, be respectful, be a friend. Constantly sexualizing me, non-jokingly flirting with me or making unwanted advances is not being a friend and I won't put up with it. Other than that, I am happy to talk to any type of person. Don't be shy! :-)
Who I am: I am a very complex, multi-faceted person. I have a very fluid personality; I flow like a river from one concept to the next. For too long I searched for my one true place in the world; now I realize that my truest self - my center - is in accepting this fluidity. I.e. - I am female-bodied, but identify as a macho femme tomboi, and I flow between serious masochist and gentle cuddles, adult little and parenting my friends, etc. I am a study in contrasts, in that I am all of the above, all at the same time. Whoever is right for me will embrace this complexity. It is not something I can or would change about myself. Hey - at least you'll never be bored. :-)
Important: There are many static things about me. Things that never change about me: 1) I may date around, but I do not hook up. 2) I switch with the right person, but usually only like to dominate or submit to a person... not both. 3) I change my moral/politcal beliefs only upon improved knowledge of a subject, not because someone I love disagrees with me. 4) I need to love and be loved in some capacity (platonic or otherwise) at all times.
***Better pictures available once I trust you. I promise I'm cute. :-) ***
What I'm looking for in a partner:
1) Safe
2) Sane
3) Consensual (literally)
4) Literacy is sexy. If you can't even form a grammatically correct sentence, I have a hard time trusting you with handcuffs and my bare ass. o.O
5) Modesty is sexy. If you have such little self-respect that I know the exact shape, size, color and definition of your ass before I know your real name, I will never respect you enough to serve you or Domme you. In little words: explicit/naked public pics = bad.
6) Maturity is sexy. Biological age isn't a big deal to me, but maturity IS. Thus, I tend to prefer folks older than me, but wouldn't rule out a particularly wise person my age.
7) Mutual respect/loyalty. I have a lot to give, therefore I expect a lot. I need to be able to support a partner in her/his endeavors and I need support from him/her. My partnership comes from a very deep place in my heart and can't be easily turned on or off.
8) Someone that I at least have the remote possibility of meeting/spending RT with. If you're in another country, it is highly unlikely that will ever work, as it is difficult to immigrate anywhere. Also, I am stuck in Iowa until I finish school. School comes first at this point in my life. I am willing to travel long-distance on breaks, but can't move anywhere permanently now. Once I graduate, I am open to living pretty much anywhere in the country.
9) Someone I find attractive. This varies widely, though I have a soft spot for long-haired brunettes with deep, soulful eyes. Gender identity/biological sex/stage of transition are not issues in the slightest. I can and have been attracted to cisgender women and men (of varying sexualities), as well as transfolk of all types. I consider myself pansexual. Race is not an issue, nor is body type. That being said, I will know very quickly whether or not I could ever be attracted to you. If I know in my heart of hearts the attraction will never be there, then it isn't fair to lead you on, is it?
10) Someone interested in committing long-term, however I am poly and ideally will have more than one partner. I am fine with my partners also having other partners.
11) A high tolerance for Queer politics. I am knee-deep in Queer activism and it's kind of my life. If you can't at least appreciate it as an ally, we're probably not a good match. *this is actually REALLY important to me*
12) Someone with a higher sex drive than me. You'd be surprised how difficult that might be. Once I'm comfortable with you, I can be quite the naughty little thing.
13) You have to a) have a sense of humor (in general) and b) be able to laugh at yourself. If your ego is so fragile that you can't, we will have a problem. That being said, a healthy ego is sexy. Don't be Letterman.
14) It just has to work. I don't know how else to put it. I know who and what I'm looking for long-term and am not desperate for a relationship.
>>>>HUGELY Important! None of this was meant to off-put potential partners or offend anyone. I know I sound firm, but this is only because I want to be clear from the start who I am and what I need. I need to be good for someone else....... so good that I am an integral, irreplaceable part of their lives. If I am not Domming or serving at this level, I have no confidence in the relationship. This firmness is meant with the best of intentions.
~blessed be~
p.s. - Really want my immediate attention? Include something in your message about ninjas vs. pirates, showing you at least read some of this.
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YES, I am a feminist! And in scene, men are dogs and I treat them as such!
I don't care if this offends you; that's what I believe. Gor offends me, but I wouldn't tell someone not to be Gorean if that was their kink. Ergo, live and let live! And for all you misogynistic fuckheads out there, in the vanilla world, I am a woman and deserve just as much respect as any man. I will be treated with the same human dignity you grant anyone of the male variety. And if you fail to respect me, expect your ego and/or your nuts to feel it.
Anyone who contacts me telling me that they'll "settle my bitch ass down" or other duschefucking fodder of this variety, will be ripped to shreds mercilessly and then blocked. Got it? Good. |
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So about this site.....
???? ....okay, say what you will about this site... yeah, there's a lot of posers and mouthbreathers, but I've actually met a lot of really cool people on here... people who talk to me, not knowing where it will go, not knowing what I look like or what kind of car I drive or where I grew up. I haven't met the love of my life on here (yet?), but even despite that, I've met some really neat people. So, I guess this is a thank you to all my friends on here. Before you, I felt completely alone in this lifestyle... now I feel like I have the world at my fingertips. Thank you.
~river
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Happy Yule and Merry Christmas to All!
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Edit to the weeding question (i.e. - the p.s. at the end of my profile.)
????? As much as I love my pirates vs. ninjas question, I feel it has not worked especially well as a weeding question. People who are only interested in being casual friends should still answer it, but anyone who actually wants my attention as a potential partner should answer my *NEW* question:
????? Please define at least one of the following in your own words: androgyne, intersex, cisgender.
????? Don't google/wiki the definitions (I'll know) or ask me what they mean. Just tell me what they mean to you. Thanks!
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How to describe how I'm feeling?
I think I'm taking a hiatus from people... emotions... connecting at a deeper level than friendship. I just don't have it in me anymore. I woke up this morning, realizing that I don't believe that anyone else will ever be able to love me and care for me the way I can love and take care of myself. No one gives me pleasure like I give myself. No puts me first and I wouldn't be able to trust anyone who'd say they would right now, anyway. I didn't use to think that way, but here we are. My emotions are so fucked anymore that I quit paying attention to them. I've been relying on logic alone, and that's probably better. I feel my walls closing in; going deep into spiritual isolation. The idea of sex with anyone else of any biological sex or gender makes me sick right now. I don't want to touch or be touched. I keep looking in the mirror for the me I see when I close my eyes, but that person isn't there. Then I realize I've never really seen me; too many conflicting messages telling me who I am, and my own complexity eats me alive. I'm starting to feel like I never will. I keep up a strong front. I don't break down or lose my cool in front of anyone.
But, no. I'm not good for anyone right now, and no one else can help me with this.
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Really important note: I'm not really looking for much right now. Yeah, I'm open to the idea of a relationship if the right one comes along. But, I have a very full life as it is, right now, and if I don't get the right vibe from a person pretty quickly...... if I don't sweat a little looking at their picture and fidget waiting for CM to open up their new message........ well, it's probably not happening.? Also, I'm really shy around straight bio guys...... bi/lesbian women, bi men and transfolk have a lot better shot, simply because I trust queers more.
I am also casually dating a few people. I am still single (and not hooking up), but I have been going out when I have time. And, unless I fall in love with someone and am ready to be in a real relationship, I will continue dating around. I don't owe anyone any explanations or commitment at the moment, seeing as I am no one's girlfriend, S/O or collared submissive.
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About Blocking People:
I do this all the time. Why? Because I don't feel like talking to you, and I can't be bothered to read or delete any of your messages. It doesn't matter why I don't want to talk to you; it could be just as simple as you irritated me, or made me uncomfortable, or I just have no interest in further communication. You can take it personally, or not, because if I've already blocked you, I already don't care what you have to say. And don't send your friends after me, either. We're not in Middle School anymore, kids. Kthxbai.
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About Gender:
I have gotten some questions about my gender flow. So, to clarify................ I am very gender fluid................. I can be very femme, but I also love trucks and motorcycles and have this crazy-ass goal to learn how to drive every form of transportation there is. :-)
I wear dresses and makeup some days, but bind my breasts, wear no makeup and wear men's clothes other days. My hair is long, but I wear it in a low ponytail on boy/butch days and fluffy and down on femme days.
I like to be what I call a "gentlewoman." If I love someone, I want to bake him/her cookies, make her/him dinner, give him/her a foot massage and clean her/his house. BUT, I also want to hold doors, give flowers/chocolates and take him/her out, too. I'm a hopeless romantic, but I can do that dance either way.
Important: If you can't handle the thought of your subbie girlfriend wearing men's clothes and getting you flowers (sometimes), we're probably not a great fit. If you only want me as a femme or only as a butch, it's not gonna work. |
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So I've been getting a lot of #6/age-related questions.
55+ crowd, please read.
Here's the answer: Biological age isn't an issue for me in the sense that a) I hate making any sweeping judgements about groups of people, because the next person I fall in love with always seems to break that rule. Example, I used to only want to date younger butches..... then I only wanted to date older femmes........... then some slightly older guys............. then, well, you get the point. b) If I were to randomly fall in love with someone AND find them attractive at, say, 60, who am I to say that should be a factor?
ALL of that being said........... my general rule is.............. anyone who is my parents' age or older is generally not going to work out with me. If you are younger, even by a few years, that's fine, but any older and I tend to squick out. Just sayin'......... |
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