Thank you for taking the time to look at my profile.
I suppose that I have my own thoughts on the l/s. You may or may not agree with my perspective, and that's ok. We all have our own views, and those should be respected.
I believe that a D/s relationship is as unique as the people involved. When two people meet, I believe that a friendship needs to be established first. Only through that can the two develop mutual respect, understanding, trust, and establish compatibility. And to establish this friendship with a solid foundation you must start with honesty. Nothing breaks down a relationship faster than lies, mis-truths, or not divulging pertinent information. (You know... the "what she doesn't know won't hurt her," kind of thinking...LOL). The lack of such information can indeed hurt, and in more ways than one.
In other words, you have to build a solid foundation. Without respect, trust, honest communication, and compatibility, there isn't anything to support the relationship. I also believe there has to be chemistry and a mutual attraction in order for the relationship to grow.
These are just my views on what I look for in a D/s relationship. Some will not agree, and like I said, that's ok. Everyone has their own wants, needs, views, and opinions. ..to each their own!
Anyway, before I go off on too much of a tangent, I also believe you cannot rush into things. I think that's just heading for disaster if you want something long term. Rome was not built in a day, and neither are D/s relationships. It takes time, negotiation, understanding, and a lot of communication on both sides. It is a two way street.
Ok, I'm probably going to set off a few with these next comments, but i do not believe in the "two sets of rules" thing. If a Dominant/Master expects his sub/slave to live up to his/her word then I believe Dominant/Master needs to as well. There is nothing more confusing or frustrating than when the rules ONLY apply to you. Remember... consistency.. consistency... consistency! Don't change the rules midstream and expect compliance. You HAVE to communicate. Again, that's just my opinion.
I have many more thoughts about the l/s but if I list everything here, it does not leave much to discuss now does it? LOL
Ohhhhhhh and one last note....Since you have (hopefully) read my profile down to this point, you already know it is friendship first. That means, I am not looking to be pounced, propositioned, bombarded by emails, cyber spanked, or "convinced" that I "NEED" your Dominance after you talk to me for ohhhhh 5 minutes, or after the first email. If you think that I'm willing to submit to someone I've known for less than an hour, boy do you have another thing coming!
If you are confused about what kind of time frame I am referring to, please refer back to the paragraph about "you cannot rush into things!"
Have a lovely day!
