I have been involved in the Ds, BDSM world in one or another for over 25 years. It is a never-ending journey that I am enjoying a great deal. For me, the interaction with a sub is truly amazing, and I am always looking to get a new viewpoint or opinions on this whole world. To me, Ds is about the power exchange, and the rush that comes from the responsibility that a Dom accepts when he accepts the submission of a woman. To have someone willingly give you control over them, over the most intimate aspects of their lives, even a little or only for a short while, is just intoxicating. Im not a sadist. There is nothing wrong with those for whom pain is a key part of the experience, but it is just not for me. That is not to say that pain is not an effective tool, and that I will never use it. But it is just a tool, a way to focus the mind and to help mold it to my desires. And if I find a sub for whom pain is something they need, then I will use it as appropriate. Just like I would use other methods to train and open a womans submissive soul. I seek to meet subs or slaves and discuss their submissive desires with them. Maybe we will just chat, maybe we will become friends. Maybe more. One never knows. There is enjoyment in just getting to know another, helping them explore this world a bit, and making them feel better for doing so. Lets chat and get to know one another a bit, and go from there. In the end, its how we undertake the journey that makes all the difference.