I've been lurking here for quite a few months, not sure what I want...I know what I had and what I liked about it.
I had a strong-willed woman who loved me and dominated me. She had some anger issues and I found that I'm very strongly affected by an angry partner. The BDSM part of the relationship was better that I ever imagined!
My Domme was creative, adventurous and playful. She created and enacted scenes that gave her a strong feeling of power and kept me guessing. I NEED that in BDSM relationship
I also have realized that I need to be respected. So many of those who advertise here look at their submissive as a "thing". I don't want that. I look at BDSM as "place" that is built, jointly, by two or more people.
The masochist needs a sadist and the sadist needs a masochist. Without two parts, each is incomplete. Similarly, dominants and submissives need each other. So do the bound and the binder.
Is it possible to build a BDSM relationship that has mutual respect and love? I am trying to figure that out.
So...
