PeregrineLady

I've been surprised and pleased by the number and quality of messages I've gotten since I got back on CM a few days ago. Unfortunately, I just got some bad news that's going to be distracting me for a little while, so my responses may be a little slow and/or random. So if you are interested in messaging me, please be patient, and if we aren't already exchanging messages, you might be better off waiting to contact me until life settles down.

I've been stood up twice this week, I'm pissed off at the world in general, and I'm tired of wasting my time. If we are not already having a conversation this is NOT a good time to message me, if you have read my profile you will get a polite note telling you 'not now' and if you haven't you will (as usual) just get deleted.

So yeah, please take the warning and leave me alone. I hate being a bitch but I'm making an exception this week.

I want a relationship. I want someone who I can connect with, who will be apart of my life. But some days I just want someone who will do whatever the fuck I tell him, who will be maid and secretary and errand boy, and take some of the pressure off of me because between children, work, medical shit, legal shit, I bloody well can't keep up. Which doesn't sound very impressive coming from a dom, but fuck it I'm a person too. A person who doesn't have time to breath, and needs very much to have to have someone kneel at her feet and take care of her for a change, because I am sick to death of taking care of everyone and everything else.

Well, time will bring what it will. Right now I have shopping to do.

Got another message today from a middle eastern man (ie, living in the middle east) seemly sent at random, and sounding pretty desperate.

I deleted it, because there is nothing I can offer a man across the ocean from me.

Conventional wisdom is that these men are scammers, fakes, trolls and a bunch of other unflattering terms. And I'm sure for some of them, this is true. God knows there are plenty of scammers fakes and trolls in the 'good ole US of A', and every other place I am familiar with, so I can't imagine they don't exist in the mideast as well.

But I doubt all of them are. Some of them, maybe even most of them, are real submissive men seeking what we are all seeking - a relationship where their sexuality and identification on the BDSM spectrum is acceptable and valued.

Honestly, I feel sorry for them. As hard as it is for submissive men here, or in Europe, how much harder must it be for a submissive man - a man who wants to be dominated by a woman - in a society and culture where women are barely even seen as people, and men are supposed to rule over them in every way.

But however well or poorly I may recognize the difficulty they face, and understand their honest need to find someone who will accept them, I wish they were stop messaging me. I have nothing to offer you, please leave me alone.

I've gotten some interest lately from folks who've noticed the mention of trans in my profile, to thought I should clarify my thoughts.

My understanding of the terms:

Transgender - a person whose gender is different from the one hey are assigned at birth. Yes, you are welcome to message me, no I don't fetishize your gender. yes, your gender is whatever you say it is and I really don't care what shape your genitalia is in--that's your business unless you choose to share it.

Crossdressing/Transvestite - someone who enjoys dressing up in clothing and/or make up typically associated with a gender other then your own. Yes, I will be glad to integrate your crossdressing into the dynamic if that's what you want. No, I'm not going to fetishize your crossdressing.

Sissies - men who want a domme to 'turn them into a woman' for some fetish reason. Please do not apply. If it works for you, great, but take it somewhere else.

Hoping this clarifies my thoughts and preferences a bit, take care all.