ReluctantDom

There’s Real World and Pleasure World. Real World is that boring old monochrome vanilla place of work, family and Tesco. It’s a world of responsibilities, obligations, inhibitions and taboos.

Pleasure World: where do I start? For you, is it the thrill of lying naked, bottom up across a lap, feeling the warmth of the Dom’s thighs, and the roughness of his clothes, anticipating the first slap? The squeaky, bright, colours? The intense awarness of textures? The powerfull scents of leather, wood, rope, perfume, warm skin, sweat, and cum  that drill deep into your sinuses? The fluttering, visceral excitement of all those little acts of submisson? The anxiety, unease and arousal as you are restrained? The wave of stinging pleasure/pain that echoes back and forth through your body each time a stroke lands on buttocks quivering with anticipation and trepidation? Pleasure World is where you are encouraged to: break taboos, be uninhibited, focus entirely on pleasure, live out every detail of your fantasies and develop new realities.

For me it’s the surges of lust and exultation as you submit, and squirm, and sigh, and grunt, and finally offer yourself to me for service, punishment or sex with no reservations or inhibitions. For me it is succeeding in creating the environment and scenario which bring out the best in us both. I love role play. I love creating and perfecting roles. I've been a priest, doctor, uncle, father, teacher, slave master, punter, plumber, detective and lord-of-the-manor. However, my best and favourite role is me, delivering a gentle, calming, comforting monologue of instruction, encouragement and praise as I persuade you to remain still and silent as you suffer. Or perhaps it’s the prison doctor giving a thorough examination prior to punishment. Maybe it’s the country gentleman anxious to train his maid to deliver a service of the very highest quality.

For both of us it’s the catharsis which you may express in giggles, tears, or even anger while I cuddle you, numbed and awed at the depth of your submission and my caring cruelty.

I was a reluctant Dom because I was introduced to D/s by a sub girlfriend and it took me a while to find the pleasure in humiliating and physically hurting another person. Subsequently I became the ‘poppaDom’ because of my fondness for Indian food. I don’t think I'm a very conventional Dom. I can't be bothered with all that “On your knees bitch!” stuff. For me, it’s about mutual pleasure. So, when appropriate, I want my sub to top from the bottom and work with me to meld our desires and fantasies into the most mutually rewarding play possible. I can't tell you what our relationship would be like. All my D/s relationships have evolved in directions I could not have imagined.

One of the most enjoyable aspects of being a Dom is helping subs to identify and explore aspects of the needs and personalities they didn’t know existed. I particularly value relationships with newbies and novices because I have to focus very hard on building and maintaining their trust and that also fosters a closeness and intimacy which is more difficult to find with experienced subs.