I have read in a few places that 'Submission is the dynamic in a relationship wherein one of the partners takes the passive or receptive role'.
I beg to differ with that definition, in how I see submission as being the dynamic wherein the submissive offers himself and his obedience to the Dominant partner in such a way where he responds to her Dominance not merely by passive acceptance but active acceptance and feedback so as to enable the two to share a successful, flourishing, dynamic relationship.
It is also a role wherein the submissive cedes power, and it is important for the submissive to realize that he is also an active part of the dynamic by means of this ceding power, although it is the Dominant's to take.
The submissive also cedes control, which although linked to power is yet another feature that drives a D/s relationship.
If I were to rephrase the definition, I would say, 'Submission is the dynamic in a relationship wherein one of the partners takes an active receiving and obedient role, ceding control and power to the Dominant partner thereby wanting/ yearning to win the favor of the Dominant partner in whatever way possible and appreciated by Her.' |