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About Observantpet
Hello, I am new to this site, I actually don't get on these things because I can't imagine how they could do anything for me, but I'm giving it a shot so, I would not say that I am closed-minded, just not experienced.
I am a natural submissive, meaning all that I am and do reflects my submissive nature. Like so many natural subs, I have a demanding job that requires absolute discretion as I work with many organizations. I am a workaholic, and an alpha female, when it comes to the boardroom. Not so at home.
With the right person I am demure, can hold long conversations over a variety of issues; I am well spoken and very smart. I'm also observant and obedient.
I love photography, motorcycles, fine art, and travel. I hike, camp, hunt and fish. I have lived in several states, in the U.S., due to growing up in the military and as an adult I continued to travel, alone, all over the country. To say that I am "well-rounded" would be an understatement.
All that being said, I am also married and was collared, to my spouse, 5 years ago. Sadly, we have hit a significant lull and I am having a great deal of difficulty adjusting. That does not mean, if you are a predator seeking easy prey, that I am what you're looking for. Far from it.
I am not at all unfamiliar with D/s as I lived the lifestyle, collared, for 10 years prior to that.
If you do not take care of yourself, are too overweight, and look like you could be my daddy, you're not the right kind of daddy for me. I do have an appreciation for the youngers sex, I will admit. Right now, however, the goal is seeking friends and trying to figure out what I am doing, if anything at all, as well as seeking conversation with others in the lifestyle. If things develop between myself and another person, so be it...we will know it is right.
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I'm really tiring of this website....or maybe it's not the website so much as I feel like I'm at a bar or a job interview. The bar because of all the sloppy drunks that keep hitting on me or the job interview for those who have a million questions but aren't interested in actually talking.
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Today has been craaaazy hectic which is why I haven't been online checking my messages. The day before Thanksgiving meant cooking and decorating the house for Christmas. We have a friend staying with us who is not of this nationality and has never celebrated Christmas so the teens got the wild idea of pulling out the tree and decorations and showing him the fun of it all. It was awesome....but again, hectic.
Did I mention a tree (huge pine tree!) almost hit me? Yep, you read that correctly, lol. It was scary and awesome all at the same time! :D
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Today will mostly be spent cooking the things I can cook in advance. The ham, deviled eggs, the cobblers....tonight will do the dressing (I just LOVE day old dressing!) and cranberry side with FRESH cranberries. Late tonight I will throw the turkey in the oven and let it cook until morning. (24 pound bird needs a lot of slow oven time)
Yep...............it's gonna be a long one. Spending time around a table full of people you hardly know, don't really care to know, and would be happier had they just stayed home.
Yep.
Good times.
Happy Thanksgiving E/everyone! :) |
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I don't know what people are talking about...."scammers", "fakes", "wannabes", "not genuine." Once you weed out the riff-raff there are some really polite, funny, genuine, real, and good people here.
Don't get me wrong, I continue to get messages from some very.....curious...men (I don't correspond with women) but I have to say.....
I'm happy to meet some of the gentlemen I have met (strictly online) thus far.
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We just met and you expect me to Skype with you immediately and call you Sir.
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BAAAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! |
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I have a sincere apology to make....
Because I am still new to CM I am not familiar with all of the options that are available...including mail. I just checked my 'bulk' mailbox and there are a TON of emails for me to read. I truly didn't know they were there and I apologize for coming across as rude.
I will read each note and answer them as time permits. I am not ignoring anyone- that's just not my nature. Apparently I set my mail settings quite strict (how/when did I do this?? LOL...Must've been in the middle of the night...too tired to be online) and a lot of emails have not gotten my attention.
Rest assured, I see you have written me and I will be writing you back soon.
Have a great day everyone! :) |
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Last night I was asked to make a list of my needs. I agreed to do so but have put a good deal of thought into it so as not to write down the frivilous wants I have, mistaking them for my actual needs. Here goes:
1) I *need* to have my boundaries respected. That doesn't mean they're not on the table for review, but if I say no...it's no.
2) I *need* to know I am safe at ALL times. I need to know that our conversations are safe, my opinions are safe, my feelings are safe. Always.
3)I *need* to be understood as a submissive - not a slave. They are *NOT* one in the same. A submissive has an oninion, a vote, and (and you Doms/Dommes know this is true....) the last word on what we will and will not do. Slaves do not have any of those things. They have no votes, rights, opinions and definitely NOT the last word. I am too career minded to shut myself down that completely so I cannot be confused with slaves.
4) I *need* to be cherished and the only way I know of to be cherished is by that special someone who takes the time to enter my mind, delve into the deepest parts of it and ravage it. I need him to lead me through the darkest parts of my mind and his own. There is no...**NO**...greater intimacy than what the human pysche has to offer and I enjoy and NEED that terribly in my life.
5) Most importantly, I *NEED* love. I am not a hunk of jerky...I am a person. I am delicate, cute, rough, funny, highly intelligent, an alpha female to others but a submissive to the right man. I am the first to point out that I am clueless about something and laugh at myself. I ride motorcycles, I get dirty, I milk cows, I chew with my mouth open (not a lot, but it happens, lol) I am ME and I am worthy of love. ALL creatures need love to survive....and I'm a bit of a Darwinist where that line of thought is concerned. ;-)
So, these are the few that come to mind immediately. I hope this list will suffice until that certain someone who does not see distance, or my current 'situation,' as a problem because both can be remedied. |
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Last thought for today:
When a submissive is being tied up in the shibari way, is she at least teased for her efforts of laying still for relentless hours?
Is that question allowed? lol |
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I just received this email:
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Your profile is intriguing to say the least. I've sent you a chat request; I expect you to accept it. Your future awaits.
Obviously someone did NOT read my profile and does NOT know how to enter a conversation with TACT and GENTLEMANLY behavior. I'm almost mad enough to cuss. ARGH!
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Yay for a holiday week to slow things down with work and give me some independent time to my thoughts. Or...heh...that could be bad. *chuckles*
The past few days I've been able to just sit quietly and read many profiles and journal entries from gentlemen who complain about the ladies who do not return your introductory email. I couldn't agree more....let me explain.
I acquaint it to walking down a sidewalk, facing one another, and as you pass one says to the other, "Hello. How are you?" The other person responding in kind with a polite smile or nod, "Fine, thank you." and both parties continue walking.
When someone sends an email, complimenting the other, or just showing an interest, a polite, "Thank you for your thoughts. Have a pleasant day" sends an appreciative smile and the understanding that there is not a mutual interest.
I've read a good bit, in several Dominate profiles, about the proper behavior for a submissive but, when setting the example I have noticed the same does not apply to the more dominant species.
Gentleman, if you continue to ignore the ladies, (we're not all 'bots'....I still dont know what those are...we're not all looking to play with your heart....we seek what you seek, thats why we're here) don't complain when they become cold. If you want to be an example to follow you must be worthy of the role of leader because it is you who sets the tone. |
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A good-bye is always nice...just kind've the polite thing to do. No? |
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I love dogs, but I am not one. I know my worth- I cherish it. The one I am with will cherish it, too. |
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There's always that fear that I text too much.... |
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Submission is not something to take lightly...it is a gift, the ultimate gift a submissive can give. It is her whole mind, soul, and body for you to treat as you see fit with agreed upon limits. She trusts her Master...and she wants to learn how to trust even more. This is not a light decision to make- to submit- to serve. For either parties. |
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What makes your toes curl, your cock and thrusts harder than usual? What brings out the inner beast that would never intentionally harm his beauty? What makes you hunt for what you seek? |
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Very interesting people here...Why did I get a message from someone in Canada? Curious. |
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