I'm a very experienced dominant man who has been into various aspects of the D/s scene for more than 25 years. I've had the fortunate opportunity to have found people who share my interests and have learned a great deal about myself and also about the inherent nature of D/s as the result.
I've come to the conclusion that D/s is a sexual orientation, just like being gay or straight. People may start at one end of the D/s scale and move in either direction - either becoming more dominant or more submissive as time goes on. However it seems clear to me that the basic essentials of their orientation remains the same. It is still a question of the power exchange and giving up control in the context of a scene or LTR.
D/s as a sexual orientation has to be distinguished from whether a person is dominant or submissive in a particular role or a particular interaction. All primate and hence all human interactions are based in some way on dominance and submission. It is reflected in our langauge (boss/employee, father/child, teacher/student) and in most aspects of our lives. But it is possible for someone who is dominant in their personal life or ecomonic role to be submissive sexually or vice versa. Don't confuse personality type or the role someone has in society with their sexual orientation. There are lots of very vanilla people who are dominant in their professional life, but who would be absolutely shocked to experience the power exhange that occurs during D/s play.
I'm into chatting with people about these issues and exploring their relationship to D/s and their feelings about what attracts them to the scene
Unlike many of the people who claim to be dominants, I know that I am only human (its actually a status that I aspire to). I've had a few questions raised as to why do I call myself "the Imperfect". Of course it's in part a tounge in cheek reference to the fact that I'm not holding myself out to be super Dom, the perfect all seeing Master. That's one of my pet peeves about so much of what passes for domination on line. I have met many dominants who basically believe that they can do no wrong, that they are all seeing, all knowing, all powerful. My name here is simply to say that "that's not me". I'm less than perfect. I have only my own experiences in the scene to lead me.
I don't have a copy of the Dom's Handbook and although I did know many people who were actually "Old Guard" in the 70's in SF, I don't claim that my style is "old guard". Most of the people in the Old Guard were gay men who died tragically of AIDS. I've run into a lot of dominants who claim, by various twists and turns of history to be the "true" heirs of their legacy. Personally I don't buy it. Most of what passes for "Old Guard" protocol is simply the personal beliefs of some martinet who has styled himself as a "Old Guard Master", and holds court based on some mythical link to the past.
Of course the other part of being the Imperfect is that I'm also the Imp Perfect. I question the unquestionable beliefs that some people hold about various aspects of BDSM and D/s. I question the concept that I hear referred to as "training" as if there is some sacred text that is being referred to. Let's be honest, 90% of what passes for "training" is simply the personal sexual preferences of some dominant who has a less experienced or newbie playmate who is compelled to eat it all up like it is the gospel. That's not training, simply accomodiation to someone's preferences.
So when I claim to be the Imp Perfect, I'm making a small joke about some claim that I simply can't abide having go by without comment. I'm a very sarcastic Imp who has been known to string someone along before bringing down the boom of outright disclosure in the full light of day.