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A confused sub came before a wise Master who adored her. She felt that to
submit to him would mean she would open her heart to unbearable pain
should he ever leave her. She hungered for him and needed him, but was
ready to walk away in panic. The gentle Master knelt her before
him and started a tale of love and devotion. As she looked up at him
his arms began to widen and open like a large tree stretches its
branches to the sky. At that moment the Master appeared rooted to the
floor and his impressive size towered above her like a giant tree. Then
he began to speak...I'm here for you... now and always no
matter how far time and space takes us... Whether you walk away from me
today or you stay and serve me I will not turn from you. I am as
patient as time itself; I will take not from you unless you give freely
and completely of yourself, but I give onto you regardless-- for my
love is unconditional...Like the olive tree that can both feed
you and shade you, I am there seemingly eternal to your short life on
this earth. If you need my fruit to feed your hunger I will give you
all the fruit you need. If your skin grows dry and loses its luster,
the oil from my fruit will restore it and make it glisten. When you
need comfort my leaves will gently caress your face with the slightest
breeze. When you need discipline my branches will correct you when the
wind blows strong. If you just need my shade to protect you from the
sun, my branches will shade and protect you. If you need warmth at
night my fallen branches will fuel the fire to keep you warm and safe.
If you need a refreshing breeze my leaves will fan you and cool you.
You are my gardener. When you submit to me, you tend that which
keeps me vibrant and full of life. When you kneel under me and till the
soil, you give breath to my roots. When you water me, my sap flows
strong through me raising my limping Branches. When you soil yourself
collecting fertilizer with your bare hands, you strengthen and humble
me with your devotion. Although my life will go on, life would not be
the same without you. Your dedication and unconditional care for
me keeps me vibrant and nurtures my very core. The sustenance and
protection I give you seems little reward for your servitude. Still the
gardener serves the tree from her heart and the tree gives to her heart
all that he can! I am planted firmly on the ground and cannot
follow you if you walk away from me.... But be assured I will survive.
One hundred years later and two of your lifetimes; I will still be
there, waiting for you in the same spot to offer you all that I do now. Stay
with me and be my gardener. You cannot get lost in me for we are
complementary to each other. I am your devotion, and you give meaning
to my existence. Apart we live life and survive; together we bloom
eternally! As the Master finished his last words the sub cried
herself to sleep at his feet. That night, he stood planted there like
the Olive tree offering her his unconditional love and protection as
she slept. As she would tend to him with her devotion the next day...
and everyday thereafter!

Is there one honest male Dom person on this site?

Journaling.... What is the purpose? What are the advantages? Is it just busy work? As with most things, there are good and bad sides to journaling. A means of communication... this is the wonderful part. A place to express the submissive/slave views without the fear of reprimand as long as it is done in a respectful manner. Sometimes there are things, for one reason or another, the submissive/slave feels she can not say face to face to her Dominant/Master and journaling allows her the time to organize and reword her thoughts while processing an idea instead of the instant answers that are usually required when in normal conversation. Content of a journal can be thoughts, feelings, fantasies, activities, expectations, concerns, anything she wants or needs to write about but the words must be honest and she should be open, transparent, and yes even vulnerable. Now for the downside. Journaling can become tedious, repetitive, frustrating and create anxiety for the submissive/slave especially if there is not much change happening at the time in her life. For journaling to be effective on her part she must have something to say. On the other side of the coin, if a Dominant/Master requires His submissive/slave to write a journal, He should read her entries, give her feedback and discuss any issues. Do not hold back, let the words flow. Y/you may discover journaling could open the door to a new world for both the Dominant/Master and the submissive/slave.

The Golden Rule....Does A/anyone remember the Golden Rule?

.......Do unto O/others as Y/you would have T/them do unto Y/you......

Why are the basics so hard to come by these days? Common courtesy, manners, being polite, please and thank Y/You. These are all the foundation of respect. So much emphasis is put on respect in the D/s community, as it should be, and yet the basics are thrown by the wayside all to often by both Dominants and submissives. Perhaps the problem comes from the cyber world. W/we must remember there is a real person on the other side of the computer. T/they are no less real than Y/you or I am . Why should A/anyone here be given less courtesy than a stranger W/we would meet on the street or a customer in the work place? Please permit me to take this to the next level. Lets say a relationship has begun in the cyber world with hopes of it one day becoming real time 24/7. This is in essence the same as courtship of past generations. W/we should be showing the best of who W/we are. This does not mean hide behind a false mask but rather be in practice to be the best W/we can be always. W/we all fall short at some point but knowing how to correct the short comings, how W/we conduct O/ourselves in this situation is an important piece of getting to know a potential Master/slave. The true test is not when things are going smooth and in agreement but rather when there are disagreements, differences of opinions, failure to do what is expected. This is when the knowing begins. With proper guidance, mentoring teaching, trust and mutual respect, all things can be overcome if the willingness, commitment, and determination is there. Be kind, understanding and yes punish when necessary. The Master and slave are parts of the same whole. When T/they work together for a common goal beautiful things can happen, O/one is not better than the O/other but each provides a need that alone can not be met. When Master and slave finally come together over time it is like a sunrise over water, Master and slave truly are the reflection of the O/other.

HAPPY EASTER

Today is about new beginnings. Some think of birth as the only new beginning but there are many beginnings in ones life. The New Year, a job change, relocation, a new relationship, all of these are new beginnings, a chance for a fresh start. I have hope and a positive outlook on life. What else does a new beginning need? I can not change yesterday, it no good to worry about tomorrow. I have only today. For this day, for this minute, I choose what my attitude will be. I have no control over the actions of another but I can control how I will react. I am not perfect and will be the first to admit my imperfections. As long as I take responsibility for my actions, my words, and learn from my mistakes, it is a good day. After everything is said and done, I am the one who has to live with me. If I have done the best I can, maintained a submissive attitude, been honest, look for the good in others, trust and believe another is a person of honor, then I can sleep at night. Today is the first day of the rest of  my life, I give my all for the dream. I will not give up, I have hope eternal.

DO NOT MAKE SOMEONE A PRIORITY IF THEY MAKE YOU AN OPTION

The secret to life is not finding someone you can live with, it is finding the One you can not live without.

Why does a person not commit to another? FEAR! Fear of security, fear of taking risks, perhaps even fear of finally getting what you want. If no risk is taken, life is not lived. We become stagnant. Risk involves the possibility of joy and pain, change and growth with another. Nothing can guarantee a lasting relationship, but there are factors that can greatly increase ones chances of a lasting loving relationship. Commitment and honesty are the foundations of any loving relationship. Honesty and deep commitment do not guarantee the success of the relationship but they do help more than other factors to ensure it. Anyone who is truly concerned for the growth of another knows, consciously or instinctively, that he or she can significantly foster that growth only through a relationship of consistency, honesty and with commitment as the cornerstone of a genuinely loving relationship. Genuine love recognizes and respects the unique individuality and separate identity of the other person. At times one person does know better than the other what is good for the one and is a position of wisdom in relation to the matter at hand. Under these circumstances the wiser does have an obligation to confront the other with the problem. Balance is the loving respect for your own path in life and loving leadership given with genuine care and humility. To fail to confront when confrontation is necessary and required, for the nurture of growth, represents a failure to love equally. Mutual loving confrontation is a significant part of all successful relationships. Those who truly love work with full conscious for the wisdom love requires. Self discipline derives from love translated into action that contributes to the others mental and emotional growth. Passion is a feeling of great depth. Discipline-structure-limits-direction-passion-respect-nurture-listening-encouragement-teaching=LOVE

Genuine love is precious. Not all are capable of genuine love. Few of us have the capacity for self discipline great enough to maintain constructive relationships that are loving. Without the self discipline of genuine love, freedom is destructive. Genuine love with all the discipline it requires, is the only path in life to substantial joy. Take another path and you may find rare moments of ecstatic joy, but they will be fleeting and progressively more elusive. When I genuinely love, I am extending myself, and when I am extending myself I am growing, and the more I grow the more I love the longer I love, the larger I become. Genuine love is self replenishing. The more I nurture the growth of others, the more my own growth is nurtured. As I grow through love so grows my joy, ever more present, ever more constant. The genuine lover always respects and encourages the unique individuality of the beloved. The purpose and function is to grow and be the more of which he is capable, not for my benefit but for your own. Marriage requires great mutual care, time, energy. Existing for the primary purpose of nurturing each other toward individual journeys for his own growth. Both must tend the hearth and both must venture forth. Sacrifices on behalf of the growth result in equal or greater growth of the self. Do not fear to take the risk. Fear only what you will be missing of life, love and joy. Dare to live and love.

"Submission is not about being used, submission is about being of use. submission is not about what is done to you, submission is about what you do for others " "Strong men simply need women. This will never be understood by weak men. A strong man needs a woman at his feet, who is truly his. Anything else is less than his fulfillment." – Unknown