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Female Submissive, 52, Montreal QC
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About psgforu2
I freely admit to borrowing this idea from another member. I think it’s genius and thought I would try creating a second profile for myself to give this approach a try. If you would like to know more about me you will find my other profile very informative.
His basic idea is let’s get all of the wasted time out of the way and see if we can make something happen NOW. This is my version of how he laid out the plan. Please don’t confuse this for rules but rather ideas…ideas to inspire you to determine how you would make this happen. The goal…to eliminate time, energy and emotion wasted for us both.
INITIAL NEGOTIATION
After a short time talking by email/yahoo/kik/skype or whatever…we exchange phone numbers.
Then we talk…not just type, to get to know each other. (To determine the plausibility of moving forward)
We will exchange personal information (full contact information etc…for safety reasons and for trust reasons)
Should we decide to move forward we will decide very quickly together…
When the trial period will be. (within 4-6 weeks)
How long that trial period will last.
Any rules and limits that we will agree on for the trial period.
TRIAL PERIOD
Because “our life” would be there and because I would be “fitting” into your life…it makes the most sense for me to come to you for the trial period.
This time together should be used to learn about each other. Rather than being focussed on sex and “play”…talking about and learning about those things and everything else we need to know about each other so we can make an informed decision about our suitability to move forward together.
I will learn from you about what you need from me to be the best submissive I can be for you.
We will both be open and forthcoming about what we have to give of ourselves to the other.
We will share our expectations of each other and what any relationship we can have would look like going forward.
AT THE END OF THE NEGOTIATED TRIAL PERIOD
If we both agree that we can give the other what they need and fulfill in each other the empty place in our lives, now is when we talk about how to move forward. I imagine it will look something like, me going home to pack up my life to be back with you as soon as possible.
Sounds a little risky, even radical or a little crazy. For those of us who have been in this lifestyle for 20+ years (long before it became fashionable)…don’t you think that maybe there is a possibility that we spend far too much time vetting out the tourists and sightseers to arrive at someone we can actually have a conversation with. Then, we seem to take forever to talk and get to know each other…well, this idea made me think about how the only way to really know if a BDSM Power Exchange can work between two people is for those two people to meet and see if there is chemistry, talk about those dynamics, learn if they have what it would take to complete the other person.
Sounds a little calculated…”un” romantic? Well, I think...time & energy efficient or at the very least an interesting experiment. Having enjoyed previous alternative relationships, and having sifted through endless well-meaning but unsuitable candidates…we know who we’re looking for. Even more important…we know what we’re looking for. What qualities we search for in a mate…what kind of dynamic works for us. When those line up the only thing that is left to see is…do we have chemistry? Why wait…why draw the process out? Let’s meet and find out!?
Please don’t think that I am suggesting that I don’t fully know that I will and should love the man I will serve. I am quite sensitive and I know that as the bond intensifies and the relationship grows…emotions will grow along with it. What I am suggesting is that perhaps it isn’t necessary to start with those emotions but rather to learn and grow into those emotions…I believe that they come naturally in the dynamic.
So, if you’ve read this far I would ask that you please read my original profile psgforu. There you will learn a lot about who I am, what I have to offer and how I perceive you to be. I intend to be very particular about who I converse with and your genuine and intelligent reply will ensure that you will have my attention.
If you decide to dispense with the time wasting and toss caution to the wind I would very much look forward to hearing from you.
jewel
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This profile is very direct and to the point...it doesn't reveal very much about who I am and what I have to offer. If I have piqued your interest and you would like to learn about me I have another profile (psgforu) where I talk about who I am that I hope you will read. |
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I realize that what I’m proposing here is not for everyone. I’m not even really sure how it should play out. I’d think that would be different (at least somewhat) depending on you.
A seed was planted in my mind about taking a different direction in this search…in theory it seems to hold merit…in reality, I have no idea.
What I do know is that trying something new and a little bit different would be well worth it should it lead me to who I seek. |
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Please don't ask me to be your "friend"...I will decline. I'd be very happy to talk with you if you reach out to me with a message. j |
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I am of the belief that if you haven’t mastered your own life it is impossible to master the life of another. Not that I think anyone is perfect, or that the addition of someone like me in your life won’t make you better. However, how well you’ve mastered your own life speaks volumes to me about how you will treat the responsibilities that come with mastering me. |
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Female Submissive, 45, Montreal, QC
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Male Switch, 40, Durham, North Carolina
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