rakhor

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	About rakhor I'm a switch who is looking around and see what's out there. The list of things available to choose from on 'interests' is woefully inadequate so I only put down the poly one. If you're interested in something that isn't there, send a message - I don't bite (ok, I do, but only when I know it's ok). I'm mainly out here to meet people, make friends, and engage in a bit of play with said friends if things take that turn. Want to top me? Lets talk. Want me to top you? Lets talk. Want to just talk? By all means drop a line :] I'm married, poly, and obviously kinky (or I wouldn't be here). Yes my wife knows about this profile, she happens to be my dominant as well, and encourages me to expand my horizons. If anything develops she will be involved in communication regarding any activities I become involved in, and I would expect any interested party to respect her input - not just because she's my dominant (switch, remember?), but because she is my partner for life. If you've read through all this and feel like tossing an IM rather than an email, you can reach me through Yahoo - my ID is 'udargromah'.

Went to a play party on the 3rd, had a blast. Since I had been pleasantly flogged the last party I went to I decided to be on the giving end of things.

Made her kneel and go down on me during my lunch break, begging for her collar after servicing me and not being allowed to climax.

Went back to work and then came home to prepare for the party. Packed a bag while she showered: paddle, hood, and a knife - she was only aware of the paddle.

My wife and I took up on a nice table where she stripped down to her panties (shy) and bent over to receive her spanking. Half way through it I dragged her up and put the hood on her and shoved her back down to the table and continued spanking.

A little while later out came the knife and I cut her panties and tore them off leaving her ass exposed completely to the door (and anyone who peeked in), then went back to making her rear a nice cherry red.

It was a big party so rather than hogging play space I wrapped it up and cuddled my precious toy close, took off her hood and rubbed her nicely abused bottom tenderly.

Came home and had fantastic sex on top of it all. What a day.

What are people looking for, I wonder?

I've seen all manner of profiles that range from super aggressive to very casual. I usually pass on the former but for people that seem more relaxed I tend to send messages that are also relaxed. I like to try and get to know someone before going down the lifestyle path.

It's hard to really feel comfortable playing with someone before you know that - at least for me.

So what are people looking for, the casual ones that I send a message to? Casual contact doesn't really seem to be the answer, but I'm just not about to go into 'top' mode in order to extract a response from someone.

I find it amusing and a little disheartening sometimes the kind of interaction that goes on here. At the very least I'll call it bias, but to be blunt it strikes me as sexual bigotry. What am I talking about?

Simple - I made a profile here a good while back. Sent out messages, was always polite and formal, never went straight for the 'lets get together and scene' path. I got blown off or ignored.

My wife also has a profile here, within five minutes she already had one person contact her about her interesting choice of names, and then the next morning she logs in to find two dozen messages waiting from various people.

Color me frustrated. Not with my wife, not at all. I'm frustrated by the fact that apparently having something dangling between my legs makes me a near leper - and from the volume of responses in such a short time I can't say I disagree with the response towards my gender at large.

It appears that women need not make any effort at all, as their inboxes will get flooded with potentials for them to sift through. I'm not saying that women don't put out any effort, just that it doesn't seem necessary in this climate.

I'm reminded of highschool all over again; the loud, arrogant, flashy, charismatic types make the noise/signal ratio so high that the quiet cautious ones like myself are flooded out of the market.

*update*
Yes, I know that not all such contact is pleasant or ends in any fruitful contact. The point is that the contact happens at all, allowing you (generic) to choose which is good and which is bad - as opposed to going out and putting forth your best effort and getting shut down and otherwise rejected, if you are acknowledged at all.

Went to a party last night. My first 'public' scene - had a good time. My scene partner was very pleasant, taking her time going up and then coming down and resting with me afterwards. Wouldn't mind doing that again sometime.

Probably the thing I've seen on here that bothers me the most is when someone wants a 'true submissive'. It's irritating because what they're really looking for is a doormat (at least that's the language I use for it).

Someone to bow, scrape, say 'yes master/mistress' to absolutely anything, and be a host for said master/mistress to leech off of. Some even go so far as to bluntly say thats what they plan on doing - having the sub work while they stay home and dominate them in all things. Well.. at least those people are honest about it.

I don't even know where to begin on what 'true submissive' means to me. But for damn sure it isn't 'doormat'. It definitely does have 'listens carefully', 'conducts self according to master/mistress' wishes', 'behaves modestly', and 'treats others with respect, even if declining to obey them'.

There's more, to be sure but that's the foundation of what makes a 'true' submissive in my mind. Oh well - off to work now.

So.. she collared me a few days ago. We'd always sortof been neutral with each other on this, both being fairly switchy. Not sure exactly what changed in the big picture but she took an interest in being my domme and I took an interest in being submissive.

It took a bit of convincing for me to believe she actually wanted to do it rather than just because I had never had luck finding a top for even occasional play. So she put a collar on me.

It's been a couple of days.. I've gotten past the initial shock and distress of it, I've never done something like this before remember. Despite having looked around and inquired and been available, nobody was interested so it's all brand new and a bit overwhelming. It's going to take some time to settle in and relax with the nature of things, but after having a chance to lose my mind a little I think things will work out alright.

I love my mistress.

Just your average day - work as usual. It's amusing and frustrating at the same time how people on this place put up profiles that say they're looking for friends first, and you contact them and try to strike up a conversation and just get blown off.

I certainly don't remember leaving a trail of drool as I wander my way around the net. Yeesh. I'm just looking for someone to be social with, converse with, and if things go that way - play with.

Friends first, then benefits (if at all). I mean come on, this /is/ supposed to be something people enjoy, right?

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