3/12/2018 3:55:31 PM: In an effort to better explain my approach to kink, here are three stories/experiences.Distracting HandsAfter discovering bondage, my first kinky experience with a lover was experimental, lighthearted, and playful. My girlfriend at the time was very hands-on sexually and had a habit of using touch to tease and distract me, often attempting to bring me to orgasm sooner than I wanted.As our exploration of kink continued, this teasing and the use of bondage to prevent it worked itself into our routine. Still free to tease and often teasing with even greater enthusiasm, her hands would soon 'get her in trouble' and have to be restrained. Now 'safe' from being distracted, it was my chance to tease and please her without interruption. Too Late to ResistLater in my kink exploration with lovers, a new theme to bondage and restraints developed that I began to enjoy very much. The scene would start with a 'little' bondage to 'just try it out', conveniently and naively forgetting any past history. Restraints were added slowly over time, making the situation more helpless and harder to escape. Realizing that I had more than a 'little' bondage in mind and that she was quickly getting more than she bargained for, the intensity of my partner's squirming and struggling to escape grew. With escape already next to impossible, she was rendered unable to protest or stop more bondage from being layered on.. and loving it.Pleasing HimI sometimes struggle with being sexually selfish with a lover, one reason for this being that I get extremely sensitive following an orgasm. Seeing this as something of a game, past partners have enjoyed trying to eagerly please me, driving me to pull away or pull them away when I am unable to stand it any longer.When I revealed to a past lover that I would enjoy role-reversal and being put into bondage, she seized the opportunity to put my sensitivity to the test. Helpless to stop her, all I could do was watch, feel, and struggle in the restraints as she set the pace, teasing and pleasing to her heart's content.

3/7/2018 4:12:57 PM: Some randomness to give a better view into my thoughts.• Consent - Everyone participating consents to the activities discussed during negotiation. While a partner may be inexperienced, playing naive, or playfully resisting for the purpose of the scene, forced and non-consensual activities will not occur. • Affection - I will always be an affectionate partner. While the activity and pleasure in a scene may be one-sided, the connection and affection between the players should not be. • Bondage - Soft and decorative, or heavy and functional, including some element of bondage and restraint is adored and likely. Bondage can be enjoyed as a prelude to other activities, or simply enjoyed for it's own sake. • Role Reversal - As much as I enjoy being in control, the thought of being bound helplessly by a possessive lover has great appeal. Being helpless while a lover teases and pleases offers a unique freedom for me to selfishly enjoy the experience because I'm not in control of it. 

1/26/2018 1:13:12 PM: Related Rant: I'm sure you're very good at your job Mistress, and there are plenty of submissives willing to pay a fiscal price for your services. I want to be valued for the person I am, not the balance of my accounts.

1/26/2018 1:05:41 PM: Minor Rant: 'I want to serve and be used.' is a lazy answer. Put some thought into it, have some preferences and show that you are a unique individual.

1/21/2018 9:28:11 PM: The Chastity Experiment ContinuesOver the last couple of weeks I've been spending more and more time locked in both the Utimi (see photo) and the CB6000. While I have yet to spend an overnight locked, I have spent up to 12-18 hours locked per day. So far, the Utimi is the clear winner in terms of getting locked and remaining locked comfortably. Something about the CB6000 that I haven't yet identified gets slightly uncomfortable after several hours. It could be the Utimi is slightly larger inside making for a better fit, and it's design is more breathable compared to the CB6000.Mentally I'm starting to notice a subtle change while locked. Again, I'm not entirely sure how to describe it. I'm going to be paying more attention as I continue experimenting in hope the feelings grow over time. Physically it's been impossible to forget that I am locked. There's an almost reassuring presence and (modest) weight to the cage that I rather enjoy. The next phase of the experiment in chastity will focus more on being aroused while locked and how that feels. Up until this point I have been largely avoiding sources of arousal, but confident in the fit and comfort of the cage I'm looking forward putting it to a more.. rigorous test.