You know you have reached the full depth and understanding of this lifestyle when you realize that at the heart of all the deviance and the darkness lies a different form of                                                          LOVE .

Not the traditional romantic love but deep and sincere love nonetheless and even more complete

It is a love that manifests in a different way.It demands more.It is deeper and stronger.

At it's very essence there is complete union between the master and the slave.Out of the duality of master and slave stems complete unity.They are no longer two anymore .For the slave the master is the purpose and object of her unlimited love to her master.She loves him so completely and full that she can give up her free will and surrender her body and soul to the will of her master.Her love is so complete that it expresses itself as a complete denial of her ego and sense of self .She is not a separate soul anymore.She is secure and happy because she gave all what she was so that she becomes what she is.Her destiny is in his hand.Her body for him.Her heart for him.Her dreams for him.Her worship for him.He is her lover,father,friend,master,owner,teacher,mentor,protector,abuser,jailer.she lives for him and through him.What a crazy lover a slave is.

He is as crazy as she is.He loves her so much that he wants every bit of her for himself.He wants her to give up everything just so that he knows how much she loves him.He is such a possessive lover he wants her whole existence to be for him.He wants to be everything for her.He is not just her lover but also her god.He gives her her livelihood for without his love she is a tortured soul with no hope of ever being happy.It is the only way he can love.He simply does not believe in love that compromises and love that is incomplete.He wants all of her and willing to take on life by himself to protect her and keep her for himself and only for himself.He will protect her from all harm because without her he knows he is incomplete.A tortured soul since it is only through her complete surrender of herself he can feel loved and he can love.

In traditional love a man and a woman are two separate circles that intersect.They have a common zone where they are one inside the intersection and a private zone outside the intersection where each is an individual unit functioning separately.The bigger the area in the middle the better the relationship but it is never complete since there is always the zone outside and two separate selves.Because both have to maintain a separate sense of ego and without the complete denial of the ego there is no complete love.

In a master slave relationship the two circles keep moving to the center till the intersection disappears and the two circles become one circle.There is duality in it but it is their duality that completes the circle.