i was asked the other day by a submissive why gorean kajira hate subbies. i wanted to laugh..but i didnt. i turned it around and asked her the same question. in my travles i have discovered a deep seeded hatred between the two. i never understood this. while we are vastly different in many many aspects..are not our purposes the same? to please and be pleasing?
i was actually surpised when she answered. she told me a subby is s subby for herself. it s apart of her she was born with. she is not a submissive to please a Man. i ws beginning to be confused. my slvery is not for me. it is a part of me yes. but im not a slave for me. it as as must a part of me as breathing, as being female. my purpose...to serve and please, to be pleasing at all times.i exsist for a Masters touch..attention..guidance.. control.i guess a subbie is a subby just because she wants to be?
i do not hate submissive. and most kajia i know don't. but at the risk of getting slammed by mails from angry subbies. i have found most (NOT ALL) i met to be highly amusing..undisciplined, and childish, closet Doms. they get jollies off of making Doms quiver in fear of speaking wrong towards them. i have had wonderful times with many subby sisters and ive learned and respect many. but she was getting me angry so i spouted off the bad stuff i have observed.
yes..she started to get angry. i told her i have met many true and wonderful unselfish and humble submissives.,so she shot off saying well kajira are man stealers, attention whores, and doormats with no life of our own.
boy did i miss that memmo. i knew she was simply retaliating..so i didn't let her words bother me so i explianed..
1)we are trained to please and be pleasing at all times, in everything we do, say, feel.so while our actions appear to be "man" stealing, they are quite the opposite. why do you think so many Ds Sirs are finding kajira training for their own girls? why do you think many subbies adopt our habits, mannerisms and such? why do you think many will call themselves slaves instead of subbies? we exist to please. you just have to remember that pleasing...doesn't just mean lapping or sex. that's a very very narrow minded view.
2)attention whores? hardly. look at number one. and yes..while we love and crave a Masters attention, its not to get laid..or draw attention away from others in a room or setting. for us to pounce..and lap..and act bratty is an insult to our trainers, and those that travel our path. its an insult to our Masters if we have one. appearance means alot to us..how we represent ourselves and our life path is very formost in our minds. more often it brings unwanted attention and yes...the ire of submissives that may be around. but i don't exist to please subbies.
3) doormats, this is laughable. anyone that has read the books has had a chance to get to know kajira online and off will tell you we are NOT doormats. slaves get catty.. they fight. they get territorial, tho we try to be subtle about it and not show it. a good kajora is never idle. she is always busy doing something. a girl that just sits around waiting to serve or or pleasure a Master in his furs is rarely kept around.. in an online home..she si serving..writing.. teaching. (you think those chore and dance writings are easy??? try it sometime. we continuously learn about the world we chose to live in. in real life it took me almost 2 years to earn my red silks. and i earned them. nothing was ever given to me.there is so much soul searching your soul looks for its soul.
face it.. there are good and bad apples in all bunches. ive met some kajira that needed a reality check, and i know some subbies i admire. and i learn from them every chance i get.
so the hatred is ridiculous. the misunderstandings could easily be avoided if people took the time to learn why everyone thinks as they do. we dont have to like it..agree with it.. but we do need to co-exsist..and respect the fact that there are those that do not think as we do.
there is never ever an excuse for rudeness.