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Real life comes first.  Like most people, i tend to be very busy and since i don't revolve my life around the computer, my responses may take awhile.  Don't be afraid to message me, but do so understanding that it could take me as much as a week or 2 to respond...gee, just like when people used snail mail to communicate.  If you're interested in instant gratification, save us both time and move on.  As i get to know you, contact will be more frequent.  i guess that's why i'm not a natural blog-er.

   As for the snide remark in my messages about being a "seasonal pen pal", i didn't initiate the conversation and i did apologize for the delay in response.  At least i didn't hide behind a nice guy facade only to have it fall apart after a pitiful few weeks.  i'm pretty much what you see is what i'll be.

  i think i've been pretty open about what i am and am not seeking.  Nowhere do i recall saying i'll be a slave to anyone's first contact message.  Neither do i recall putting "spineless" where i really meant "submissive".  Perhaps i'm being too sensitive, but let me throw this out for food for thought...

If you step on a person's foot and apologize, they quickly forgive the physical hurt.  It is the imaginary hurts, the hurt feelings, that cultivate bitterness that lasts a lifetime.

...so, why is it so hard to live by the golden rule and treat people with the same respect with which you wish to be treated?  Why is it so hard to just be nice?

i've been reading profiles a plenty..journal entries too.  The absolute glut of people posting for "no games, no drama, serious inquiries only" is daunting. (Good greif, i can't stand drama either...if the trials and tribulations of regular life aren't enough...)  It also gives me pause & makes me wonder why in the bloody hell that didn't strike me until now, since i've lurked here a few times looking for someone who looked like they would be willing to guide...and could for that matter.  It was a big deal to me to make the plunge, post a profile and dive in...now i'm looking for the first of my pin feathers that must be growing in because i sure do feel chicken about it all.  i'm shy, i know it, and so it's terribly stressing to make an initial contact.  i'm freaking out about stumbling into someone who won't respect what i'm here for, and what i'm not. 
To post photos or not...some state they won't talk to you unless you post, others won't post to protect themselves.  i'm not much of an anybody, but i don't think there's been enough shades of red named to cover what would happen were Mr. and i outted, being as conservative as we are. 

This is confusing and i'm second guessing my decision.  Read "my decision", not "who i am and what Mr. is".  i guess such is the quest for knowledge and understanding.  In a place where so many people are saying they don't lie, but the obviously do i wonder if i'll have the discernment necessary to weed out the B.S. from the sincere?

i guess we'll see.