4/20/2018 2:04:19 PM: An extraordinary Domme on this site passed this on to me. And I concur .... wholeheartedly. Men who involve themselves in FLR are much more astute than their counterparts. It takes an extraordinary personality type to attract and maintain a relationship with a Goddess who is capable of leading in a Female Led Relationship. A weak minded partner would not last because a Goddess would not have the time, energy or inclination to play games with him. A man involved in a FLR is an asset to the Goddess he is connected to and very likely an asset to the lives of everyone he encounters because he is wise, skilled and unconventional. He is smart enough to attach himself to greatness when he sees it.

3/18/2018 2:37:26 PM: I found this well written piece on Tumblr and just had to share.Thank you to Lifelockedinacage: Being a good servant means developing and investing in your skills. Let’s be real - most women don’t want naked men sitting around in rope and collars begging to serve. Most Dominant women I’ve met are practical, have specific needs and desires, and always have things that have to be done that prevent them from doing the things they want to do.  If you really want to serve a Dominant woman, it’s important to give some thought to her inevitable question: “How would you serve to make my life easier/better/enjoyable/successful?” And no, being her sex slave, or ‘doing anything she wants’ is not a suitable answer. Neither is offering to clean her house but being shit at it, or being her chauffeur but then expecting other things from her. After all, you don’t employ a plumber who then pesters you to whip him… A suitable response is: • Cooking meals for you during the week when you are busy with work • Running your errands so you don’t have to sit in traffic or take time off • Preparing, organizing and cleaning up your parties or social events • Building and fixing things around the house and car • Meticulously cleaning your car and home each week • Preparing your home after returning from travel - groceries, airing, fresh sheets • Preparing and managing your travel - luggage, lists, mail, visas, bookings • Detailed research and documentation for things you want or need to buy • Sewing repairs, washing, folding, ironing, and putting your clothes away • Buying gifts for your family, colleagues and friends for each occasion • Performing pedicures and manicures to a professional standard • Being your personal shopper doing pickups, returns, and exchanges • Finding and curating things you enjoy - music, art, experiences, foods, people • Providing physical help or assistance to any of your friends and family Oh, and when doing these tasks, don’t expect to be sitting around naked in a collar with a butt plug in - unless that’s what SHE wants! These things aren’t sexual. They’re useful. They’re valuable. They free her up so she can enjoy her life, and explore and grow her empowerment. All that you do ADDS to her life. It improves it. It enables her to grow.  You must be good at these things. Go and learn if you need to. Take a class, or contribute your professional skills. If you don’t have skills, or anything you can think of, you’re simply not ready to serve another person in a meaningful way. Go and work on yourself first. Go make yourself valuable for her. It’s an important thing as a man to truly know your own value, and what you can bring to a woman’s life. Being a submissive servant doesn’t mean being a doormat; it means being empowered that her needs and desires are your own, and you can meet them to a standard that exceeds her expectations. Your unhinged horniness and a willingness to spend money to relieve aforementioned horniness, is simply not enough - nor appropriate. If you do have skills, experience, or ability, then really put yourself in her shoes before engaging your mouth / fingertips. Learn about her and what matters to her. Her goals, her ambitions, her ideas, and her dreams. Offer things you can do and give that matter to HER. If you have something to offer that doesn’t matter to her, either develop a skill that does, or find another woman who wants what you have to give. If she’s smart, she will value you and give you just the right amount to keep you enthralled, engaged, and fed, but still hungry and eager to serve. Her empowerment will expand in time; you’ll definitely notice. Your submission will deepen in time; you’ll definitely notice. If she’s not smart, she’ll take advantage of you without valuing you and mistake her sense of self-appointed entitlement as empowerment and domination. Dominant leadership is about inspiring a submissive to view serving them as an opportunity to fulfill their highest purpose; Dominant management is about demanding compliance and obedience because she said so. They might sound similar in the short run, but in the long term, one leads to fulfilling your purpose as a submissive, while the other leads to a life of unmet expectations and resentment. Be smart - you can have the lifestyle you’ve dreamed of, but the secret isn’t that you just need to find a Dominant woman. It’s that you need to develop yourself in both skills and attitude to such an extent that you are undeniably valuable to her. Women are smart - they protect and take ownership of what works for them.

12/4/2017 7:12:54 PM: A friend sent this to me, and I absolutely LOVE it. Imperfect Dominant’s CharterI will fuck up, more than once. On at least one of those occasions, you will suffer because of it.I will not always be good enough, or strong enough, or wise enough.I won’t treat you as you deserve to be treated all the time. I will have bad days and that will affect how I am with you.I will give in to my emotions sometimes, and you will see me in a light that you may not want to as a result.Sometimes, the dynamic that we have worked so hard to create will be the last thing on Earth I want to think about.I will misread you, and misunderstand you.I won’t always know what you are feeling, even if you tell me. My responses to that will be incorrect, and will make things worse.My life will get in the way of our relationship, and what we want from each other. I will not always handle this as well as I could.I will depend on you, and I will need you to guide me sometimes.I will ask you to make decisions when you want me to make them, because I am not able to do so at that time.I will not always give you as much attention as you need. And I won’t realize that I have done this.I will lose my patience with you sometimes.I will not always be able to give you what you want, now or in the future.I will suffer from jealousy and insecurity. And you will suffer from my jealousy and insecurity in turn.I will not always deserve you, nor understand what you see in me.Just as you crave my attention, sometimes I will crave for you to leave me alone.I will not always communicate with you as well as I should. I will want to keep things to myself that I shouldn’t, and some of the things I do share with you, I will do so in an unhelpful way.There will be times when I am happy when you aren’t, and resent that you don’t match my mood. There will be times when I am unhappy when you aren’t, and resent that you don’t match my mood.I will feel guilty about what you give me, and inadequate about what I give to you.I won’t always like you, nor you always like me.We will argue and disagree, and we won’t always handle this like adults.I will forget things, important things that matter to you, and will need to be reminded of them.I will struggle with my own rules.I will sometimes be unable to take control of myself, let alone another.I will sometimes resent the responsibility our relationship places on me.But most importantly:I will accept that while neither of us want any of the above to happen, sooner or later it will. And while I will always be at my best when trying to be the perfect Dominant, I will get closest to that by accepting that I am not.

9/26/2017 3:21:21 PM: The image of a knight on bended knees to his Goddess, his Queen, is enough to cause one's heart to dance with delight.

9/26/2017 3:12:21 PM: Received a question today that surfaced up this thought: How powerfully arousing a man's submission is. The exchange of power is really quite heady. How it takes a really strong, resourceful and resilient man to be happy as a submissive. How the trust and respect of a submissive man will make your spirits soar. That such men are rare and when found they are to be treasured, cared for, loved and valued.