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About Proteus999
Alright, I think it's time for a profile re-write. There's been little enough response to my old one, so something had to be off with it.
Perhaps I'll start with what I think a Dominant should be.
I realize that each D/s relationship is different. From one to another, no two relationships are the same, primarily because each Dom is looking for something different in their subs, and each sub is looking for something different in the relationship.
However that being said, I view myself as more of a gentle Dom. Perhaps closer to a DaddyDom kind of role, even if my sub isn't much younger than I. Simply because I do not want to have to force my will on another. If I'm always fighting with my subs for control, then perhaps they don't really want to be controlled.
So I expect from my subs a voluntary release of power. They do what I command not because I force them to do so, but because they want to obey me. I realize getting to that point may take some time and definitely requires a lot of trust from the sub (and not all subs are looking for that, some enjoy being forced). I am willing to put in the time to get to that point.
Now that being said, I am not averse to using force to get a sub to obey when the situation is right. I simply don't want it to be a constant power struggle between us. Meaning that tying a sub up, or slapping them around (if that's what they like) is ok by me. But it should be appropriate for the situation.
Me as a Dom though should understand that not every sub can have 'no limits' although that's something I'm really seeking. I do wish a sub to be so devoted to me that they will eventually accept no limits (and I mean they accept my limits as their own), but that's in the far future and will require a lot of time together for the sub to truly trust me, and me to gently push and expand on the subs limits until there are none left (or at least none that I want crossed eventually).
If you're looking for a Dom who will force you to bend to his will, that's not me. If you're looking for one to help guide you to being submissive, and help expand your limits then that is me.
Something else about me is that although I don't believe that all women need to be submissive to men (it really depends on your nature), those that are should be as proud of their submissive side as Dominant women are proud of being Dominant. There is nothing to be ashamed of in being who you are. Only in hiding from yourself to please others.
Now, true to my DaddyDom nature, I prefer younger women than myself, and wish to guide inexperienced women into being submissives. But that doesn't mean I wont consider older ones who are also looking to learn.
I do not shy away from an online relationship to start. In fact, at the beginning it will be required. I will not go meet you in a hotel a few hours after meeting you. We need to first chat online (msn or yahoo works great I find), and see if we even like each other. After that, we can start playing online with simple and easy commands (be aware I will require proof that you are obeying me, although your face in pictures and videos is optional until you trust me fully). From there, if things go well, we can consider taking ourselves into a RL relationship. But I need to trust you, and trust that meeting you wouldn't be a waste of my time before I consider that.
Now the last thing to say is you'll notice there is no profile pic on here. Trust me when I say I am not ugly (although I'm also not a super model), but wish to remain discrete to the general public at this time. Once we progress to chatting on msn or yahoo, I'll share pics with you.
If you're not scared away after all that (and had the patience to wade through it all), feel free to contact me, even if you're not a sub or looking for a relationship. I'm happy to hear from anyone and everyone. If you have questions, are looking for friends, want to play once in a while but without any commitment strings, anything. I want to hear from you. |
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Very confused. When you respond to my message and say you're interested in talking, then delete all further messages I send unread... what happened? |
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