OHReality

The beauty of anticipation and creating bdsm. ?I find bdsm is better planned. We all want someone who reads us and gives us our desires when we want them. It fails because it?s indirect communication?mind reading. We want the person to do what we want because they want to, not because it?s what we want. It is easier to get what we want by being direct, although most dominants will call this dominating from the bottom. This is why smart ass masochists tend to be successful. The direct communication is acting as a smart ass. The expected result is the masochism they receive. Unfortunately, there is a movement to make dominance illegal. I feel this is why most who claim to be dominant lack the ability to take or do as you mentioned. ?You want the trust and safety that they will take and do when you want it. They want the trust and safety to take or do when they want it. The direct communication only needs to happen one time and any time the desires or feelings change. I like to use this to build anticipation. I think this is part of why dominants rent to have rules and give tasks. I love to tie and tease/edge, you like to be tied and spanked, both are great activities. The question is what happens when you don?t want or when the dominant doesn?t? Can you submit when the dominant wants and you don?t? Can you submit when something outside of your control has initiated his dominance? Can you initiate his dominance when he doesn?t want?