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If you want to run someone else's life, it's a good idea to actually be qualified to do it.  Just wanting to be in charge doesn't mean you're capable or even good at it.  It just means you like it.  Want to tell me what to eat?  Do you know anything about nutrition?  Want to make financial decisions?  What do your finances look like?  Want me to stay fit?  Are you?  Want to tell me what to wear every day?  Do you know what makes sense based on what I do for a living?  "I'm a Dom" doesn't automatically make you good at running anything.  There's today's reality check.

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This is important information based on what I experience here.

Pro-tip.  If you're going to post something, try writing it in Word first so that you can at least get some of the grammar and spelling checked.  Then cut and paste it.  That way you will have something that isn't riddled with spelling errors.  If you can't master basic English, it doesn't instill confidence that you can actually master a person.

If you're busy micromanaging someone else, how do you get anything done?  One guy wanted to control things to the level of how things were stored in the fridge and how the towels were folded.  Really?  Do you having nothing better to do with your time?  And I admit, why would someone get off on having another person checking all the time how the towels are folded and if the cream cheese is on the right shelf?

So a lot of doms want to "teach" and "mold" and "train".  Train to do what?  To be a better person?  To be in better physical shape?  To cater to your whims without running things through a reality check?

When someone asks "have you been trained" - what does that mean?  (I mean, yeah, I'm housebroken).

"True" is subjective.  If you are a "true" whatever or you're looking for a "true" whatever, keep in mind that there is no actual, universally accepted definition of "true" when combined with whatever label you're talking about.  So don't be offended if someone asks you what a "true" dom or sub is for you.

Some of the messages I receive boggle the mind.  "Do you obey Big Black Cock?"  Seriously?  You want me to take you seriously when that's your opening line?  Is that your opening line at a cocktail party?  If not, why the hell would you do it here?  Or how about the guy who insisted I was a "radical feminist" because I dared to ask him just what he was planning to bring to a relationship, since he felt entitled to have a woman cater to any and all demands of his-because he deserved it.  But of course, he referred to all women as sluts and was big on male superiority - so basically felt that he was entitled to receive without having to provide anything in return - merely because of the fact that he had a penis.  Reality check - ummm..........no.  You deserve what you earn in this life.  Simply having a dick is not enough.

Hey doms - if your life isn't 100% together, you don't have time to run someone else's.  So what constitutes "together" in my book?  You're debt free and pay your bills on time.  You are funding your retirement.  You are gainfully employed.  You have health insurance.  Your house is clean and well organized.  Your vehicle is properly maintained.  You are in good physical shape and workout regularly.  You eat a balanced and healthy diet.  Yeah, that's a lot of stuff, right?  Well if you can't handle all that for yourself, you definitely don't have time to handle it for someone else, let alone little crap like telling them what to wear every day.  If you're neglecting your own stuff so you can get your rocks off controlling someone else, you're letting your ego do the driving.  Not attractive.