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Hello. i am a submissive male, who loves to cross dress. i also have a career and a life outside my submissive interests. i have a variety of hobbies an interests in the "vanilla world;" quotes because i am hesitant to separate my submissive identity from the rest of my life. It is really just one world, one life, being submissive is part of who i am. But in reality, compartmentalizing is a necessary thing sometimes for us to stay sane. i am trying to embrace my submissive desires, and am seeking more of a balance to life.
i have been in the scene for about 15 years now, "cutting my teeth" at Hellfire back in the day in NYC. I've come a long way from there. i have many interests, and i like to be creative and diverse, but above all, i truly desire to serve. To exist for the use and pleasure of my Superior, no matter what She may require. i expect nothing in return, other than a chance to prove my worth as Her subservient.
i believe that limits are important, and communication is paramount, but i have come to understand the following about limits and punishment...
Any punishment, or any attention at all for that matter, given to the slave should be accepted as a gift that is to be shown gratitude for by pushing his limits for Her. he should never forget that the punishment is for Her pleasure, not his, even is he happens to be somewhat of a masochist. he should strive to go beyond his limits to please Her.
In addition, when a punishment is deemed necessary to correct behavior, in the case of a slave failing to meet the expectations of his Superior, the Mistress has every right to ignore limits and deal a harsh and severe punishment. This is so the slave suffers, and hopefully serves to prevent future failings.
In that sense, limits and safe words merely serve as a guide. When the slave submits, he is willingly submitting himself to Her, therefore he trusts Her to do what She deems necessary at any given time. A safe word simply communicates to Her that a limit is being approached or exceeded...it is always Her right to proceed as She sees fit.
I understand the above views may not be shared by all, and my expression of my own, are in no way a suggestion for anyone to exceed limits in a way they don't feel comfortable doing. I guess you can say it is a form of "edge play," but I never really considered slapping that label on it. For me, it is more of the submission, and sort of letting go. I guess it is tied to pain and punishment, but i am not a pain slut by any stretch. i truly like to push myself FOR Her. I guess that depends on whether She likes that sort of thing.
i will strive to push myself in other ways, if She requires.
If You deem me worthy for consideration, i humbly await Your instructions.
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