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Wyrd
| Hetero Male, 41, Columbia, South Carolina
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It's always so hard to describe yourself in these little boxes. I was always a little different, maybe it was my Grandfather's influence before I even have memories, maybe I was born this way, either way I have been an alpha as long as I can remember, some of my earliest memories are of tying the neighborhood girls up.
As part of my Grandfather's influence I find myself a bit more like the older generation than my own. Honor and integrity are far more important to me than they are to most it seems. Perhaps this is why I was drawn to Gor initially. I sought out and eventually convinced a Gorean Master to train me. However Gor is but one aspect of my background, I take from it the portions that work and add to it the bits that work from other protocols and styles as well as bits from ancient cultures.
I have been privileged to own several very special girls over the years, some have moved on to new phases of their lives, some are with me and I hope will continue to be with me.
I am currently being actively served by hearmycries.
Absent/distant but still in service are necia and star.
RIP melons (1962-2010), hopefully looking down and laughing at all the drama down here.
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1/30/2008 9:19:49 AM: Upcoming workshop on making restraints on Feb 9th, and a rope bondage demo on the 17th.
7/13/2007 12:00:34 PM: Planning the scavenger hunt for the kinky Columbia people for next weekend.
5/8/2007 2:08:03 PM: The nature of play
Why do we play, what do we get from it? Is it responsible to play with just anyone however we feel like?
In most cases the type of play we do, results in activation of the natural fight or flight instinct, releasing endorphins into our body, which have various effects on us, including pain relief, increased dopamine production, increase the feeling of general well being, reduce our ability to concentrate, endorphins also activate our addiction centers, we want more and more.
When those endorphins leave our system, we feel drained, depressed, and looking for our next dose, or next high.
So, as a responsible top, what should I do? I make sure not to play with anyone without discussing it before hand, and make sure I am going to be available to the bottom to discuss things afterwords for hours or days after the play, I am also going to make sure the bottom comes down slowly after the play.
But so many in this lifestyle play casually, no regard for the effects it has later, treating bottoms and subs as toys to be used and disposed of when they are done.
I have seen much over the years, dominants who will jump on the new submissive, before they know much, get them hooked on the addicting play, use them a bit, and quit, the victim then moves on to the next dominant willing to play, never building a true relationship, just bouncing play partner to play partner, the dominants do the same, victim to victim. Only years later when they look back do they realize all they wasted, all the damage they did, and then they regret it.
But we are dominants, we are never wrong, or are we playing our fiddle while Rome burns around us?
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