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Journal Entry : 03/09/2011

Damn, I'm starting to feel like I'm on a slow kick or something.  Fired off a few messages, not thing prewritten, rude, crude, or demanding but just a few polite introduction messages to a few people over the last few days and every single one of them has either been not read (after 3 days with them on more than I am) or deleted unread.  Hell, people with no profile pictures or even very detailed profiles are deleting my messages now without reading them...a guy could develop a complex here!

Now, on the real world front.  I'm growing tired of independent consulting, yes, its great hours but the money is slow and the lulls genuinely suck...I've never been a guy who can be happy sitting on his ass doing absolutely nothing, I've even taken to cleaning my house multiple times a day while waiting for clients to get back to me or between emails and that is just WRONG! No man is intended to be that bored! ;)

So, today I updated my resume and threw about 45 applications in to companies all around Phoenix in my field and we'll see where they go.  I've also been following up with the Sheriff's Department and Local Police Departments I've applied to and so far have just been getting a lot of nothing from them as well.

Is March the month of spinning one's wheels?  Am I getting the Arizona Summer Blues early this year?

I know it'll all snap into place, I'll get the response from a girl I messaged that I really want eventually, I'll find other things to occupy my time and such but until then, maybe I'll go find out how many licks it takes to get to the center of a tootsie-roll pop...

Journal Entry : 2/18/2011

Another kinda short and bland entry...  The weekend is here and I'm just finding myself both apprehensive and nervous about how this interview I had went...in addition to that...doesn't look like I have much planned for the weekend so I am going to bet it'll be a long and boring one...we'll see, maybe a friend will come through with something worth doing this weekend.

Journal Entry : 2/14/2011

It is said that an overactive mind is the sign of intelligence...I suppose that makes me one of the most intelligent people I know because my brain is racing 30 miles a minute and there is absolutely no way I have been able to sleep tonight...

Got approached about a position doing computer work in Manhattan last night, could be interesting so I'll have to keep this updated...  Most of it will be Telecommute but I have yet to find a job like this that doesn't require some form of in-person presence.

Just a short one this time, and honestly one of my first journal entries about me...insomnia does weird things to your mind...

Journal Entry : 2/13/2011

As normal, I have no plans or anything really to do on Valentines Day...  I know it's bad to say but sometimes it just feels like a card holiday to me, probably because it's been so long since the last time I had someone to really enjoy it with.

Admittedly it'd be great to spend a day with a lovely submissive and use rolls of Red and Pink duct tape on her in the mood of the holiday but for some reason I just don't see that happening by tomorrow...

Oh well, I tend to try and keep my mood up and not post depressing entries!  I wish a Happy Valentines Day to everyone out there getting to spend it with their special someone!  Enjoy it, cherish them, and guys...keep those girls tied tight and cherished and never, ever, ever forget to make sure they know how you feel about them...doesn't matter if you're a Dom, no rules state you can let your girl know what she means to you. :)

Journal Entry : 2/12/2011

So, I have a tendency to read profiles and people's journals and send them little notes regarding them, especially when I can do it when they are feeling down and out or discouraged and most of the time get little responses back...

Now what I am curious is, this is a completely no motives thing I do, I just like to try and improve people's day or help them feel better when the morons out there in the CM pool start ragging on these perfectly normal and mostly intelligent girls because they may not fit into the cookie cutter idea of what a sub is to the HNG sending the hateful message...but sometimes I get no response and I'm wondering if people think it might be me just trying to make a come-on or pass at them...  I mean 99% of the time the messages are read, and 99% of those get just little nice responses...but that last 1%...do they feel I'm trying to come onto them or something because there are just THAT FEW people on CM that are real enough to care that they want to just try and make a complete stranger feel a little better about herself?

I guess I'll probably never know, but, I just feel that it's important that (as a Dom and as a human being) I take the time to just try and help where my 'peers' (meaning other Dom/Dommes) cause damage...not looking or asking for anything, just hoping for a smile and to make the person feel a little better and replace that negative experience with a positive one.

Who knows, but if you happen to get a message from me, just a short little clip about your journal or something along those lines, please understand that I'm not looking for anything from you, just trying to make you feel a little better given I know how bad things can really be both in normal life and on this site...

Journal Entry : 02/09/2011

I've posed on them before, but...  Pro-Domme's (aka: Money Whores).  Ok, being Male I have to say that 99% of the time my gender really embarrasses me with their conduct, actions, behaviors, and general attitudes...however...I think the home-team finally has put one out of the park that I can be a lot more proud of!  If you read journals on CM, and I do frequently, you will find T O N S of malesubs complaining about how they sent money to some Pro-Domme (again, see 'Money Whore') who just deleted her account or something equally as stupid or you see profiles saying "Who is going to buy me this today." from one of these Money Whores...  Now I present to you a question, when was the last time (I know there has to be a few out there) you saw a Male's promales that in order to qualify for his time she has to send him money or buy things from his amazon wishlist...  No really, go ahead, think about it...I'll wait...  EXACTLY!  I couldn't find one either!  FINALLY, something I can be proud of for my gender (admittedly it's probably because they'd rather get the girl, have sex with her, and throw her away but I'm going to pretend there is a more honorable reason here...) for in the D/s community!

You know what really scares me about these Money Whores are that they have males LINED UP to give them stuff in the HOPES they get something in return...SERIOUSLY!!!  Guys, sub or not, grow a fracking backbone and stop sending stuff to these people, I mean come on!  I'm going to assume you all work for your money, if you want to piss it away go to a casino where at least you stand a change of coming out with something!

God I wish I knew what the secret was to get stupid people to just give me money for doing nothing, go figure right?  Maybe I should post my Amazon Wishlist and make grandiose comments like they do...naaah, I have a bit more self respect than that.

Journal Entry : 02/07/2011

Hey everyone, been a while since my last one of these...life has been hell and just now getting back to doing some things I actually enjoy...

Now, I've been asked by several submissives how do I see a first meeting or a normal day in the life of me and my chosen submissive going.  This is an interesting question and it has required quite a bit of thought so I'm going to try to answer this a bit from both perspectives...

First Meeting

First off, unlike many here I don't involve any form of vaginal sex in the first meeting, I mean, come on...  Now that that is out of the day, the first meeting is a very fact-finding expedition on both sides I feel.  My ideal situation is to first meet in a public place, a park, mall, fast food place, anything where there are other people.  Why?  SAFETY FOR EVERYONE!  I will chose the outfit she will be wearing for the meeting not only for the D/s aspect of it but also to make identification a bit easier...

Once we meet, the girl gets to see me, talk to me a bit and realize I'm not some axe wielding mass murder looking to do horrible and unspeakable things to her like we've heard happens to people who meet from the Internet.  While this is going on, sit, talk, discuss things and just feel each other out, this can be very different than online if one party is not being themselves in their profiles or messages.

Once that comfort level has been built, I like to take things up to the second level to give her an opportunity to experience a little submission at my hands, this can be something as simple as verbal commands for her stance, walking, arm placement and the like all the way up to going back to her place for a limited bondage session, these type of things are discussed ahead of time and not just sprung on either of us at the time of the meeting.

What type of things happen during the bondage sessions in private for this level of meeting?  Simple, given we have already been talking for a while and built up our trust levels with each other things will go similar to this...assuming we get back to her place, a chair will be placed in the center of the room for me to sit in...the girl will be stripped, bound hand and foot kneeling, blindfolded and most likely gagged for some part of the session.  She will be placed kneeling infront of me where we can continue our talk, if she isn't gagged.  Most of the time at this step there are some gentle caresses exchanged to her, hair, neck, cheek.  At the end of this time we will say our goodbyes and separate.   This will give us both time to think over the encounter, this will let us both decide if we should continue the experience or move on to other people.

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Now, the day in the life of a girl who has already passed through this and become my collared true slave...

At this point things will no doubt have moved to 24/7 in-person so she will be allowed to continue to work, this allows for her to contribute to our living expenses and such however it will not distract from her domestic duties.

While at home she will be kept in a set of wrist and ankle locked restraints in addition to her full time collar (most likely eternity collar as they are very easily passed off in normal life as a necklace) and her chastity belt.

Domestic duties will be your normal cleaning and such, depending on the girl cooking and such will be shared and even as the Dominant I have no problem chipping in to help do laundry or other tasks when they need to be done...

Most of our other time will be done with, gasp, normal every day activities.  Watching movies, reading books, spending time on the computer, going for walks, going out shopping (aside from her belt and collar I will work with her desires to help her keep as close to a vanilla appearance in her outside life) or even spending time with friends.  Most of these activities will take on a D/s atmosphere and different levels of restraint will be applied for different activities.

Going out with friends is perfectly fine, the only requirement is that she keep updated as to her location while she's out and that isn't because of some weird control fetish, its because I tend to just like to know where she is in case of emergency.

All in all it will be normal life with a BDSM twist to it, restraints, confinement, rules and requirements while still being able to function like normal people...though there is something cute about your slave girl kneeling in front of the couch in an armbinder and on a leash while watching a movie as you caress her hair and brush it slowly...

Hope this helps!

Journal Entry : 11/09/2010

Time for a topic I enjoy talking on...

Chastity.

For starters, I'm very pro-femsub chastity, every girl I work with or train ends up chaste at some point in time because I feel it's a very strong control method...  It is for the most part painless and not difficult to attain but any femsub will tell you that her Dom/Trainer/Master controling her sexuality first off arouses her but also is a very strong symbol of control.

Now the question is, why do so few MaleDoms use this wonderful tool?  You look at through the pictures here on CollarMe and you'll see that virtually all FemDoms use chastity cages on their malesubs, yet when scanning through femsubs you'll see virtually no chastity belts on these girls!

There is a really largely held common misconception that females don't masturbate like guys, of the girls I know most of them masturbate longer, more deeply, and more often than most guys do which makes a chastity belt an ideal additional layer of control for her.

Another thought is perhaps a female belt is too expensive?  A few strips of duct tape can effectively seal a girl into chastity, or there are lower cost leather belts all over the internet, or if it's a collared slave where is the harm in spending (or having her spend for you) to get a perfectly secure chastity belt for her.  Yes, she will hate it at first, you're taking her sexuality and locking it up and away from her, but you'll quickly notice the longer she is unable to please herself the more she wants it, more more she will do to get any form of physical contact beyond her belt...

What it boils down to is a lack of MaleDom control here, in some ways they still let their subs/slaves control them because guys would rather watch a cute girl spread her pussy open for viewing than take that extra level of control and lock her up...  We use locking collars, locking cuffs...but we leave these girls unlocked in the most important of spots...  Most femsubs would prefer their Dom/Master not think about this part either, we can normally leave their collars on and locked in their day to day lives, but not their cuffs...but a chastity belt doesn't need to be unlocked, it can be left secure under her clothes until YOU decide it's time to enjoy your girl...

I challange my fellow Doms/Masters out there to take control of your sub/slave, even if you just seal their pussies up with duct tape or if you go all out and lock them in a steel chastity belt...take control of your girl's sexuality and enjoy the rewards you get from it!

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Journal Entry : 11/07/2010

For Profit Domme's

WOW!  Where do I sign up!  LOL.  I mean reading through journal entries I've found some REAL gems, women saying that the first "pig" or "loser" to send them amazon gift cards or paypal cash can get an hour of time with them...$30/$50...  I mean, wow!

I mean, seriously, where can a guy sign up to insult people and get them to pay me for the privilage short of joining the Army / Marine Corps and becoming a Drill Instructor!

Perhaps I should take the advice of a couple of subs so far and start my own D/s training academy and get Doms/Master and subs/slaves to pay me to train their girls and help them learn to experience things to make their lives and the lives of their Dom better...but I suppose that would still be different given I wouldn't be insulting them and I'd actually be doing something for the money...

The entire concept of someone saying, "If you want to be Dommed by me, pay me money" is baffling to me, I mean, look around people...there is no shortage of Doms on this site!  Is there some magic behind these for profit Dommes that I am not seeing, something that makes them better than all the rest of those out there doing the exact same things for free?

Like how many licks it takes to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop, I guess we may never know...

I guess, as a Dom, I just find the entire concept as a bit of a slight against the rest of us give these 'For Profit' people are just giving us all a bad name, making us look like we have no care or concern for the subs we may work with but instead are just concerned with who can fill our wallets fastest.  Don't get me wrong, I'd love cute subbie girls to just throw money at me (who wouldn't) but I just don't see where charging them to time with me gets them any closer to the Dominance they crave or me to finding a girl who is what I seek, turning a sub into a cash cow isn't what we are here for I didn't think...

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Journal Entry : 11/05/2010

So, I took a few hours today and just read through both Dom/me and sub/slave profiles today and I found two very common themes...

Theme 1:  So and So is a fake

Wow.  Just, wow.  Yes, CollarMe appears to have more fakes in it than an Elvis convention but lets be honest people, they aren't really hard to spot.  If a girl happens to be 18 years old, wants everything under the sun done to her, has only model caliber pictures, and a very, very vague profile text...yes, please, for the love of god be cautious.  I mean, come on people we all know that at some point in time or another we've ALL embelished something about ourselves on the internet and for the most part in a personal profile or something similar is a VERY tastey opertunity for people to do so.

Honestly it's one of the reasons I prefer to start off talking to people without profile pictures or with profile pictures that are VERY obviously real, yes, there are many beautiful young women out there wanting to get into BDSM and yes, just like every other warm blooded american male I wouldn't mind being the Dom to one of these beautiful young women...but ultimately isn't who they are as people, as submissives, more important than the eyecandy?

Most of the time you can identify a fake right away in a first message, they all seem to have the same type of story and the same desires and the same limitations on them so for all these people out there who keep saying they get tired of the fake subs/slaves...perhaps it's because you keep hunting the same type of girls down instead of taking a minute to look for one who may not be the Polished Diamond with Model Photos but may indeed be the Diamond in the rough who is depressed that she can't seem to get anyone to notice her in the sea of model photos...  Just a thought...

Theme 2:  I've been on CollarMe for XXX amount of time and I can't find anyone who isn't a fake!

Wow, how did we end up at the fake part again.  Instead of being even more long winded than I normally am, I'll just say...  Please see above.

Now, we are all wanting and looking for someone, do I have my doubts I'll ever find the perfect sub/slave for me?  Yes, I honestly do, it's called being human.  I've helped and trained so many girls over the years without really being selfish enough to keep them for myself that I figure one day karma will stop kicking me in the ass and come around and deliver a perfect package on my doorstep for me.  Why do I encourage a submissive to contact me first?  Simple...how many fakes are going to spend the time writing to ME?  They are already getting messaged by 500 HNGs (Horny Net Geeks) per day that they don't need to waste their time contacting me, a real Dom who will very quickly identify them for what they are anyway, or even better...they have nothing to gain by contacting me.

To each their own, and my wish is that everyone on CollarMe and beyond can find the girl that they are looking for...but please, if you're going to spend 50 profile entries saying "So and So is a fake" or similar, save it because all it does is demoralize everyone else.  If you look hard enough, look long enough, you will find what you are looking for...it just takes time. :)

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Journal Suppliment : 11/04/2010

After doing some reading and seeing a lot of subs marked as being very new or inexperienced to BDSM and the D/s community in general, I would like to open my Journal up to be the occasional open forum for questions that subs would like a Dom to answer...

I invite any female submissive, new or experienced, collared or looking to send me a message if they have a question they would like to ask a Dom but don't know where to turn.  No questions asked, no strings attached...if I can help answer the question I'd be happy to and if I can help any girl improve her experience in her BDSM / D/s life then I'm all for it.  If the girl doesn't mind, I'll post her name and her question (or if she doesn't want her name just her question) and the reply to it in my normal journal postings.

I rather enjoy writing so I feel this is an opertunity to show a bit of Maledom intelligence to the community that is very use to males being much more "Me Tarzan, You Jane" style anymore.

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Journal Entry : 11/04/2010

What can I say, my faith in CollarMe has been somewhat restored.  No, really, read on...

Out of the blue the other day I got a message from someone that wasn't a form letter or that looked like the individual had difficulty graduating the third grade.  The message was well thought out, interesting, and thought provoking...on CollarMe that almost gave me a heart attack.

Being that I've chosen to keep my picture private for only select individuals that I feel are interested/interesting I find that most of the time my messages get ignored, deleted, or otherwise thrown to the wayside even by other people without pictures which I find endlessly funny, however this person not only wasn't ignoring or deleting things but infact engaging me in intelligent conversation.

We've discussed our thoughts on D/s, on abuse, on respect...and it feels really good to know that there is another person out there willing to give the entire topic real thought and that maybe, just maybe, there are other people on CollarMe who don't view it as a meatmarket or a amature picture dump.

I still find myself seeking a girl to teach, train, expand, and help experience things with and given my lack of a picture I'm pretty sure that won't change anytime soon...but with that being said, hopefully there are others out there just as intelligent and not struck on seeing a piece of meat before talking to someone out there on CollarMe simply looking for an excuse to message someone and say "Hello" or check their compatability.

Lets be honest people, we are all here for a reason or another, and most likely that reason is we are seeking something...but is what we are seeking a picture, a faded hope of what someone may or may not look like (lets be honest, how many people here put up a realistic looking picture instead of one that makes them look like a God or Goddess) or are we seeking the person who might match up to what we want, what we hope for, and are willing to risk putting ourselves out there a bit to find them.

The question to finding that which we seek is...who is willing to take the first step...are you?

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