Purple1974


PURPLE Male Submissive, 40, newyork, New York	purplemaze131 Male Submissive, 53	purplemtnsub Female Submissive, 21

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	About Purple1974 Please read my profile before messaging me. HARD LIMITS underage, animals, permanent marks, scat, polly. I also am not looking to play online, have phone sex, or just hook up. I want a real-life relationship that is long term. I am more of a sensual kinkster. Not a slave. I am not into pain or the 247 lifestyle. Also, if you dont like my hair, MAKEUP, or the way I dress, keep your comments to yourself and move on! Looking onogamous relationship. Emotionally, mentally, physically available.Have job, car, license.(Not living in your car or with mom.)Pride in your appearance.Plans to stay local. (I will not relocate.)No drugs or felons.Not having more kids.Im a Republican.ChemistryPDA Mutual beliefs. (Im a Christian.)Doesnt constantly curse. (Time place for that.)(Saying GD or JC is not how I was raised.)Sense of humor but knows when to be serious.Straight, taller than me (Im 59), likes cats.Respectful, Intelligent, Honest, Loyal, Tactful.Not a fan of the long beard look.No alcoholics, No distasteful tattoos.Pet Peeve Neck, face, finger tattoos. Also using then instead if than. I want romance, dinners, someone to go do things with.I want someone to go to karaoke and live bands with.I want to go places I havent been before or havent been to in a long time.I want someone to cook for and watch movies with.I want someone who spends a lot of time with me.Someone to take pictures with, who wont hide them from everyone. (If you dont like being tagged in pictures with me, it tells me you are hiding something.)Someone who is okay hanging out with my friends and family. I want someone to build towards a future with. (Preferably younger in age but looking from 27-49)I want to eventually co-habituate and get married if that works out. As far as the bedroomI want a sensual, kinky, romantic lover who can be serious but also isnt so uptight they cant goof around too. I have nothing against other races but Im not attracted to black or Asian guys. WARNING Any and all institutions, individuals andor media using this or any other adult site for projects or personal use - YOU ABSOLUTELY DO NOT have permission from me to use any of my profile or pictures in any or forum - both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and you will be subject to legal action.

Fifty Shades of Grey

I finally just watched the movie. I already read the books when they came out and wanted to take a red pen to the lack of editing and poor word usage. However, I did love the series and I'm not one who reads a lot. I'm sad the movie was edited so much. I understand if the movie was made exactly like the book it would have been rated X. Still, I missed the house keeper and steamy parts. I can say, that I still feel like E.L. James didn't know what she was writing about and I wish she had done more research in the subject she was writing on. I understand now why a friend of mine was angry at the ending since they hadn't read the books. Hopefully the next two movies will have more sex and bondage. I know James said she wanted more control over the next movies. So, we shall se

Among the creeps on the kinky sites telling me they want to rape me and force me to have sex with random men and women while they beat me up; have me use them as an ashtray; talk to me for weeks and plan out a future only to find they aren't who they said or decide that can't relocate after all; or the psychos on the vanilla sites who have been divorced 4 times before they are 40 or self-sabotage a relationship before it even starts, etc.... I really think I'm going to end up a crazy cat lady. I even found the perfect outfit this weekend. (Purple Butterfly MooMoo)
I'm fine on my own. I've been single for over 3 years now. It just really gets lonely and I really miss sex. Especially the kinky sex. I also miss having someone to love, do stuff for, share my day with, and vice versa. :(

In the last month I have been introduced to hypnosis. I have found it's very addictive and I love the feeling of falling into trance. It's quite peaceful and soothing. I have found several hypnotists who seem to know what they are doing and are trustworthy. I've also found some that were not. I always trust my intuition when I see a red flag or the creep factor shows up. It's a process of elimination just like anything else.

I think if I could find a tist who didn't have so many schedule conflicts and I could work with on a regular basis, I could go even deeper into trance.
I'm still very thirsty for knowledge on so many subjects of bdsm.
I really wish I could find what I'm looking for locally.
My exbf is the last one who tied me up and that was 3 years ago.
I miss that feeling of giving up total control so I guess that's why I like going under trance because it's the next best thing. If I found a hypnotist who could trance me in real life, the possibilities would be endless. ;)

I'm still holding out for the right one. I just can't seem to ever see myself playing with someone who there would be no future with.
Giving my body to someone is something I still hold as sacred. I don't have a problem with other people who play or have random relations but it just isn't who I am.
So, until that guy comes along I will continue to work with hypnotists to make me a better submissive for when the right one does come along.

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I have been single for years now. I know what I am looking for and would rather stay single than be with the wrong one. It doesn't mean I am not lonely or crave those feelings of being submissive with the right Dom. There are so many things I want to do and I just can't seem to find the right one to do them with.

Your result for The How freaky are you in bed Test ...
Closet Freak
You are 73% Freaky!
You know how to add the spice but you're holding back from a whole lot more. Break down your cautious barriers of wonder what if someone find out?, What if I scare them off?, What if they think I'm crazy? You are allowed to fulfill your sexual fantasies no matter how obscure they are. Quit living behind the What ifs and let yourself enjoy what you secretly love.

Your Analysis (Vertical line = Average)
kinkiness Distribution
You scored 73% on kinkiness, higher than 77% of your peers.

http://www.okcupid.com/quizzy/results?quizzyid=3700…

You scored 55 Slave, 55 Submissive!

When you put a slave and a submissive side by side you notice the one major difference. The choice or freedom to say yes/no. A slave by meaning has no rights nor no voice in what is done to them. While a submissive still wanting to please like a slave, still has their LIMITs and will say NO to certain things.
Your Analysis (Vertical line = Average)
Slave Distribution
You scored 55% on Slave, higher than 41% of your peers.
Submissive Distribution
You scored 55% on Submissive, higher than 19% of your peers.

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I've always said I'm more of a sub than slave but I have been told I have slave tendencies. I think I'm too independent to ever be 24/7 but I really wish I could find a decent local dom/boyfriend to experiment with and find out what my inner freak is all about.

I've noticed that many people so often confuse being Dominate with being Domineering. I like being Submissive with someone I trust who respects me as I respect them. Someone's submissiveness is a gift. A Dominate can not take this gift without the Submissive wanting to give it.

When a Dominate becomes Domineering to the point that a Submissive is no longer happy and feels their gift is now being taken...it's no longer a sub/dom relationship.
Especially in the BDSM world you have to be careful of abuse. This includes, physical, verbal, and mental. Yes, there are pre-determined scenes, safe words, slave contracts, and even the 24/7 relationships have their own dynamic but I have come into contact with and heard stories of Doms who are abusive, narcissistic, and have a god complex.

Please keep your common sense about you and watch for red flags just like you would in a vanilla relationship.
Have fun, stay safe, and remember life is too short to be unhappy.

dom·i·nate - to rule over; govern; control.

dom·i·neer - to rule arbitrarily or despotically; tyrannize.

So, in a couple of weeks I will turn the big 40. I can't believe I have been single for almost three years now. I know I'm picky, but everything on my list is due to experiences that have happened to me in the past. I know what I want and I know what will work for me.
Every time I think I find someone close to what I'm looking for, I find out they are fake or have been lying to me. I think everyone should be happy and I have yet to understand why people just can't be themselves.
I find that even though it's been so long since I even had any type of bdsm in my life, I still crave it. I long to find someone I can trust enough to let them tie me up, blindfold me, gag me, bind me, tease me, explore with me. There are so many things I want to do and try but without the right one I am fine just being on my own. But it sure doesn't mean I don't crave it every day and get lonely.

Just because I tell someone they aren't what I am looking for does not give them the right to tell me I wear too much makeup and it don't show my age well. Also have had guys tell me I was too fat. WTF is wrong with people?

I think after I die, I am going to haunt all of the nasty people who say mean, hurtful things to others. I also plan to haunt the fakes, liars, and abusers. So, over it.

I finished reading "The Slave" and liked it but I would rather read about something I am more into. Too much man on man and woman on woman action. I want to read about a female submissive and male Dom. It is easier for me to put myself in that character. Until I MEET the right one, it's all I have.

I really wonder how many more guys I have to talk to and weed out until God sends me the right one. I guess I need to add "sain" to what I am looking for in my profile.

I'm beginning to wonder if there is anyone REAL out there who is still sain, that won't stand me up, lead me on, try to extort money from Nigeria, etc... the list goes on. I'm tired of the games. Really praying there is a decent man out there that will give me some hope. Until I find someone decent, I will just read my dirty books and fantasize of a future with an unknown man.

Reading "The Market Place" at the moment. So far it's much better than "The Story of O".

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Last year I read all three of the 50 Shades of Grey series. It was quite arousing although it could have been written better. I know there are mixed emotions on these books but it is fiction. I did find some of the things in the book rather far fetched but I did enjoy them. I am however not very pleased with the casting of the movie. Neither Christian nor Anna were portrayed in the book like the people cast. I guess we will have to wait and see but as they say, the books are usually better than the movies. I

I recently was told by a DOM, I should read "The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty." I read all three books in that series also. Since Ann Rice wrote them, I felt it was written much more eloquently and I do believe she had a better group of editors. These books were very hard core and taboo. I don't think I could see myself as the characters as much as in 50 Shades. I did like the last book in the series better on both. I'm guessing it's because by then I had really dove into the characters.

Since I enjoyed reading Ann Rice so much I have now started reading "Exit to Eden." I feel it was a slow start but I'm enjoying the book. I can see why the movie is not available on Netflix nor Redbox since the casting in this seems really odd to me. Dan Akroyd (Ray from Ghost Busters.) Rosie O'Donnell (Never wanted to know anything about here sexually.) and Dana Delany (I associate with Body of Proof.).

I'm always trying to absorb any information I can. Reading books, watching BDSM films, blogs, etc... I guess I am starved for knowledge. Hopefully when the right one comes along I will have a good amount of homework already completed.

Very frustrated with all the fakes online. So many are not who they say they are, give false information on where they live, have stolen pictures, and will lie through their teeth with empty promises. I just don't understand the world today. Why can't people be themselves. If someone doesn't love you for who you are then you should keep looking and find the right match. Don't try to be something or someone you aren't or hurt innocent people just because you are jaded. I will never understand why people continue to lie to others only to disappear and not come through on promises made.

I'm not giving up on finding my soul mate...but I'm beginning to wonder if there are any honest "real" men out there.

I know I'm picky in what I'm looking for but I've been through so much in my life I already know what doesn't work for me.

Good luck to all out there.

Dejected he wandered on until he heard cries from a small fox saying, "Tame me." The little prince asked, "What is it to tame?" The fox replies, "It is to establish ties...to me, you are nothing more than a little boy who is just like a hundred thousand other little boys and I have no need of you. .... But if you tame me, then we shall need each other. To me, you will be unique in all the world. To you, I shall be unique in all the world."
---The Little Prince - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

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