NomadicMiss

While discussing a book character that I professed to be in love with, I was asked what it was about the character that made him so appealing. The best I could come up with is: 

He's honorable. He treats everyone with respect. He has deep kindness. He's brave. He's emotionally intelligent. He does the right thing even when it's the hard thing. He's curious and intelligent. When he's showing his vulnerability is when he's the hottest.

I was then asked if I think those are submissive qualities. No, I don't believe they are either submissive or dominant. Just sexy. 

Do you have a fictional character that you admire greatly? If yes, what is it you admire about him or her? 

I'm rewriting my profile. Putting the old copy here. For posterity. Or reference. Or, um, my own amusement. Anyway...

When I set this profile up, I was traveling a lot for work. Then the place across the street came up for sale and I bought it, rehabbed it, and sold it. I am thinking I may do that again - sooo I might be sticking around in Florida for a while. 

I like reading the journal entries, and will often then look at a profile. If you're a gay man, a dominant man, a dominant woman, etc. and I looked at your profile, it's because of your recent journal entry. Pay me no mind. 

Chuck. I miss you. That is all.

A recent attempt at a DomSub things with a very lovely man taught me a few things: 

I like quiet time spent together. I also need conversation. Not just "how was your day", but also discussion about hopes, dreams, fears, troubles, world views. It's difficult to foster connection without discourse. 

I cannot and will not view you as inferior. If we come to the conclusion that I'm in charge, it's because we want it to be that way, not because I'm superior in any way. I'm just luckier than you, because I get unlimited orgasms while yours will be few and far between. 

I am somewhat sadistic and I can be rather mean. But too much sadism or mean makes me feel horrendously horrible. I also want to do nice things for you. 

Some other things that are probably important for you to know: 

I don't want to peg you. I probably never will want to. Butt stuff just isn't my thing. 

I'm not very verbal when it comes to sex or kink. I give my cues nonverbally. 

I don't want to cuck you. While I don't want to commit to monogamy, I am not at all comfortable with flaunting any sexual escapades in your face. Especially since there may never be any. But I reserve the option. 

You will not be my toilet. 

I will, however, be happy to pretend. I can threaten you with pegging, cucking, peeing in your mouth. And who knows? Maybe I'll change my mind. 

I don't want to feminize you. There are some trans or feminine men that are super hot, it's just not something I want to do to you. 

That's a lot of things I don't want to do. Maybe I should let you know what I AM interested in? Tons of cunnilingus. Like, SO much pussy licking that you're not sure your tongue will ever be the same again. CBT. Impact play. Domestic service. Predicament bondage. Foot worship. Those are the main ones. 

Wow! Almost two years since I last logged in. I know I'm going to sound like a broken record, but... Will the copypasta ever stop?  

It's been 4 or 5 months since I last logged in. That seems to be the way it always goes. I log in, read some messages, peruse some profiles, get overwhelmed by the sheer volume of inane chats, feel like it's a fruitless endeavor and bound to remain so, and avoid this place for a while. And then eventually I log in again.

This time I returned because when I woke this morning, I really wanted to go back to sleep, because I was having such a lovely dream. In this dream an enchanting young man and I had been getting to know each other. He was accomplished in his field, but unsure of himself in his personal life. We discovered that it was due to the submissive desires he had that he didn't understand. With some conversation, I was able to help him get in touch with the desires he'd been subduing and it seemed that our wants and our personalities aligned quite well. He'd just had a rough moment, in which he was unsure that he was capable of something he dearly wanted, and I was reassuring him that he was indeed quite able and more, when I woke up. Argh.

So, of course, since sleep and the dream will not return, what else can I do but log on here and comb through profiles to see if there is anyone whose urges and characteristics seem to align with mine. 

I'm confused. I got a message, that I unfortunately deleted or I'd paste it in here, that made no sense. And of course, the sender blocked me... because why would you want anyone to be able to respond to your ridiculous accusations?

Anyway, the gist of what he said was that I'm nuts to think anyone would do all of that for someone they haven't met. 

Huh? The only thing I've asked is that if we're conversing, we move to non-kink topics after getting the kink basics out of the way, so we can get to know each other. Because unless and until we actually FORM a connection, I don't want either of us doing things to or for each other. Also, I believe that D/s is a partnership and both parties do some giving. 

My best guess is he read someone else's profile and then accidentally clicked on me to send a message. Becuase I'd rather believe that than believe that he's that clueless.

If anyone else thinks I'm asking people to do ANYthing for me before actually chatting, talking and meeting, let me know so I can rephrase that section if needed. 

SMH 

Profile update in progress. I've heard rumors that it no longer takes weeks to be approved.. Let's see how true that is, shall we? EDIT: it took less than 4 hours for the update to be approved - might've been shorter, but I didn't check earlier. 

The text being replaced is posted below for my own reference. Ya know, in case I forget. 

Do you wish to serve in a part time capacity? Or maybe full time, but only in short spurts?

I travel a lot, because I can. I would like to find a few men in various parts of the world who would like some Ds interaction on occasion. This will be based on an actual friendship. While there is the possibility for it to evolve into something sexual, romantic and long term, dont count on it. It is better to get more than hoped for than to be disappointed, I believe.

As for how you will serve, that is up for discussion. What are your strengths? How do you wish to serve? Are there behavior modifications you feel you need? What are your hard limits?

Though I will make the rules, I will take your needs and wishes into consideration when doing so. If you are one of those who wishes to have no say, someone who wants all of their rights stripped away, I am NOT the one for you. You matter. You have value. Even though your service is very much about me, it is also just as much about you. Once again, I have NO interest in those who want to be disregarded or treated as worthless.

There must be a connection, whether it be romantic or friendship, as I cannot enjoy being served if I am not quite fond of you, and I cant see how you would want to serve me if you dont have some affection for me. Lets get to know each other as people first, kinksters second, shall we?

Some things I enjoy... foot massages, pedicures, full body massage, other personal services, you naked on hands and knees scrubbing the floor, nice meals, human furniture, s p a n king or paddling you just until your ass is a nice hot red, a little bit of begging, chastity, teasing.

A submissive couple, any genders, that could be instructed to take care of my wishes, and then also instructed in ways to please or torture each other, would be quite fun.

To get started, tell me a little about you and why this appeals to you. Tell me about your neighborhood or area of the world. Tell me how you can be of service. If you are active on FetLife, tell me your user name there. Finally, tell me what questions you have for me. Feel free to send a picture.

How nice to see that journals are back! When I last logged in, which was about a year ago, they were disabled. 

I like reading journal entries. Even when they're insipid, angry, or even hateful. It gives more of a glimpse into the who of you. But of course, I like best the ones that are hopeful, joyous, or humorous. Maybe I'll stick around for a while this time - and post some of my own hopeful or insipid or joyous or angry or humorous entries. Likely not hateful ones, but I reserve the right to do so if it comes to that. 

Or maybe, as is my wont, I will disappear again for weeks or months. Time will tell.