I have a lot of experience in the kink world, although relatively new to the D side of the slash.

However that does not mean I dont know what Im doing - quite the contrary. Im very clear in what Im looking for and I expect anyone contacting me to have read my profile and understood that they are not the exception to any of my wishes.

What Im looking for is a man who is looking for a female-led relationship (FLR) who is primarily service-oriented. You need to be straight and comfortable in your own skin. You should be financially stable and able to manage your own life with confidence, even if you would prefer someone else to manage parts of it for you.

You should be single, a non-smoker, straight and monogamous. You need to be fairly local and happy to date in a very vanilla sense throughout the relationship.

I dont want your money or your possessions, or a list of items from a wish list. I dont want to run your life for you, I expect you to be able to do that for yourself but to cede final decisions to me in areas of our relationship.

Im not looking for a bedroom-only sub - this needs to be an integral part of the relationship. You need to realise that this relationship is about both of us, not just about you getting your kinks met.

Some things I am interested in are service, sadomasochism and perhaps occasional chastity.

Im not looking for someone who wants to be beaten, humiliated or treated like garbage. I want a strong, confident man who prefers to defer. Im not into foot fetishism, crossdressingforced fem or bi, age play or anything that involves shoving stuff up your butt. I also hate having oral sex pered upon me.

If your idea of an FLR is derived solely from porn we are unlikely to get on. If its all about getting your dick wet, locked away or beaten, then we wont get on. If you cannot per sexually for any reason, we would not be a match. If you have ED but use medication to counteract that, then Im fine with that.

Outside of kink you need to have interests. I enjoy walking my dog, visiting friends, good food and wine, days spent walking in the countryside or along the coast, investigating quirky bookshops and antique stores, lazy days watching tv and drinking coffee, going to the theatre and cinema, reading books and generally enjoying life.

Please dont address me as anything but MsD. No honorofics (Maam, Goddess, all that stuff). Treat me like a person, not a possession.