rareromantic

Politics really have no comfortable place in the world of flirting, kink and passion, and yet a recent interaction has gotten me thinking about it.

Yesterday, I had the serendipitous occasion to be viewing a woman’s profile at the exact same time she was viewing mine.  We both capitalized on this by some quick correspondence.  This ended, unfortunately, when she blithely mentioned that one of her “hard limits” is any dealings with “Rethuglicans”.  I rather unhappily informed her that my conservative leanings would surely force her to break her vow of apparently never speaking to anyone whose views differed from hers, and therefore wished her a nice life.

Hear this: I have no interest in discussing the relative merits of liberal/conservative politics as a whole.  Like I said, such things have no meaningful correlation to the sorts of passions that bring us here.  What I am curious about is this:

How can a sub take seriously a Dom who is a liberal?

I know, I know, that very question got a bunch of you all steaming mad, but bear with me. 

Forget the actual politics for a moment-- I think we can all agree that if there is one thing that is mutually understood to be a unique characteristic of conservative thinkers, it is a sort of rabid independence-- a refusal to be seen as part of an interconnected group, an inherent sense of ego and even selfishness.  These are the things that liberals hate most about conservatism, aren’t they?  

And yet, aren’t those the very qualities that tend to mark a naturally dominant man?

Let’s reverse the political polarity for a moment.  Liberals are generally perceived to be more sensitive, emotional and empathetic.  They find comfort in concepts of community, of being part of an interdependent village, ecosystem, or movement.  They cling to the idea of being victims of oppressors, be it overpaid CEOs, greedy banks, expensive colleges, and the rich in general.

Now truly: what real Dom takes pride in being anyone else’s victim?  What Dom would be anything but repulsed by the idea that someone other than him is master of his fate?

Thus I cannot help but wonder: all actual politics aside, how does a true sub take seriously a Dom who is not a conservative?  The very things the liberal sub may hate about his politics are the things she ostensibly most desires in the bedroom-- a willingness to take what he wants (and a belief that it is his to take), confident ego, rigid individualism and stubborn self-reliance.

I actually am curious about this.  All replies welcome, but do remember that this is not a debate about the politics themselves.  I so do not care what you think about the oppression of yadda-yadda at the hands of the wealthy bourgeois war-mongering blah-blah-blah.  I just want to know how you more liberal-minded subs are able to reconcile what you want from your Dom in the bedroom with what you want from him in everyday life.