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About Rhyss
I am the quintessential sensual sadist. There's exquisite beauty in accepting the true submission of another. I will cherish your submission and draw you deeper than you thought to go.
How eloquent are the eyes of one tightly bound in leather & chains awaiting my pleasure... trust, respect, heat, need, obedience twisting together within you. Absolute beauty in the swiftly indrawn breath after first blow falls, watching your body tense, feeling your pulse increase as I brush soft fingers over your neck... I will work you to a fever pitch... if you happen to peak my interest.
A few favorites: Asimov, Baxter, Bear, Brin, O.S. Card, A.C. Clark, Haldeman, Heinlein, Herbert, McIntyre, Pohl, N. Stephenson.
Other favorites of a different type: Assemblage 23, C-Lekktor, Colony 5, Combichrist, Garmarna, HexRx, Rammstein, Rotersand, Terrorfakt (I left off common ones for fun)
Since this is an intro space about me, below is some text on Mistresses and submissives I liked enough to make a personal copy of. I agree with each one of these, and each one is a very strong statement. Above all, I believe in controlling ones self before you seek to control others, and playing safe. That being said... I like to play hard.
1. Control. Above all, a good Mistress is always in control of herself. She does not rant or rave, and never punishes when angry. On the rare times that temper overwhelms her, she walks away until she regains balance. After all, how can a Domme control her sub if she can't control herself?
2. Creative. A good Dominant puts time, energy and creativity in her scenes. She is not satisfied playing the same games over and over, and goes the extra length to come up with new and different ideas.
3. Human. The best Mistress knows she is human. She realizes she will make mistakes, and is quick to apologize when she does. She knows she won't be thought of as any less "Dommly" because of an apology. On the flip side, she realizes that others will make mistakes also, and even though she may punish for the mistake, she accepts an apology graciously and puts the event in the past.
4. Compassionate. A good Mistress is compassionate. She cares about her sub(s), friends and family. She takes time to listen and respond to the needs of others. She isn't selfish and doesn't have the illusion that the world revolves around her.
5. Technique. A good Domme works on her play technique. She knows how to use her toys and practices frequently. She reads the latest books and talks to others in the scene. An effective Mistress tests her toys on herself before she uses them on her sub.
6. Consistent. The best FemmeDom is consistent in her instructions and requests. She doesn't give her sub conflicting commands. She delivers equal punishment for equal offenses, and equal rewards when pleased. She is firm in her direction and does not waiver when faced with a difficult situation.
7. Thorough. An effective Dominant is thorough. She directs a scene from start to finish to better allow her sub to achieve headspace. She takes away all distractions and decisions...telling her sub what position she desires, what needs she wants fulfilled, and how this is best accomplished.
8. Respectful. A good Mistress respects herself and others. She strives to always project herself in the best possible light, and expects the same from her submissives. She is well-groomed, and takes pride in her looks. She takes good care of her toys and equipment.
9. Safe. A Domme worth playing with is safe. She is aware of the damage she can cause a submissive and does her best to prevent harm. She knows first-aid and attends classes periodically to keep herself updated.
10. Communication. A good Domme is an effective communicator. She says what she means, and means what she says. She is specific and chooses her words carefully. She doesn't rant, nag or whine because she knows this shows a lack of control. She states instructions in a clear, easy-to-understand manner.
Submissive (sub) A person who surrenders control of to his/her dominant. The submissive, while putty in the hands of a dominant whom s/he trusts and respects, is likely to be independent and assertive in any other arena.
Submission is not a sign of weakness or inferiority. Some of the strongest, most successful people in our society are submissive in their personal relationships.
Submission does not indicate lack of intelligence or motivation. Most submissives are very intelligent, creative and are highly motivated people.
Submission is not the same as passivity. Submissives are not passive. They participate actively and are thinking individuals.
Submission is not something that can be demanded or forced. The definition of the word means it is a willing act. A submissive submits because they have chosen to do so, not because someone forced them.
Submission is not a miserable state of existence. Most submissives are happy, well balanced people who are simply fulfilling their nature.
Submission is not slavery. All slaves are submissive but not all submissives are slaves. A submissive has not given up their right to choose but has given some of those choices to another to make for them. They have input into their relationship and maintain their identity.
Submission does not indicate sexual promiscuity. Submissives are not sex crazed nymphomaniacs who cannot control their drives. Most are husbands or wives, mothers or fathers, friends, neighbors, workers, or family members who have a need to relinquish control of some aspects of their lives to someone they trust. It isn't a sex thing...it's a condition of the heart.
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