Welcome, and appreciate you actually reading this profile. Would like to start by explaining I have years of experience as a Dom, and have created a singular style that differs from the usual. Not going to get into debate as to what is the "right" way, because this works for me and my playmates, lovers, and even a trainee several years ago.

First off I will not immediately start barking orders or exhibiting cruelty, whether online or in person. Believe that a level of mutual respect and desire needs to be reached before any control agreements can be laid over the relationship. Each relationship has different aspects and certain characteristics that need to be acknowledged before I can begin to create an environment beneficial to the submissive involved. My method is more about providing a level of control that the sub needs and desires while still keeping my needs met.

As you can probably tell I am more into the mental aspects of Dominance, although when needed can exhibit the physical side also, just don't use pain as a crutch as most Doms I have met do.  If I achieve the level of control that I mold, then just looking at my sub/slave a certain way will do worse than any whip could.  Again, I do understand the pain/restraint aspect has its values also and will use when necessary or desired.  My strong hand is very evident during sexual aspects of relationship, actually that is one of the ways of rewarding some playmates.

Now you may be wondering how I achieve this control over chosen subs/slaves by being a natural leader and earning your respect before demanding it.  This is where I lose some people, I will show you respect and actually be polite until a mutual level of desire and control are reached.  I am mature, experienced, patient, a gentleman, and have realized long ago anyone can put on a leather outfit and just be mean, however I will make my power felt without a costume or by playing some role.  This is my natural state of being, 24/7-365, I exhibit this side of my personality because it is me, I lead by example, I inspire through guidance, and my punishment is real and will get results.

Once an agreement is reached (not a written one unless it's necessary) then I will be a slave/submissive's;

• Friend at first, she must desire my control
• Master when she earns it
• Therapist when needed
• Punisher when I chose
• Reward giver when I deem she deserves
• Teacher as needed
• Sexually will become her addiction
• My touch will be as necessary as air to breathe
• Leader to her as she wants my guidance more

This has been my successful formula in the past, and not here to boast about my experiences.  After you get to know me can even put potential subs in touch with prior lovers who still value their time in service to me.  Because they were better when I ended it, mentally they were more in touch with how they can find happiness in subservience, physically my guidance helped them get healthier and more desirable, and since the relationships had mutual respect the endings were amenable.

Am always open to communication, so questions/comments drop me a line; here are some basics though

• I shave my head voluntarily, not because of losing hair
• Divorced once, no kids, dog lover (not that kind, that's called animal abuse and ewwww)
• College educated, financially secure, not a flake
• Will not have online only relationships, goal is to meet subs/slaves for real
• Am a Taurus, year of Dragon
• More spiritual than religious, tend to lean more Eastern, practice yoga, meditation
• Working out is very important to me, swim laps for an hour daily, and always love hiking/camping
• Experience with poly, not my goal, but if it happens can keep everything smooth
• Consistently hear pictures don't do me justice, my eyes are hypnotic in person (and they change color with seasons)
• Open to all races/religions not a racist or bigot in anyway.  Support gay/lesbian rights and culture, I am straight but don't judge anyone
• Genuinely fun to be around, not some brooding leather wearing grump
• Charming and funny in person, can turn on the Dom anytime, but not looking for someone who actually believes can live this 24/7 without having vanilla aspects.  The vanilla side always gets hotter from it granted, but have to establish an honest human relationship before this style of life can be enjoyed fully.
• Am on yahoo via my IPhone most of the time, ID jdubthesnowman

Prefer a real public meet after a few messages on here, like dinner or lunch date.  Have to establish we both are attracted before making any steps toward control.