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It is of the utmost importance to me that I find romantic connections that can lead to long-term relationships. Friends are nice and all, but I have a lot of those. My life is full, but I have no issue prioritizing a person who is a serious partner of mine. Otherwise, I'm interested in play partners if we're meeting up at events. It's dominant, not dominate. Jesus, come on, get it right or you can't do it. I am on a journey of self discovery and working towards balance. I do identify as a switch overall-I've done and tried many things. Right now I am looking for a sexually assertive submissive primary partner, although I am open to other potential relationship dynamics as well.

I won't do anything you can't spell correctly. ;) People who are passionate about what they do, articulate about why they are interested in serving me, motivated, intelligent, and driven will keep my attention. Dominant men with a desire to guide my life while allowing me the ability to control another man of my own are my favorite type of male dominant partners.


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5/12/2012 10:30:45 AM

Looking for gentlemen who will take me out and show me a good time. Serious inquiries only. ;)


2/14/2012 8:19:12 PM

Please, intelligent men....where are you? I just need some witty banter sans texting acronyms. Help a lady, would you?


1/2/2012 8:37:47 AM

My main profile picture is of a cell popping that was done on my back in 2009. That picture was taken minutes after the design was completed. It was a temporary brand and it healed completely in 3 months. You can't even tell I ever had it done. If you look at the 3rd image on my profile (although it was taken with a crappy phone camera), you can see that after a month the design was well-healed. It simply faded over time.

 

Even though I may be looking for submissive partners, it doesn't mean I have any desire or intention to ask or expect a potential piece of my property to receive anything like this. I am completely floored that this site is full of morons who would think I'd run around arbitrarily doing this to people. If you think that of me based on a picture, you don't deserve to even share the air I breathe.


8/6/2011 11:37:20 PM

Back from a glorious vacation. I have a new corset and a new strapon harness to break in!


4/6/2011 9:18:17 PM

NO. I don't want to casually hook up with any of you. Stop it. It's creepy. If you want to have a fantasy, hire a prostitute who will give you what you want.


3/14/2011 10:23:27 AM

I often get this question because it's not listed in my profile...so here it is:

 

Q: Rawkmehard, what are you looking for in a potential submissive?

 

A: The submissive I'm looking for actively seeks to make my life easier in a variety of ways.

 

I want joy, passion, laughter, as well as a life partner. I want us to have comparable interests, comparable needs for individual time and activities and a balance for time spent together.

 

That all means that I am looking for an independent and generally happy man who wants a woman in his life, and who will put in the time to get to know me, learn my preferences, and incorporate them into his world.

 

I don't seek to take control of every aspect of a man's life. At some point, he just needs to be allowed to be himself. But I do generally expect that he ask me what I want before he runs off and does things on his own.

 

For example, I schedule my life like this: Work, SMART required events, Partner(s), Family, Other Friends. When I look at my calendar for any given week and someone wants my time, that is how I prioritize things. Thus, I expect my partner to check in about when I am free and schedule his time with other friends accordingly. I am quite flexible about it (though it may read as being rigid), because it's more about him prioritizing me than being upset he has other friends.

 

After finding out if we're compatible in those regards, I tend to them move into the more sexual aspects of D/s and BDSM.

 

I can train a good man to be a good submissive for me, but a good man is hard to find. Thus I spend much more time sorting out the more...vanilla aspects of any potential person in my life.


3/11/2011 3:46:55 PM

let me try this another way: i do not separate or compartmentalize my 'kinky' self and my 'vanilla' self. if you want to have some kind of D/s dynamic with me, it can't just be for kink/BDSM. it's all or nothing.

 

this doesn't mean we have to fall in love and make babies. it does mean that if you approach me with the expectation of ONLY kinky sex/BDSM happening, you will be disappointed. please don't waste my time.


1/25/2011 1:26:07 PM

when all your pictures are of your implements, I make the natural assumption that you don't actually know how to work with your hands. Give me a man who can work with his hands, please. :)


12/27/2010 9:38:16 PM

i had a fetish-indulgent holiday weekend. quite amazing!


11/29/2010 5:07:36 PM
can we wait until the second date for you to objectify me? thanks for only caring about what kind of a cum whore i am, really-it makes me feel special just like all the girls you've dated before. but really, i am old fashioned. i need to know your first name before i agree to be your own personal slut. kthx

10/17/2010 8:27:44 PM

i want to edit so many journal posts and profiles on this site. what is with the tragic lack of spelling? there is a remarkable tool known as spell check that can be used for such tasks. seriously, it's so sad.


10/10/2010 8:50:38 AM
apparently, in order to be more accessible to potential partners, i need to move to texas, oregon, washington, or massachusetts. hmmmm. i am going to ponder that a while.

10/2/2010 10:21:03 AM
oh, there will be shoe shopping this afternoon. yes, yes!!

10/1/2010 9:01:59 PM
i am so confused about how many men are ridiculously emo and sensitive these days. not so sure i'm a fan of that, really.

9/27/2010 7:29:46 PM
the alot monster is running rampant on CM! quick, someone save me!!

9/12/2010 12:31:28 PM
i've been doing this whole 'kinky' thing long enough now that people who are brand new to joining a munch and freak out about going out in public....i forget, honestly, how scary it was to show up there initially. 

i've been involved with my local community long enough now that i don't see people with rose-tinted glasses. they're regular people with jobs, families, and other responsibilities besides living a BDSM fantasy life. i know about their kids' soccer games and tap dance lessons, about the latest round of car repair, their fantasy football league and their most recent visit to the doctor.

i want the fantasy life some days-i mean, a kinky prince charming to rescue me from the mundane? what (mostly) straight girl doesn't want that, at least for a moment? in reality, that would drive me crazy after about a week. 

no one, and i mean NO ONE, is perfect. and if i had to live with 'perfect', i'd never match up. so give me a man with flaws who is generally able to keep up, and i'll be happy. :)

9/5/2010 2:18:57 PM
entertain me, please! 

9/2/2010 6:05:35 PM
dungeon party, time with friends, and yummy brunch=i am going to have an awesome weekend!

6/14/2010 8:23:12 PM
off to chicago for work for a few days. who knows, maybe something interesting will actually happen there!

6/4/2010 11:23:12 PM
ah yes, there is that familiar feeling again...

3/24/2010 8:24:00 AM
out visiting portland, OR and off to seattle, WA today. i don't want to leave the PNW. *sigh*

11/20/2009 12:38:00 PM
you should always be your own primary partner. 

10/8/2009 6:04:27 PM
awww, someone finally deleted an email i sent unread. and it was the one where i finally admitted that perhaps i was being a bit harsh. oh well! thanks for the entertainment all the same. 

10/5/2009 5:55:59 PM
and sometimes, it's just easier to sit around in my comfy and watch tv on hulu...

10/3/2009 3:45:54 PM
sometimes i just really want to fuck. *sigh*

8/26/2009 1:41:20 PM
fire flogging pictures in the near future? survey says YES!

8/11/2009 7:44:59 PM
OhioSMART educational meeting this Saturday, August 15th!!!

Meet us for dinner at Rock Bottom Brewery in the Flats at 6 p.m. and then join us in the dungeon for our educational topic-Singletails and Whips with Sir Richard!!!

Stick around for our play party time, or spend time getting to know other kinksters.

Have questions or need more info? Send me a C-mail here.

See you Saturday!!

6/24/2009 5:48:09 PM
ugh. my sinuses are staging a revolution, and i'm alternating between being a bitch and being a baby-so watch out!

6/18/2009 7:35:24 PM
OhioSMART educational meeting this Saturday, June 20th.  Dinner at 6 @ Rock Bottom Brewery in the Flats, Newcomer's Meeting @ 7 at Rock Bottom....be there!

www.ohiosmart.org for more info!

6/14/2009 3:37:15 PM
yes, i identify as a switch. no, i haven't really updated my profile about that. and yes, i will get around to it sooner or later.

6/7/2009 2:52:24 PM
come to CYPRUS tonight if you're between 18 and 35, want to chat with other kinky folk, and live in the cleveland/akron area!!!

Send me an email here for directions-see you at 7 tonight!

5/3/2009 6:52:27 PM
Dear person whose profile i read- I really hope you find what you seek. No seriously, I do. I wouldn't last more than about a week in your fantasy/reality world.

But still, it's possible a moderately intelligent but unambitious woman will come your way. She will also likely serve you very well until the day she goes batshit crazy because she's tired of doing the damn chores and living at home without any human interaction other than seeing you.

So really, I hope she knows how to type and use webcams. She going to need some way to communicate with the outside world.

It sounds a lot like prison to me, but hey, that's why it's not my kink!

2/22/2009 3:59:28 PM
people who say they're in to 'canning' instead of caning bring disturbing images to my head.

even if you're a poor speller, consider the message you may be sending. if you want to can me, that means i'm likely being dismembered. i call that a hard limit.

thanks!

2/22/2009 8:09:35 AM
it's all fine and dandy for people to add me as someone they admire here, but i really wish you'd introduce yourselves!

2/21/2009 7:47:47 AM
okay, seriously, why can't i find the newest episode of battlestar galactica on either the sci fi website OR on hulu?  wtf.

1/18/2009 6:31:13 PM
i really wish i was ever free on a SMART weekend. i miss it! :(

11/10/2008 7:52:31 PM
oh, the things i only wish i could say....

10/3/2008 2:32:53 PM
I feel like this is the letter I'm reading almost daily here:

Dear rawkmehard

Hello, I am a serious-business-Dominate-man who pretends that I write interesting messages.

Fortunately, you will write me back because I use correct spelling (except that I can't spell D-O-M-I-N-A-N-T) AND punctuation, and frankly, because your standards are falling by the minute.

You may want to check out my blank profile that reveals nothing about me-other than I want some pussy. No really, I want a serious relationship, I swear-as long as there's pussy.

Do you have a pussy?  Then I love you!

Here's my yahooID, because I've proven in 3 sentences that we are destined for a serious relationship, or at least a lot of sex for a night.

Hope to hear from you via dirty chat messages and empty promises soon!!

-lameusername

9/5/2008 2:36:29 PM
wax play for me tonight! (does a little dance)

i love kinky parties. :)

9/4/2008 8:07:58 PM
my second hateful mail...i am just really racking up points here! 

big fatties like me steal food from Barbie-esque girls.

i know, it's so hard for them to walk while they hold up their huge boobs.

seriously, that's the best you've got? blocked, ignored, go enjoy your hand. or Barbie's tits.

i feel sorry for Barbie all of a sudden. Maybe i should give her back the food i've been stealing.....

9/2/2008 2:29:16 PM
i may get flack for this, but i'm throwing caution to the wind.  to all of you who are looking for secondary or tertiary partners...

i hate you. why? because i just want ONE. i don't even need more to go around. so stop taking them!!

unless of course, they're female and you're already in a couple, in which case, thank you for narrowing my competition. :)

8/30/2008 12:59:31 PM
wow, i just got my first 'you are totally fat and ugly' email here!

that is just...well...it touches my heart in a special way.   thank you, person who is old enough to be my father and is probably a really sad guy who can't actually get laid.

8/29/2008 6:41:17 AM
all the journals i write seem to talk about how much i get irritated by men.  but really, i'm irritated by immature people masquerading as men.  i just keep finding them in the universe.  at least my radar is getting a lot better.

i just wish i could get emails with more than 'hi, here's my yahoo' or lame one-liners.

8/25/2008 5:27:59 PM
i am really disgusted by 'men' who refuse to work over the course of their lives to better themselves.

8/14/2008 6:56:13 PM
elusive emotional intimacy-where are you?

7/12/2008 3:19:12 PM
sometimes, i read the profiles of dominant men here and think, "wow,  you're really great at articulating fantasies!!"

i am so tired of men who believe that being with a woman is going to be like living in a constant dating scenario, and then freak out when reality pops in and spoils the illusion.

before i head off on some long diatribe, let me just say this-if you don't know, or can't imagine, that just because i'm submissive means i don't have needs....please go away. i've done the whole 'ignore what i think i need, decide my needs are always secondary, tertiary, et cetera' so Mr. Domly One can be happy....it doesn't work.

you don't lose your domly-ness because you're able to meet my needs. in fact, when you meet my needs, the return factor is exponentially multiplied.

i wish i could be attracted to men over 40. so far, most of the gentlemen over 40 i've spoken with seem to 'get it'. but thusfar, when i think of being in a relationship with someone who is 40 and above, i immediately think...we can't have children. can i let go of that idea?

i don't know that i can. *sigh*



6/21/2008 12:08:06 PM
you are not a 'dominate' male.  look it up.

3/17/2008 1:16:17 PM
yay for kink parties!

i made it to my second kink meeting and party on saturday.  as usual, it was great!

i'm hooked. i admit it. i can't wait for the next one.

3/6/2008 3:13:21 PM
people keeping throwing around the word trust.

i don't know if i ever trust someone. do i want to believe what people say? YES.  am i sometimes gullible, and believe someone when prior actions indicate that perhaps i shouldn't believe? YES.

trust seems like...this intangible and conditional concept for so many people. i don't mean to sound jaded here, i really don't.  but i do believe people are only trustworthy when their words and actions consistently line up.

i think when i say i trust you, i mean:  "it's possible for me to stop holding my breath and feeling hopeful every time you tell me you're going to do something.  i don't have to hope for it-i have no reason to doubt you."

that doesn't SOUND like a tall order. but it is. because trust isn't just about what YOU do or say. it's about how i respond to what you do or say. it's about believing in myself, and knowing what i can and cannot live with in another person.

in the land of ideals, i expect the same of other people as i expect of myself.  recently, in the depths of self-reflection, i realized i've been expecting sometimes less, and sometimes more of others than i have of myself. so i quit that. i quit expecting that someone be THE SAME as i am.

and i'm taking a good hard look at how often what i do and what i say lines up. if i can't expect it of myself, i can never expect it of someone else.

so here's to hope.




2/27/2008 2:37:09 PM
am i really too cultured?

just because, when given a choice about what do to when i go out, i would choose activities like the symphony or the museum, doesn't mean i prefer it to the exclusion of things like hanging out, watching a movie, and doing whatever.

sheesh.

2/17/2008 2:54:40 PM
seriously, some of these profiles make me cringe.

this isn't to say what you like/want/need/desire is wrong, but yikes.

i'd fail miserably in a relationship with you!

2/17/2008 8:30:41 AM
i finally made it to my first kink meeting and play party last night.

i cannot describe the impact it had on me-i just kept sputtering things like "it was so good, it was so amazing, it was so wonderful".

i'm glad it has fueled my desire to continue the journey of self-discovery, because i was about to just give up.

2/7/2008 8:59:22 PM
if you want to email me, please have more than 'hello' to say.

seriously. i am going to delete an email with one word in it. an email and chat/messenger systems are not the same thing.

thanks!

1/27/2008 7:31:24 AM
perhaps i am just not that interesting after all.

nothing to see here folks, move along.

1/23/2008 6:03:49 PM
people, it's the internet. get over it. yikes!

1/10/2008 4:44:42 PM
somehow, a serious blast from the past found me. more than one, actually.

and here i am, amazed by how much i've changed yet again.

my first EVER serious (vanilla) boyfriend found me not too long ago. this is the guy who could have had me for the rest of my life, i naively thought at age 19, 20, 21....you get the idea. things ended strangely, not well at all, with lots of silence. i eventually moved on, and had not heard from him for six years.

i was rather surprised when he found me on myspace and i only freaked out for 5 minutes-yes, i sounded like a silly girl for a while.

but someone who, at one point, could have completely destroyed my world, now only registered on my radar for a day.

i find it enouraging.

and secondly, he who keeps saying he's going to disappear but doesn't actually, started emailing me recently. and rather than burst into tears, because he was the other person who could have such an effect on me....here i am just pushing delete.

and it doesn't feel so bad after all. :)

12/22/2007 9:07:38 PM
i have always known there are as many forms of M/s, D/s, BDSM relationships as there are people. and perhaps it's because i'm not that experienced that i am still continually shocked in both positive and horrifying ways at what people expect of a potential partner.

i am already very grateful to some of the people i've exchanged email with from this site who have provided me significant insight in trying to understand what it is i seek.

as i continue in my search, i find myself in the difficult but important process of self-evaluation. the last several years of my life have been difficult in myriad ways. i am not going to air my laundry list here, of course. but last night, in talking with a good friend, i realized that even who i was 2 years ago is so drastically different from who i am now. i am encouraged by my progress, though i wasn't able to see it until recently.

and i feel a special debt of gratitude to someone who got on his soapbox and spoke from his heart, the words i needed to hear-not because i needed to hear them, but because it was the truth about something i couldn't see until today. thank you, if you ever read this, from the bottom of my heart. you have no idea how deeply your words touched me.

11/29/2007 6:59:56 PM
Honest apologies if I don't write you back.

Sometimes, it's because your message is obviously not what I'm seeking from a potential partner (e.g. have you ever had black cock?).

But if you write me an interesting email and I don't respond any time soon, a gentle reminder email or 4 will help me remember to reply to you.

It's difficult sorting through the large volume of mail here, please be patient. :)

11/26/2007 12:36:10 PM
holy crap. if i get another email on this site with only the word 'hi' or the phrase 'hello sub', i'm gonna...i don't know what i'm going to do.

please, please, PLEASE, don't bother unless you have something more than that to say.

and no, i won't send you dirty pictures of myself, never.

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