Nocturne77

Someone asks you "What are you doing this weekend? Got a hot date?"
And the only answer you got "Please don't act as if you don't know I work nights and weekends!!" The IT professional life.. :p

Sorting through time wasters and fakes.  Those worthy of attention are few and far between, so why should I send messages beyond simple small talk when starting to say hi.  Especially when profiles rarely have content beyond "Hi I'm kinky"  despite  a lengthy word count (I think the record I've seen using MS Word to verify, 1,050 words  typed, but just said kinky and available).  I can actually string more than a few simple syllable words together when motivated. But in all honesty, when its just as easy to copy and paste some of the profiles here, or when I see that the profile is copied from another source (tech tip: highlight a portion, right click, search google - you can see where someone has pulled it from if the site has public facing accounts.)  - really I won't send you a dynamic opening letter.  

Happy Mother's  Day to all the momma's out there in kinky land!! Sincerely hope you're getting treated to your preferred kinky endeavours!! 

Truly want to wreck someone right now..

When one's perception of a thing begins to out run one's patience, one must take a step back for purposes of perspective.  And now, I find myself in a slight conundrum as to a number of matters of diverse importance.   Expect delays in response,  as all of this tends to prove more illusion than something of substance. 

Creative energy, busy brain, and a case of  the late night hornies...  yup, sleep is on too remote a shore. 

Didn't think I'd have to say this.. again...   But why would I consider a booty call with you if you can't drive, I have to go across town to pick you up and bring you back to my place? Then I have to drive you alllllllll the way back to yours?  Sorry but no matter how horny you think I am, fuel ain't cheap.   lmao...  

Heh  looks like the majority of women on CollarMe locally that are looking for men  are either looking for Sugardaddy Dom's or piggybank subs..  lmao    Since when did the "largest BDSM Community on the planet" become the site to find "will kink for cash" girls..   makes you think that B in BDSM  on CM stands for broke chicks :p 

Live too far away to make any of those fun flirtations a reality, then brazen and bold she will be. Live close enough to touch and actually do something about it flake faster than the eye can see.  :p 

Reading up and down my CollarMe feed...  and ... I find myself singing  "Ain't got no room for boring!!!" and I hear the Muppets as my background singers.... Welcome to the Cartoon Cavalcade of my mind! :p    (but seriously... so many fakes, flakes,  and just blah ...)

Those who can't respect that I am a person with responsibilities and interests  first, and a kinkster second, probably won't be able to get along with me.  Further - do not address me as Master if we haven't even started nary even a teaspoon of conversation.  If you don't even respect your own submission that you hand it out all willy nilly, how in the blue hell, and for that matter why should I? 

Thought that sleep would facilitate retreat of last nights severe horny energy... yeah..  no luck... kind of want to fuck someone into a coma before work ... lol

Dear brain, its shut down time, initiate sequence for dreamtime immersion. I have a date with Adventure! !!!

The moment Nocturne77 realizes he didn't even drink ONE drop of coffee the whole day...  I think I have redefined "dragging balls tired"   :-/

What an EPIC weekend!!

Sacramento's first major Comic Book convention, Wizard World Sacramento Con. And it was super successful!! The cosplay, the cool merchandise!! The sheer geektastic festival of AWESOME!! Can't wait till they come back next year!! Heck I might even hit up Wizard World Reno in November!!

Truly I want to practice patience....  However...  Dear frigging universe I am feeling debaucherously RAVENOUS right now.  Like my spirit isn't just saying "sex now!"  More along the lines of  "BRING ME YOUR WENCHES MORTALS SO I MAY COMMENCE WITH THE CARNAL CAVALCADE OF KINKY CAVORTING!!! RRRRAAAWWRRR!!!"    (please note my inner voice sounds like James Earl Jones) 

Truly love the fact that I really don't have the previous impetus I once did to find someone on here coupled with the low expectations  created by the obvious inexperience and insincerity displayed by a lot of women. The detachment makes the view of this petri-dish of a "kink dating site"  all the more intriguing.   In summary, while distance mitigates frequency, yay for awesome primary partners!! :) 

Spiritually and philosophically I look down on no one. Too busy looking within to assess my limitations and forward and upward to awesome person I strive to be. I see no superior, only benchmarks I will pass given time, perseverance and motivation. I see no inferiors, merely companions who will catch up at their own pace. If you have time to look down on others, you are clearly not doing enough to better yourself. Shame no one. Belittle noone. When you acknowledge faults, suggest improvements and then get your happy ass back to work. And even in this line of thinking, I strive to do better. For it is not a matter of perfection, it is an exercise in constant and ever evolving improvement. 

Also, learning to salsa dance.. yes.. this is happening this year..  

That moment when you see the progress of accelerated physical activity and an adjusted and metabolically appropriate eating habits. Only 5 lbs away from my goal weight.  Got to love progress. But the journey isn't over yet.  I wonder if I might find a sexy lady work out / sports partner when I truly get things ramped up at the beginning of February :-)  Preferably one who goes to Cali-Fit :) 

Complicated simplicity faceted in multiplicity, unfathomable without proper perception capabilities. Succinct and suffice to say, present impetus for acquisition for companionship is deferred. Availability is still on the table, as priority is a proximity and chronologically dependent.

The plain text - still polyamorous, just have a primary partner. Logistics available upon qualified requests. 

I definitely need to find a midweek movie buddy... this work sched is prohibitively non-compatible with the rest of the planet ... lol 

will be drafting my 2014 Mission statement later.  That being said - Kinky note:  I will be learning better to take yes for an answer. 

I am an expert and flipping my sleep schedule within a 24 hr spot in time... this is going to be a painful 72

I can never understand why people get butt hurt on dating sites when you don't respond to a message and they have something in their profile that CLEARLY shows they would not be interested in you.   Lets recap - you say you're mostly into white guys, or specifically that you have no interest in black guys - I'm not going to write.  If you say you are looking for monogamy when I think its fairly clearly stated I am polyamory - I'm not going to write.  If you are looking for a sugar daddy -  I'm not going to write.  If you have it stated you have no interest in geeky guys  (which is ironic because most of you claim you want someone who  is creative and intelligent, lmao liars) - I am not going to write. If you state you are looking for a "bbc bull / thug"  with some connotations of possible race play  -  that's right slowbie I am not going to write.  There are a number of other mitigating factors I can name, but I think I burned enough mental bandwidth  saying this.  I took the time to read your profile, respected that you would have no interest, and moved on.   

Nights like this, I would love to meet a smoking hot woman, who is wearing a little black dress, in a quiet venue for a game  of chess. Both the board game and the witty banter. 

I've added OKC to the dating sites I am now on...  omg the questions on that site are.. addiction worthy.  lol 

Really wish I could be cuddled up next to someone and watching cartoons right now... lol 

18 more days till my  Birthday party, 23 more days till my actual birthday. Excitement rising!!

Ah laundry... fabric softener.. such a peace inducing process.  :) 

Pro-Tip - in the vein of a Copy, Paste, Repeat:  If you have in your profile "Not into BBC." "Out to bag me some BBC" " "On a BBC safari."  yeah .. you're  guilty of solely (or primarily)  seeing black males as  walking penises.  Mind you the majority of those seeking such probably are too inept to read this anyways and avoid my profile.  This is simply the caveat emptor you likely will not read and understand why the "uppity negroe" as I was so quaintly called recently  is not jumping at the chance to "get some white pussy to make my life all better." I date interracially because I like women of all shades.  In particular intelligent women who also prefer content of character as a measure of a person, not "omg I want me some bbc for my fantasy." I am sure  you can find PLENTY of individuals who just want to get their dick wet and have no principal ion to being ified. 

HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!

Trust me if you think my creativity and intellect is not a plus factor, you're best served pursuing the mindless dial-a-Doms to fulfill your cookie cutter fantasies. If you wish to reach the edge of the map, then maybe.. just maybe, you might find me when I am free. 

Present contemplations on my kinky mind - Paintball Impact Play session.  Just need to figure out the logistics.

1) Willing Partner

2) Wetsuit for said willing partner (paintball breaks the skin, the wetsuit would mitigate possible infection leading breaks but wouldn't mitigate fun bruising)

3) Space to tie someone to, and be relatively uninterrupted. 

Be fun to integrate a chase and take down into it as well..  hmm....

Not sure if.. I have writers block due to lecherous intent... Or lecherous intent because my creativity is dammed up..... grrrrr  keep... battling.. the blinking.. cursor...

YOU AIN'T  NEVER

HAD A 

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Ain't never had a friend like me!! YEAH!! 

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Jazz Hands

walk off stage

Pro Tip - So You Don't Waste Time: 

If you have in your profile you're going on a "Black Cock Safari" it would likely behoove you to look at profiles first, and see if the potential "BBC you want to bag" doesn't take offense to ethnicity based ification / dehumanization.

I'm not saying that I would necessarily fuck someone over my desk if they brought me a huge bacon cheeseburger, fries, and a diet cola... But if they happen to slip fall and their skirt comes up in the process of delivering me such nourishment, the possibility is highly likey my pants will come off.

Since this appears to be the season for it, I now have to make a rule of this -  I have no interest in women who "just broke up with their boyfriend." If you're on the rebound, skip my profile.  3 Calendar month minimum.  

Re-engaging my battle with the blinking cursor. NaNoWriMo sci-fi writing mode, engaged!!!

5 Reasons Why I prefer Women Over the Age of 25

Keep in mind I do not discriminate based on age but generally I have found this the case with women under the age of 25 (and this is mostly based off of from what I've read from CollarMe profiles) -

1. Usually have genuine and LEGAL kink experience of a couple years.
2. More likely to have a driver's license and transportation of their own.
3. More likely to have gainful employment.
4. Least likely to be adhering to stereotypes that would propagate the avoidance or pursuit of someone.
5. Less likely to be looking for a Dom primarily as a means to escape a living situation.

Now I know that 18 -24 year olds do have some measure of genuine and LEGAL experience but I have noticed a lot of them post "been in the lifestyle for years" in a lot of profiles of those who just became legal adults. Not particularly cool with that (or the "Dom Diggity Dommy Dom Masterifics they tend to be attached to who think the law regarding this is just a suggestion)

For some reason a large number of 18 -24 year olds in my area cannot drive, and hell gas ain't cheap in Sacramento. If getting too and from work, and taking care of family responsibilities comes into a bout versus kinky play time, guess what - taking care of getting to work / taking care of my family will always win out versus driving across town to pick someone up to drag them off elsewhere for all the debauchery.

A lot of 18 - 24 year olds I've seen not only don't have jobs, but are not really looking. I can understand if going to school full time, or taking care of an elderly, special needs, or infantile relative, but if all you're doing is just.. well NOTHING, then yeah what the fuck?!

A lot of 18 -24 year olds - regardless of ethnicity usually have in bold face type "No Black Guys." and on the opposite end of the scale they are chasing the "Big Black Cock." Yes I know some people don't out grown their adherence to stereotypes, those unenlightened individuals tend to skip if not pole vault past my profile with a quickness anyways (50% -the No Black Guy crowd - see the pic and skip past the profile the other 50% realize I am not the dark skinned bipedal blunt fantasy granter who fits their paradigm of "How A Black Dom Should Act. ) But I see it a lot more in the 18-24 yr old profiles.

A lot of 18 -24 year olds have "willing to relocate" in their profiles. In my experience in exchanging some limited correspondence - it usually means they want to move out from their present situation (parents, boyfriend, couch surfing host) right into your situation. Especially true if they've never EVER lived out of their parents home or for that matter never EVER have even as much as travelled on their own.

There are other factors too.. but this short burst of bits and bytes has already gone on long enough.

Kind of want to wrestle a sub or a switch  today.... with the caveat, loser doesn't get to cum. 

If I had a choice right now, definitely would head to San Diego....  Or somewhere near the ocean would stir my creativity a LOT.  I think being so land locked has slowed me down a bit. 

If someone tells me they're busy, I work under the logical conclusion to not message them until I hear from them. We ALL have lives outside the lifestyle. I myself am constantly spinning plates.   Point of fact if I was the last one to write you, why would I constantly send messages unless I knew communication was open?   I hate feeling like I "NEED" to bombard an inbox.  It makes me feel like I have more interest than the other person,  it makes garnering and showing interest feel like work.   I'm here for fun connections, not trifling ones.  And really I can't prioritize  sending out correspondence to someone I have yet to even meet in person, let alone talk on the phone, when they really haven't shown me interest in meeting. 

That all being said,  if we haven't  met in person or talked on the phone as of today 20NOVEMBER2013 - do not respect a reply of any kind until 30NOV2013.  I am behind in my deadline, and really I don't have patience to fill anyone's need for frivolous attention. 

**micdrop**

The biggest taunt in the world... Looking at my NaNoWriMo project.. and the potentiality of the blinking cursor.  Like its a door between the empty page and the worlds I'm building. 

Presently I am thinking about an experiment in orgasm control  by word / image association based hypnotism to illicit a pavlovian-esque response. The root of this actually came from reviewing my NaNoWriMo notes in regards to a psy-ops conditioning  method for the creation of sleeper agents. Hmm further research is needed for this...

A year and a month later..... moving forward ever slowly.

The one major reason I often find the concept of attachment to a person slightly abhorrent and almost an anathema to my line of thinking is once that connection is gone and gone for good, its almost like a phantom limb. You think its still there, somewhere between the periphery of your vision and the edge of sleep. Your mind puts pictures to motion to the tune of memories half faded. It grasps at not only good times once had, it also hungers for the answer to the one unspoken question. The equation to which the solution is elusive due to the maddening lack of cognizant evidence. "Why?" Vexing ever more so because no wrong was perpetuated on either side. And in tge absence of a closure propagating explanations, the turbulent and creative mind comes up with a plethora of incoherent permutations as to what precipitated the cessation of correspondence. Over and over again, the deafening silence of an actually reply from the cosmos all the gratification of a glass of salt to a man in the dessert

Tomorrow, full throttle sequester mode. NaNoWriMo focused. I am so behind in my word count it makes me want to kick my own ass. I may not hit 50K, but damn I will get to AT LEAST the 75% point.

Side note... remebering so many years ago a girl who challenged me to a basketball game as a first date.

I can't remember who won.

So wait you fetishize my ethnicity, come at me disrespectfully, but get mad when I don't immediately respond to your ill written advances? Yeah, stop wasting bandwidth trying to hit me up if you can't grow some respect. 

A decision on which I am now set

A condition that has caveats to be met

Terms on both which  parties must acquiesce

In methods that require focus and finesse

I do not take a choice like this lightly

For to move without purpose would be truly unsightly.

Wait right here, at this secluded table.

Return to your side when I am able. 

New Rule - If  I am one of the catalyzing reasons you met your beloved betrothed - you MUST have a pie ready for me to pick up on your wedding day.  Don't worry I won't hang around. Just here for the pie.  Like a black  Rumplestilskin.  But for pie.   

Writers block and Insomnia...  War on two fronts.

Update 15NOV2013 / 16NOV2013 (chronologically correct I be, method to madness soon you shall see)  Half way point of NaNoWriMo and I am presently besieged with writers block due to brain clutter.  This is largely due to the fact I am re-1159 pm for you civies) Pacific Standard Time. 

Fair Winds and Following Seas,

Nocturne77

At present time I am subjecting myself to the only begrudgingly masochistic tendency I have, attempting to write a Novel (or at least 50K words worth of story) for the gloriously geektastic awesome that is NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writers Month). But I am finding difficulty due to my number one source of writers block, after boredom - brain clutter. At present time my mind has been orbiting on a question of my pursuits in kink, polyamory and in the case of the latter finding a primary vs accepting only being part of ancillary connections as it seems I have been due to an abundant lack of time. Considering changes in my occupational strata which will hopefully prove fruitful and facilitate an elevation and forward momentum I have been needing for professional and personal reasons is upon me, maybe its time to actually open my time for such a person. The problem is finding what I want in a primary may not be leading to finding what I need in a primary. As I tend to think myself a self-aware fellow, this is troubling because I can grasp the concepts of what I want, but then are they truly what I need? Ugh, well that made my head feel that much lighter and the story I need to crush out less obfuscated. Hopefully I can get moving brain wise. Kind of hard when I don't have head phones to rock my sci-fi / fantasy movie sound track play list. :(

November 1st, GAME ON 

Good Morning All,

I sincerely hope everyone had a wonderful and safe Halloween. As most of you know this is the first day of NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writers Month). In short my ability to respond to messages in a timely manner will be mitigated as I'm building worlds and blowing them up over here. I thank you all in advance for your patience and understanding and hope to see you with most my sanity intact within 30 days.

Fair winds and following seas.

- Nocturne77

Simple equation  you have no picture = me having no interest.  Too many fakes and flakes on here these days.  Why waste my time and yours trying to chat me up when you can find plenty of fellow fakes and flakes that you can play online with. I'm looking for a contender, not a pretender. 

Getting ready to go to the Exotic Halloween Ball.  All checked into my hotel room.  Now to eat, shave, shower, get the costume on and roll!! :) 

Exotic halloween ball next weekend!!  WOOOT!!   And National Novel Writers Month (NaNoWriMo) in two weeks...  If you can't tell.. my energy level is going up!!!

90% chance of me sequestering myself during  October for research and prep for #NaNoWriMo . Epic #scifiwriting development pending.

Ironically in the mood to be seduced.  If you know why thats ironic, you're at the right level. 

Riddle of the Day 14SEP2013

Sum of one thousand you need to express
Using just eight 8s, no more and no less.
Do not multiply, subtract or divide
Only use a plus to help you decide.

Got to love this time of year.  Well since I couldn't get the classes I want this semester with the schedule I have, plenty of pre-NANOWRIMO research and prep time. 

Riddle of the Day 29JULY2013

Viewed in the mirror or turned on its head
The same old number is what will be read.
When flipped upside down it's still very plain
The same four digits are what will remain.
Fat in the middle with skinny bookends
Eighteen's the total, just add to the ends.

Normally I don't form new rules based off of irritation... But now I think a necessary exception needs to be made... so henceforth, should someone even think  to utter the words to me "You seem to nice too be a Dom."  or any near approximation of that statement... I will consider you too stupid to talk to me.   Common courtesy and being polite is something I do automatically, force of professional habit and personal pride not to be a douche bag to everyone I meet.  But please assume I give a fuck about being nice to you from minute one of knowing you. ugh...  welcome to fail, population your ass, because that where your cranium resides.. 

On the Noc's kinky mind - feeling absofrackinglutely primal.. like if anyone who fell into my category "A" was in front of me right now I'd likely tear their clothes off and fuck the hell out of them.  A pity I can't host presently..

Oh San Diego...  How I've missed thee...  Vacation in my second home is feeling good :) Geeking out and feeling at peace in the 619

Ok something that has irritated me since I started dating, or more to the point online dating is this weird tendency for folks to use the predicative pairing of "Too Bad you're" and a quantifying item. Some people think they are being gentle, or that they need to clarify a reason they are not interested. The problem is... well ... allow me to illustrate the ones I've heard so far with further clarification as why I hold people who use these in just a bit of contempt.

"Its too bad you're a single man" I usually hear this more from single girls who prefer to play with couples in the swinger scene. On rare occasion a lesbian (or bisexual woman) who joins me for a coffee and conversation. In regards to the former - interest formed in emails preceding. In the case of the latter - usually I don't expect anything other than coffee and conversation if they've already made plain that "yeah, not into biological born and psychologically energized males" And when I hear this its like wait everything was cool up until the moment you discovered, even with the previous evidence presented before you, I was born with a penis, and I have no steady and titled partner... hmm ok

"Its too bad you're straight" I usually hear this from single and attached women in the scene. Usually because they are seeking a MFM where there is some guy on guy action. Gay males and TG/TS/TVs who acknowledge the fact that I am straight. Usually because they find me attractive (you were expecting a complicated caveat?)

"Its too bad you don't make loads of money." (i actually heard the "too bad you can't afford me" version of this) Usually heard by gold diggers, Financial Dommes, and chicks who want into a guy's pockets more than their pants. Usually because my financials don't match up with their line of thinking a partner should have for them.

"Its too bad you're _____ years old." I usually hear this from girls my age and younger who want partners who are older, and thus I am too young. Or my age and older who want younger partners, and thus I am too old.

"Its too bad you're so geeky" usually heard by women who hear about my hobbies and interests. Usually because they are under the wonderful assumption that because I have such interests I won't devote any time to them. (mind you any means all to most chicks who fall under this line of thinking, and I'm not the dude for you if you think all my free time should be yours. gone done and lost your mind, lady.)

"It's too bad you're such a nice guy" Usually stated by... hmm.. I'm a diabetic so I am not going to sugar coat my opinion - dumb bitches who mistake a proclivity to having common courtesy in most interactions until I am given a reason to nuke from orbit the entirety of their surreal world perceptions as being a "nice guy." Usually paired with "I'm digging him, but I really want a douche bag I can later complain about fucking over my life later to the next dude who will do the same thing but sucker me into bed with annnnnnd so on till a grow up and want a "nice guy" who I will dump on until I "turn him into a douche bag for the next dumb bitch" (note: quotes used because "nice guys" who turn into douche bags are merely overly entitled assholes who rock a facade of being nice without any sense of altruism what so fucking ever, but I digress**).

"Its too bad you're not looking for monogamous / Long-term relationships." Usually by women who are looking for something Monogamous (or monogamous with me being mono and them already having their primary. ) / long term with titles involved. Friction point - I'm poly, and presently LTR isn't a possibility due to plates being spun currently (i.e. work school, family and living situation re-arrangements)

"Its too bad you're black" Usually by women, regardless of ethnicity who engage me in conversation and by virtue of that part of my physical description, note NOT my definition, its an eliminating factor. (Basically stating they'd like me if I was in their preferred ethnicity because everything else about me has them in digging mode mode but the whole being black is a deal breaker.)

"Its too bad you're not more gangster" usually stated by women chasing the stereotype (or bigoted fantasy depending on your point of view) of most black males being "thuggish." And I say thuggish because, real talk Al Capone = Gangster. Tony Montana = Gangster. Don Corleone = Gangster. Lil Wayne and those like him - poser ass douche bags who should wear a fucking belt.

In summary, the reason, without annotations at the time of this rant for each line item - I get, that I am not your type for the reasons state. I get that you dig my style, you like the way I talk, you got stuck on my pics looking at my lips and eyes and found me physically and mentally attractive.... However due to me not fitting the mold of your ideal partner, you have the fucking audacity to be condescending and belitting the aspect you don't like about me.

Fuck you.

Fuck the horse you rode in on.

Fuck the friends of yours who will pat you on the back and tell you you're just fine its his loss.

Fuck those who say "you're being to abrasive about this Noc." When you damn well know diabetic ex-sailors don't sugar coat a goddamn thing!!

Oh and fuck you again side ways to a reggae song with a Funk remix underneath the stars with a bottle of rum served by a kangaroo doing the macarena because I can give a one nutted flying monkey nut that your perception of who I am is diminished for not being what you want or think you want (arguably need).

You have a problem with me. That's your signed, sealed and limited edition issue. Keep that shit on the shelf and don't even try to get me to read it.

end of rant.

Thank you for your time.

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Truly wish I would stop finding all the fakes, flakes, time wasters, escorts and camgirls on here. 

Someone who engages my mind, rocks my body, and ignites my spirit.  Shake my perception of what is, and I will be beside you for what will be. 

Riddle of the Day 10JULY2013

There was a rich man with habits of one
His physical health was second to none.
He would leave the house at the crack of dawn
Before others woke, he was often gone.
He had much to do, promises to keep
Right after dinner he would be asleep.
He was like a sage, always quite precise
Others sought him out, wanting his advice.

Riddle of the Day 07JULY2013

Picture if you will a man on a hill.
He looks straight ahead, nothing will be said.
Taking no advice he shakes his head twice.
Once finally set he glares at the threat.
With object in hand, he does just as planned.
He gives it his all, he waits for the call.
He pauses but then, he does it again.
Since two did no harm, the third is the charm.

Riddle of the Day 07JULY2013

There are many walls without any roof
Where you will depart there isn't much proof.
The rite of passage can leave you perplexed
You may be confused just where to turn next.

Riddle  of The Day 02JULY2013

As was with sonar or even taser
Each was made the same as was with laser.
Shorten something long, create something new
Initial results will make a debut.

Hmm just enough time to get some pancakes and get some brainstorming done before my shift. I wonder if the cute single waitress is going to be there today.  #sportflirting

Every time someone tells me "they're special" or "they should be the exception to the rule." There is an inner Nocturne voice that breathes flames and roars "GET THE FUCK OVER YOURSELF NOW!!!" it takes a lot of effort to keep this inner voice inside. I'm pretty sure its shortening my life...

Riddle of the Day 24JUNE2013

The longer I stand, the more I will run
I'm ready to start the moment I'm done.
I'm never early, I've never been late
When I am on time, I make people wait.

Girl - attractive, conversation -interesting thus far..  then she mentions she's a monogamist..  and while I enjoy talking to her.. my interest is dropping in anything more than platonic.

Thinking I definitely need a physically active partner.. preferably one that goes to the same gym as I do.. especially if they play or are willing to learn racquet  ball.  

On one hand, really feel like getting some writing done after my shift tonight.  Like completely unplugging... or at least 90% unplugging from the web, get my notes out and just create, free-write and say "fuck the world, I'm building my own."  Something is staying my hand though.. hmm  more mental clutter maybe.. 

In the mood for debauchery and merriment tonight after my shift, but sadly not much I can do about it.. 

And chose to write me randomly..While I sincerely enjoyed our tete-a-tete with your oh so eloquent and typical approach beginning with the charming opening salvo of "lemme see your cock boy"  And while yes I would loved to be seduced by a strong woman, that doesn't denote I am looking to be dominated in any way shape or form. I am a Dom, and should be respected as such as I will respect you as such (i could say how I equate this landscape as to the Sengoku period but I am sure it would be a lost reference to you)  Furthermore -  the last chick who tried to engage a "reverse rape scene and take my sweet dark butt cherry" as you so eloquently spoke it,  I ripped her dildo off the strap on harness and left a rather impressive array of phallic bruises on her ass.  Literally beating her with her own dick after ripping it off..   I'd apologize, for shattering your fantasy, but  I try not to speak dishonestly, and I am rather enjoying how inarticulate you got when you realized  you were in a canoe but had no oars.  

RIDDLE OF THE DAY 21JUNE2013

A sound you may hear each and every day
You might see it first if listed that way.
At an early age is when it will start
Throughout a lifetime you may never part.
For almost one half, there could be a change
Around this great world there is quite a range.
Fathers and husbands have started the trend
At times a new wife might add to the end.

As I am reaching a time and resource crunch coming up to my San Diego Comic-Con trip, I will likely be out and a bout less and less prior to commencement of my expedition.  just an FYI peeps.   

Uh... people.. seriously PEOPLE... when you pull a "Oh me being kinky was just a phase..' then go to date vanilla people....   Complaining about the horribad sex or subsequent lack of sex, just makes us kinky people  who your re-vannilized perspective   somehow  see as "immature," "greedy," "overvaluing sex"  - laugh at you. Hard.  Till ribs break..  

Riddle of the Day 18JUNE2013

Initial request that may have regret
Coming from people you likely have met.
It's only polite,it started in France
There may be dinner or even a dance.

Riddle of the Day 16JUNE2013

Claire is a mother and Bill is her son
For every brother, Bill has sisters one.
Claire has a daughter by the name of Sue
For every sister, Sue has brothers two.
All of these sisters, all of these brothers
Have the same father, no other mothers.
Of all the children belonging to Claire
Both sons and daughters, how many are there?

Riddle of the Day 13JUNE2013

The end of cigars will burn to a butt
Yet they can be saves and salvaged somewhat.
There is this one man, a hobo by trade
From old cigar butts a new one is made.
He searches for butts all over the ground
Then makes a cigar from five that are found.
If twenty-five butts are from today's take
How many cigars can this one man make?

Riddle of the Day 12JUNE2013

You come to a fork that's found on the road
You need to drive on, you're carrying a load.
Truth Town and Lie Town are where the roads lead
But there are no signs for which you to read.
The town's citizens are just like its name
The liars will lie, truth-tellers the same.
You meet a local, on question to ask
What's your one question to complete your task?

Riddle of The Day 11JUNE2013

Within this riddle you will find some clues
Just where they all are, are for you to choose.
In this area is where you should look
There are no reasons to open a book.
A three lettered word one syllable long
Just add a letter, three syllables strong.
Each of these two words are both found within
Use of poor grammar, a place to begin.

"Be more openminded" is your anti-rejection method? Amusing...

Every so often, on here, and other kink and sex sites, when someone who is not my type approaches me - someone male, MtF transgendered, FtM transgendered - when I flat out say "no, not interested" I get a response with many variations of "You should be more open minded." So let me get this right - your sexuality, which to my understanding is something you are born with. Is hardwired into your brain. But in order to get someone who is straight, has no interest in dudes, dudes who change their outsides to match their intrinsic selves, or females who change themselves into dudes to match their intrinsic selves - you try to guilt them by making them perceive their sexuality is a matter of limited perspective? Seriously I cannot comprehend a level of stupidity like this being a viable approach. That would be like me dropping the "racist" bomb to guilt women who don't date black guys to make them feel all modern and progressive by acquiescing to my advances. Mind you some don't date black men for varying beliefs that stereotypes are universal fact, but thats a different matter, and thus I digress. In summary I'm straight. I'm comfortable, hell, i REVEL in the fact I am straight. Its how I'm wired. Attempting to shame me by saying I am not enlightened enough to tickle your fancy, yeah, fuck off and fuck off smartly.

Rough seas, hurricanes and monsters,

Nocturne77, Captain USS DILLIGAF

Man of Steel Midnight Showing on Thursday Night, Sushi and Lapdance Night on Friday...  This week is shaping out to be fun!!

Riddle of the Day 08JUNE2013

A man walks into a bar.
He asks the bar tender for a shot of rum.
A minute later the bartender pulls out a baseball bat smashes the rum glass.
The man thanks the bartender, tips him then leaves.

Why?

Hmmm my stance on being invited to pity parties is like this - I'm a solutions driven individual. If you present me with a stack of problems, especially if I am awake, I am going to try to present you back with a stack solutions. I am not one for hearing whining without providing feedback. If you just want to have a "woe is me, woe is my life, hear me lament about my _______ (relationship, job / lack thereof, living situation, etc)" I'll either start making suggestions, or I'll ask you what do you plan on doing about it. And please remember you invited ME to this pity party. I'm not the one to invite unless you are full on ready for what I am about to bring to the table. That's like inviting me to a vegan BBQ, I'm that dude who will bring bacon wrapped steak.... BECAUSE THAT'S. WHAT. I. DO!!! *insert Godzilla Roar here*

Fact - reiterated - You should NEVER let your loneliness outweigh your responsibility to tell the truth.  EVER. It will just lead to you being alone longer. 

Riddle of the Day 06JUNE2013

A man left his home with wallet in hand
He walked to the store just as he had planned.
At the store he bought some corned beef and hash
The purchase cost him one-fifth of his cash.
Then with the money that still did remain
He would spend one-fifth to go home by train.
If eighteen dollars his total expense
How much did he have before he commence?

Riddle of the Day 05JUNE2013

Four people whose names match their minute pace
All must cross a bridge, they're part of a race.
The bridge is frail, can hold only two
They need light to cross or they will fall through.
With just one flashlight, they need to be deft
Seventeen minutes is all it has left.
Misters Two and Ten, Misters One and Five
In complete darkness how can they arrive?

Bonus Riddle 04JUNE2013

here's a magician whose stage name is Nick
He is quite famous for one special trick.
He can throw a ball with all of his might
The ball will then stop while still in mid-flight.
Not touching a thing, a wall or the ground
Reversing its course, the ball turns around.
The ball will come back to where it first came
Without any strings, could you do the same?

Riddle of the Day 04JUNE2013

Hyphens separate syllable and such
Change some word's meaning, other not as much.
A ten lettered word meant for amusement
Can also be used to include movement.
Now add a hyphen, it changes its view
But more important, it creates anew.
Essential leisure for women and men
Or make something new all over again.

Riddle of the Day 03JUNE2013

Count on your one hand, since you've been alive
All Februarys, with Fridays of five.
Since year '52, it's happened just twice
To say it's quite rare is more than suffice.
One hundred and twelve, you age if alive
The least you can be, experiencing five.
Get out some paper, a pencil or pen
Then tell me the year it happens again

Riddle of the Day 02JUNE2013

Three men meet for lunch to talk for a spell
All three have two sons who are there as well.
Around the table are found seven chairs
Each has their own seat which none of them shares.
Only seven chairs and each one could sit
How's it possible for each one to fit?

Riddle of the Day 01JUNE2013

If you should use it, you will throw it out
Just where it will be is never in doubt.
And when it's in use, it's never in sight
It works just as well either day or night.
When it's at its best it stays in one place
It will slow you down if you're in a race.
Then when you are done you'll bring it back in
And put it right back to where it had been.

Me vs Hmmm writers block and boredom.

Dear San Diego California,

47 days
thats right 1138 hours
you bet 68332 -minutes
oh yeah 4099974 seconds

That's how long you have till my return.

Comic.

Con.

Get ready, mes amis.

Get ready!!

Fun fact - I hate showing someone more interest than they are showing me. If I suddenly stop talking to you, that's why.

The key to getting friendships back is to love the friendship more than the argument. Keep fresh olive branches in stock. Life happens.

Riddle of the Day 30MAY2013

A parking meter that's found in Des Moines
Is a bit unique and only takes coin.
For just one dollar and eleven cents
A one year's voucher it's known to dispense.
To get it to work can be quite a chore
With eleven coins, no less and no more.
Can you figure out five ways to extract
A one year's voucher with these coins exact?

Riddle of the Day 29MAY2013 (yeah, I know its late, wanna fight about it?) 

A five lettered word, one syllable strong
Can be a big help that aides you along.
Rearrange letters from where they reside
Now two syllables, with all things aside.
Rearrange again, now syllables three
Ideas abound for both you and me.
The same five letters, three words they can make
Tell me what they are without a mistake.

Riddle of the Day 28MAY2013

What has 4 wheels and flys?

Riddle of the Day 27MAY2013

Morning Newspaper arrives at your door
Delivered unwrapped, so some of it tore.
Several pages were blown by the breeze
But one complete page you catch with your knees.
At the very top and next to the date
You see page numbers, twenty-one and eight.
As you are looking at just this one sheet
How many pages when it was complete?

Buddhist Quote I found and Like: 

"Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it."

Juxtaposed between occupationally inspired lethargy, repressed creative frenzy, and ravenous carnal intent... 

Riddle of the Day 26MAY2013

Letters are vowels, consonants as well
Letters make up words, they help us to spell.
Alphabetical, like in a roll call
Count all the letters, twenty-six in all.
We now seek two words, letters they contain
I'll give you a hint, don't use your left brain.
What are the two words, I ask with a grin
A thousand letters can be found within?

Riddle of the Day 25MAY2013

An octagon house with angles of eight
Was built with eight walls, each wall was built straight.
All walls have a door with a window too
Each of the windows has an outdoor view.
No matter the wall or the window pane
There's an oddity which you must explain.
All windows face south no matter the view
Just how can this be, do you have a clue?

I think at some point this summer, I am going to take a day trip to the bay and get lost for the day...

Riddle of the Day 24MAY2013

There are these three men named Don, Dave and Dan
And they are married to Jill, Joan and Jan.
Don has a mustache and Dan doesn't shave
Jan's only sister is married to Dave.
Dave is clean shaven and brother to John
Joan has no sisters and doesn't know Don.
John once had a beard, but now shaves with ease
Who's married to whom, can you tell us please?

Riddle of the Day 23MAY2013

Here are two questions each using three threes
I'm sure you'll solve them with relative ease.
Three plus three plus three always equals nine
Or three thirty-three if placed in a line.
Multiply, divide, add subtract or more
Can you use three threes so they equal four?
Three times three times three is twenty-seven
Can you use three threes so they're eleven?

Riddle of the Day 21MAY2013

Take seven letters all lined in a row
Opposite meaning they're able to show.
They stay in order, the letters they do
They can make one word or they can make two.
First nonexistent, never to be found
Then ever present and always around.
One is about time, they're both about place
Separate the two by using a space.

Its funny how those who insist they are so "real" play the most games.  Insisting on people taking hints instead of communication? heh... riiiiiiiiiight.

Riddle of the Day 20MAY2013

There's been a blackout and it's late at night
You need matching gloves, you haven't a light.
There's several pairs scattered in your drawer
You need to leave now and be out the door.
There's four pairs of black and one pair of blue
Three pairs are dark brown, of gray there are two.
What's the minimum, gloves you'll need to take
So one matching pair you're assured to make?

Riddle of the Day  19MAY2013

I have three brothers, we're all known to play
But they are heartless, I am not like they.
One has his own club, another a gem
I have no mustache, I am not like them.
Yet, when together, we're four of a kind
We all look the same when seen from behind.
We all have weapons, anyone can see
If I have a crest, what does that make me?

A question I pretty much ask any woman who has interest in me: How much about me do you really want to know? The question I ask myself: how much am I really going to tell them? An open book I may be,  but I will leave it to you to turn the pages.

Riddle of the Day 17MAY2013

Three baseball players, Bud, Abbott and Lou
A pitcher, catcher and a shortstop too.
Lou has a sister who's married to Bud
They are related, although not by blood.
The catcher's paid least and an only child
He gets quite dirty when the pitcher's wild.
The shortstop earns less than what Bud gets paid
Who's positioned where when the game is played?

RIDDLE OF THE DAY 16MAY2013

Race cars were racing on an oval track
Each driver was skilled, no speed did they lack.
The red car's driver finished next to last
Even thought his car was really quite fast.
The blue car's driver came in second place
Not a bad finish for just his first race.
When results were in, questions did arise
How did the red car received the first prize?

Riddle of the Day 15MAY2013

Letters make up words and words can be strange
Rearrange letters and those words might change.
Take for example the two words "new door"
These words are simple, but they could be more.
Rearrange "new door" to be something new
You can make one word and this much is true.
Rearrange "new door" and use your whole brain
So when you are done one word will remain.

Not sure if I want to hunt, or if I want to be seduced... 

Riddle of the Day 13MAY2013

Sunrise and sunset, each adjust most days
A minute or two in opposite ways.
All parts of the world differ some on both
Shorten the daylight or increase the growth.
There's Summer Solstice, Winter Solstice too
June and December is when they come due.
In the U.S.A., can you be quite clear
What's the shortest day every single year?

Riddle of the Day 12MAY2013

The last man on earth, he sat in his room
Very despondent with feelings of gloom.
With just his pet cat and a dog named spot
The three were alone, they are all he's got.
Then one afternoon, a knock on his door
The last man on earth, he listened once more.
The knock came again, but how can this be
He went to the door, just what did he see?

Riddle of the Day 11MAY2013

A brother to three married his sister
He couldn't say no, couldn't resist her.
He wore a dark suit, she wore a white gown
It was the big news all over the town.
His older sister, he married her too
And she's still married, no divorce is due.
It happened before, this was the third time
But how can it be this isn't a crime?

Riddle of the Day 23APR2013

Something is missing whenever it's there
It's always weightless, it matters not where.
If you take from it, it will keep growing
Should you add to it, less will be showing.

Riddle of the Day 22APR2013

With ancient columns made with stone or bead
A bit of practice will increase your speed.
It will all add up, on this you can count
Just use your digits to see the amount.

Riddle of the Day 21APR2013

A stroke that's all wet, a colored insect
Only one small change can cause its effect.
Metamorphosis, nature will supply
Though born without wings, it's still meant to fly.

Riddle of the Day 20APR2013

Both time and money or a place to stay
Term used in some schools or a means to pay.
Some will last three months or minutes fifteen
The first and the last or two in between.

Riddle of the Day 18APR2013

It can not be seen, yet it's always there
It's found on the ground as well as the air.
It's so attractive most can not resist
It has mass appeal, therefore it exist.

Its so cute when monogamists try to pull the "maturity" card on those that have polyamorous or open relationships.... lmao

Ok, i need to think calming, mind easing thoughts. Because yeah, right now it feels like my blood is a bit on fire right now.

Riddle of the Day 16APR2013

It takes many shapes, doesn't make a sound
It's seen everywhere and takes lots of ground.
It will tag along, it goes anywhere
It's a lot like you, you're almost a pair.

Riddle of the Day 15APR2013

I'm able to run, yet I will not walk
Though I have a mouth, never will I talk.
While I have a bed I'm not known to sleep
I do have a bank with no funds to keep.

Riddle of the Day 11APR2013

I might be a he, I might be a she
I do have a twin that looks just like me.
I can't blow my horn, I'm not always right
If you pull some strings it could get real tight.

Riddle of the Day 10APR2013

When fat it is slow, when thin it is fast
The longer the day the more it will last.
Tall when it is young, short as it gets old
It's gone with the wind when it gets too bold.

Riddle of the Day 09APR2013

You add 5 to 9 and get 2. The answer is correct but how?

Riddle of The Day 08APR2013

There are six of them aiding your request
There's little question when they're at their best.
They are curious, always need to know
It's rarely simple, never yes or no.

Riddle of the Day 07APR2013

It's very rigid, not unlike a box
Where it does reside there's no need for clocks.
When it is in use it does not show it
Those who will need it never will know it.

Riddle of the Day 06APR2013

With use of my pen I once did suggest
Equivalent men with one happy quest.
I died fifty years, the exact same date
After the great deed which I did create.

Riddle of the Day 04APR13

They are seen with clothes and with some faces
Telephones use them in many places.
When there is cutting, people can get mad
If you should cross one, fighting could be had.
Just get out of one, it could mean trouble
When seen on the road they could be double.
Football will use them, they're part of the game
Fish should avoid them, they won't be the same.

Riddle of the Day 03APR2013

I have some muscles, I'm known to break ice
Though of great value I haven't a price.
I have lots of teeth, but I never bite
All throughout the day I'm a welcome sight.
I'm universal, known by large and small
I have one language understood by all.

Riddle of the Day 02APR2013

It touches the sky, but never the land
It's seen with the stars as well as the band.
It's been out to sea as well as the moon
Though around all year, its best month is June.

Riddle of the Day 01APR2013

It contains nine nines without any pairs
It is stacked nine high with eighty-one squares.
It has nine numbers that never repeat
You'll have used them all when it is complete.

Riddle of the Day 29MAR2013

Kids tend to love it, adults not so much
No matter your name each life it will touch.
It's always on time, it never comes late
If it's not your turn you'll just have to wait.
To each it's special, yet it is the same
Should someone forget it's always a shame.

Riddle of the Day 28MAR2013

Each day it's around, it's both near and far
Some are under it when not up to par.
It always will change, it's never the same
It can be severe or it might be tame.
Sam spoke of it once, partly just for fun
"Great deal has been said, little has been done".

Work schedule pending adjustment - and thus my free time as well.  For those who are intrigued please wait, and this information for you I shall tell. 

Riddle of the Day 27MAR2013

I move to music, but not as a dance
Though I may look it, I never will prance.
I don't like to race, though many have tried
I keep the same pace and don't break a stride.
I can bring some joy on grounds that are fair
Though you are seated there's never a chair.

Watching new eps of NCIS, brainstorming on writing, annnd letting today's irritations wash away. My mind is abuzz, can you hear the hum?

Riddle of the Day 26MAR2013

It's there before you, it you cannot see
Its never has been, yet always will be.
Patience won't help you, or the force of will
You can plan all day, you'll be waiting still.

Riddle of the Day 24MAR2013

Its body of work is how it's known best
It's monumental how it treats its guest.
On one special day many will unite
Those who do visit never come at night.

Riddle of the Day 22MAR2013

Though I am not you and you are not me
I truly need you, this is plain to see.
We are opposite yet so much alike
We move together like wheels on a bike.

Most of my homework crushed out. Will knock the rest out Sunday morning. Now to sleep or to write some awesome scifi?

Cross posted  amongst my many blogs - Edited for Kink related profiles - 

THINGS I DO NOT DO!!

* Apologize for who I am - this. will. never. happen. I am a gamer, geek, sci-fi nerd, proud Veteran of the U.S. Navy. I am straight. I am polyamorous (polyfuckerous si vous préférez) . I am an UNREPENTANT LECH (look up the term if you don't have it in your lexicon ) I am not touchy feely, I am resolute in my beliefs. I won't pay you tons of attention, as I have friends before you and I will have friends after you, and in this regard the table IS round. I love pictures here on in huge bursts and don't comment. I play fuck or pass in three forums, not because I am seeking people to hook up, its a fun ice breaking / people watching exercise. Some find me abrasive, some find me even intolerable and talk smack about me behind my back while smiling and shaking my hand to my face and forget I. WILL. FIND. OUT. EVERYTHING. they say about me (as is the nature of those who lack honor.) There are many things I am, a plethora of definitions - and I apologize for not a damn one of them. If you can't get down with that - there's the plank, be about your merry way off it. The U.S.S. DILLIGAF makes no port of call at the behest of those who besmirches the captain.

* Tell you what you want to hear to get what I want out of you - That's something a player (or is the common vernacular 'playa'?) does. I am far from that. Simply put I will tell you what I want and if I am fair judge of character and intent before talking, its very likely you've provided queues that you'll go along with it.

* Negotiate on doing something that is an exception to my hard limit list  they are my hard limits. Ain't gonna change them, and thinking you're special enough for that to happen, sorry for you're damn luck but you're wrong.

* Ever claim, allude, speak, allow myself to be accused to the possibility of me being perfect - I'm an ever evolving work in progress. And while I am resolute in my beliefs I know there is more than one solution for each situation. And for the record, calling me perfect might get you slapped in the mouth.

* Say anything online or when the person isn't around that I wouldn't say directly to there face - I don't walk a cowards road, and frankly if you lack the gumption to speak your mind face to face, you are not worth my time. I won't hide behind a computer. I don't feel any form of e-empowerment by virtue of some sort of web based immunity. Hell in some cases the things I say online is the SOFT version.

* Pursue anyone from online, express more than casual flirtation with anyone online, put ANY stock into online flirtation received - In my experience, the web makes folks more brave than they are in person. Frankly unless you can bring that brazen within grabbin' range I don't care. Don't speak about it unless you can BE about it. This does not mean "oh he met me online therefore I have no shot." It means "I will not approach you with the intent of hooking up even express the inkling of carnal contemplation until you are right. in. front. of. me."

* Pursue, intently flirt, or deliberately entice someone who has a "relationship goal" that would be direct conflict with my current outlook on relationships - Simply put it leads to friction, drama, and eventually losing whatever amicability existed during the initial stages of interaction. I'm not interested in being a boyfriend, prince charming, your future husband, or current monogamous partner of the fiscal quarter. I make my intentions clear from. day. one. And I respect yours.

* Particpate or encourage in my direction in any way, shape, or form "sexless kink" - I honestly see no point in it. Not that I am knocking the "artful" or "spiritual" intentions have in this lifestyle - but those concepts don't interest me. I'm into the kink lifestyle, as I state, for the sexual thrill. Now I know some of those here probably look down as this being "too simplistic" or "unsophisticated." Too those pretentious fools, sorry it doesn't matter what you think. Wait, scratch that, I'm not sorry.

* Let a moment of loneliness ever outweigh my capacity to be honest to potential partners or myself - The minute I have to lie to get with someone, make lies of omission to get the hookup, lie to myself so that the facts of why something won't work would be obfuscated from my own point of view, I'm done. honor. is. all.

* Misrepresent myself or my intentions for someone I have interest in - As most people know I am not in the market for anything serious / monogamous. If you aren't reading me loud and clear, I expect, scratch that, DEMAND you seek clarification from me as soon as possible. I will never EVER tell you what you want to hear to get what I want from you. Point of fact dudes who pull this kind of crap irritate the fuck out of me, equally as much as the normally intelligent women who fall for this b.s. repeatedly.

* Negotiate With Emotional Terrorists - to clarify dealing with people who hold friendships in lower value than the arguments that people -- EVEN FRIENDS -- have. Or deal with people who want to pull the "if you're friends with _____ you can't be friends with me!" standpoint. Furthermore I absolutely HATE when people pull the "Well if you're my friend you'll __________" (insert appropriate acquiescent stance that I am initially adversarial at the outset here). While friendship is compromise, holding the friendship in hostage conditional of the compromise is unacceptable and will not be tolerated.

* Have a woman I'm seeing cut all ties with their friends in order to isolate them from any social contact but my own and monopolize their time - Sorry but I don't believe in this. If she had friends before me, she has a right to see them. There is a HUGE difference between a relationship and taking someone emotionally -and to a degree physically - hostage. And last time I checked, Domination does not mean the fruition of stockholm syndrome.

* Make promises of relocation - Sorry I have no plans on moving to ANYONE.  Nor for that matte will I EVER move anyone to me. Sorry but I have the resources to uproot someone to live with me - especially as that violates my Person first, Kinkster second rule.  Nor am I uprooting myself to satisfy anyone's needs to have me within convenient reach. If you paid attention so far - I have a multitude of reasons for staying here in Sacramento, CA and NO reasons to move. 

* Take sides between friends - If friend A and friend B have an arguement its an AB argument. I don't need to be involved. I will not be dragged into it. And those that insist I do often find out I am the abso-damn-lute LAST person to draw into a disagreement I have no stake in. I'm not Switzerland, Switzerland won't pimp slap the both of ya for trying to get me involved.

* Join any cliques, groups, or social circles that would perceptibly put me in some form of "friendship exclusivity." - I'm am a free agent. I am friends with many. I. belong. to. NO. ONE. There will be no change to this. I am not a member of any pack. If you're my friend - all of you are a member of this lion's pride.

* Take and post pictures of myself in a group of people that are not presently in the lifestyle or the scene. Newly discovered pet peeve of mine. While this is a social networking site for the, in theory, grown and kinky. It is NOT a site that everyone would necessarily want their face floating on. Hell there are people who "want" to be here that don't post their pic up here. How in the blue hell can you justify posting pics of your vanilla friends on here, and think 'oh its ok, because I'm open about my kinky life with them.' Not cool, not cool by a damn long shot. Think about it this way, do you really want to be the target of those who would leapfrog friend you just to get to one of your friends that person finds more attractive?

* Look down on any one for not living to the rules, strictures, standards and practices I hold myself to - First, I live to a strict belief to the philosophy the table is round. Second, I am aware that not only is no one perfect, I am IRREFUTABLY in the know that - shocker - neither am I. Third, why look down when I am looking onward, upward towards the me I want to be.

* Demand respect after starting off being adversarial from minute one to a person or allow any measure of impunity for those that think this is an acceptable course of action - there is a thing I was raised to expect from every one I interact with is a common courtesy. If you come at me riding on some sort of ill earned high horse, my instinct is either to not interact with you until you dismount. OR simply kick you the fuck off if I can do so. Doesn't matter what point you're trying to get across or how valid it is. As my driving instructor once said - a pedestrian having the right of way before a semi truck, while correct the truck should yield, shouldn't be insistent that the truck going full bore on its course should stop because the pedestrian is right.

* Encourage the advances or attraction of those I am not attracted to - I don't believe in the concept of "flattered by your interest" from those who I would never EVER hook up with - this list includes dudes, TS/TV/TGs, gold diggers, those who are presently attached in a non-open / poly / swing relationship, drama queens, and last but not least - monogamists in poly clothing. These will either met with passively deflective apathy or actively mitigative discouragement.

* Order, instruct, request or otherwise direct a submissive or slave to hook up with anyone against her choosing, especially someone she doesn't already know - Simply put I am not one of those "of pass this chick around to your homies" kind of guy. Nor am I a "pimp that bitch to random douche bag who doesn't even bother to talk to me as a person and tries to skip the "getting to know the person first and the kinkster second" step with the female in question. I get that you're gameless, but stupid rude too?!

* Claim to be the Master or Dominant of someone already in a primary / wedded relationship - For further clarification, if you are already married or in a primary long term relationship, I will never, I say again: NEVER, consider using the term Master or Dom in terms of our dynamic if there is indeed one that requires definition. Down that road leads drama, and the Noc has no truck with drama.

* Believing or allowing someone to believe that because we have mutual friends we are also friends -Sorry, but there is no auto-friend app installed on the Nocturne77 OS as it is a non-compatible component. EVERY. SINGLE. FRIEND. I have became such by their own merit. You can be the best friend, the brochocho, superb lover, hubby, wifey, Dom, sub, or whatever other interpersonal qualification of our mutual friend, it doesn't mean I have to like you. Nor does it grant you any measure of carte blanche when you say something stupid either.

* Make things easier for one person compared to the next / dumb myself down for any one - I have been called at times elusive, evasive, confusing, abrasive, rigid, and a number of wonderful multi-syllabic that equate to one very basic fact - I'm a difficult person to fully understand. I WHOLEHEARTEDLY embrace this. While the basic facets of my personality most people see - the cleavage diving, boisterously lecherous geek - is pretty much what you get, it is one of the myriad of simplicities that make up the complexity of who I am. Heck, I kinda thrive off of befuddling people who in their smug sandcastles of perception think they are even in the same zip code of figuring me out. :

* Making exceptions or compromising in the rules /values I've set for myself at the insistence of anyone else but myself - Frankly no one is worth compromising my ideology. period. If I make an exception it will be because there is evidence that whatever collateral damage will not deter the path I set for myself. And in my experience, those that insist you make an exception for them usually do so when it will benefit them and primarily them.

* Look down on any one for not living to the rules, strictures, standards and practices I hold myself to - First, I live to a strict belief to the philosophy the table is round. Second, I am aware that not only is no one perfect, I am IRREFUTABLY in the know that - shocker - neither am I. Third, why look down when I am looking onward, upward towards the me I want to be.

* Chase Friendships / Social Networking Connections Ended With or Without Communication - The former, you want to stop talking to me, unfriend with me and you give me a reason, justified or not, cool best wishes to you. I fight to defend that which I hold dear, I am no jailer who will nag, berrate and mitigate your journey forward even if that takes you away from the friendship. If it was meant to be, keep rolling forward, the world is round, see you on the next lap.
In regards to the latter - sorry but if you choose to bounce without even the a word -you show you value the friendship a LOT less than I do. I am not a touchy feelie guy, friendships for nigh half a decade were transient things at BEST with me and prior to that were contingent to the amount of free time I had while spinning a great many more plates than the less numerous but more weighty ones I do now. You made the adult decision to leave / unfriend. My not chasing you and asking why is my respecting that decision. Fair winds and following seas.

* Constituting A Lack of Planning on your part as an emergency on mine - Self Explanatory, but for those that require extrapolation - I have my own life to deal with, I try to plan ahead for every eventuality. Key word - try because somethings there are no contingiency, only a work around. That being said - as I have my own life and issues to deal with, the likely hood of me prioritizing something that you should have prepared for and trust me while I seem inattentive - I have this nasty tendency to being clandestinely observant to an acute level. Example - you focused on date night, going to a party, loaning your peripherally signifigant other beer money, and then "suddenly" your rent is due, your cupboard's bare, and you think I'm just the guy to save you from evidently yourself - NOT. HAPPENING.

* Mix business with pleasure, specifically dating / hooking up with co-workers - I don't see how in any way, shape, or form that this is a feasible idea. Especially in this lifestyle.

* Jealousy - its more self love than love. I prefer those I have any modicum of interest - be it physical or emotional, be happy even if its with someone else. While we all have a right to our feelings, it is selfish and irresponsible to make anyone feel obligated to such misguided entitlements. Furthermore being jealous is handing the person your jealous of an EASY victory. I'll be damned if I make anything easy for anyone.

* Intentionally Cock Blocking my Friends - Mind you: I DON'T BELIEVE IN DIBS, but I do believe in giving my friends a wide berth when they might feasibly have a chance with acquiring the hook up. That being said - you fail, with no chance of recovery - Fair. Game.

* Follow the imposed protocols of other Doms / Tops / Masters in reference to mutually affiliated subs - Asides for the pre-negotiated terms this is largely referring to a) asking for permission to play when APPROACHED FIRST by the sub in question with interest to play (take note: I don't believe in approaching collared subs first). b) restrictions in play outside of negotiations between me and aforementioned sub.

* Stealing Girlfriends, Wifeys, Submissives, Slaves, Signifigant Others, Friend With Benefits, Fuck-buddies, Poly-accoutrements, from their primary partners (insert appropriate opposite here) - Simply put, when I am "on my game" I have no problem acquiring single women for whatever carnal conspiracy that I have in mind and she might find enjoyable. I am not in the business of grand theft girlfriend. Its dishonorable. Point of fact any attached female who has interest in me and every one I've had the pleasure of enjoying, I've met, talked to, and came to an accord with the primary partner prior to play. This is a rule with no exception. If you can't get down with that, that you can't down with me.

* Date, hook up, or express more than casual flirtatious curiosity to any woman 1.5 months after the exit of a serious / monogamous relationship or for that matter 6 months after she has exited a marriage - On average from what I've seen most women after they break up a relationship have a high chance of getting back with their significant other within a month and a half. In the case of serial monogamists they try to find their next boyfriend in that time. In the married folks - usually there is a high possibility that within 6 months they bounce back to their husband. Also there is an equally high chance they are in severe "I hate all men" mode.

* Being Possessive - it would be hypocritical of me to be possessive as I absofrackinglutely hate such a mindset being used in my direction. Besides that I spent such a long period of my life were attachment to people felt almost as a liability, it would ill serve me to foster such a concept.

* Assuming knowing a person longer = knowing a person best - Doesn't matter if we've known each other for years, or for that matter vice versa - we all have layers and a variety of corridors. No-one can navigate all of them.

* Drama -As many of you know, and some I am ALL about immediate conflict resolution. I'm also very much into keeping any personal greivance one on one - if necessary 1 other neutral third party. other than that no audiences, no prolonged "blah blah bliggity blah" We sit down, we hash out the issue (preferably over pie) and move, the frack on. If you still have an issue with me, talk to me. Not every tom, dick, and jackass on the planet, they won't solve the issue. I have YET to put boots to asses of a person who came forward right da frack away and say "Yo Noc, we got beef, lets chat about it."

* Play mind games / take hints while courting a potential partner - I love innuendo, I flirt, heck I have yet to meet a subtle phrase that didn't illicit a "giggity" if heard within earshot. That being said, as much as I am good at psychological warfare, its something I prefer reserved for opponents, not those I plan on engaging on a different and more carnal arena. I pretty much live by a "if you want some, come get some" mindset. I pretty much take most flirting as flirting without any intent but flirting unless I've determined you actually have some measure of fire beneath the flash.

* Take any online flirting prior to meeting in person seriously - While I do enjoy trading innuendo, flirting, etc.. If I haven't met you in person, I just assume you're simply spicing up the conversation. Until I've met you, you're just "random interesting woman # ______ " to me.

* Pursue or be interested in being pursued by virgins or lesbians who want me specifically to be their first time biological phalic penetration -- For the same reason I don't want to be a lot of women's "first black guy." If your interest in me orbits a curiosity about my gender and that is the only factor if interest, then you. WILL. BORE. ME. As many know, I will not abide a boring encounter. It would serve you better to look at the awkward drooling fools who jump at the task as you won't know what a good guy fuck is from a bad one. Good luck with that.

* Send Mixed Messages - This bears some measure of clarification as interpretation that some may think as open, will have to be closed. I PRIDE myself in being clearly communicative (despite the fact that those of you that have heard me talk know my mouth has an occaisional issue keeping up with my brain and words tendtoblurtogetherlikethisandatAVOLUMELIKETHISTOTHEPOINTITFEELSLIKEI'MBEATINGYOUREARS) . If at anytime, you feel like I am not making my intentions plain to you, it is your right to inquire to remove any perceived obfuscation mitigating your ability to understand the words that are coming out of my mouth. That being said there are limits to this: 1) I only will share information I feel you need to and / or are ready to know. 2) I only will attempt to clarify twice when asked. Third inquiries will put you at risk for full. salvo. calibration.

* People Collect - Sorry, but this needs to be said - JUST BECAUSE I PUT SOME LOVE ON YOUR PIC DOESN'T MEAN I NEED TO ADD YOU. 95% of the people on my friend list I talk to regularly, the majority of which live locally. The remaining 5% while not regularly atleast TRIED to exchange some measure of correspondence or atleast try to. for me isn't a popularity contest. For me 1 REAL connection with a person is worth a BILLION of fake ones and I will STILL have change coming plus interest.

* Ethnicity centered play - I don't see the appeal of it. I don't find it interesting and truly speaking, my ethnicity is part of my description, it ISN'T my definition. I am not here to satisfy curiosity on how it is to lay with one of "those people." I could care less what you interpret how I should behave by virtue of the color of my skin. And as many will tell you, i can care less about the color of yours. its 20 muthafuckin 12 people - we should be moving past this. Its because of people who adhere to this the zombies (or robots, I think a robopacalypse is most likely to occur) will win.

* Taking advantage of women while they are drunk or not fully in control of their mental faculties - Sorry, don't care how confident the liquid courage makes you. I only go for those that have their mind right. I prefer to have you when you are strong and well the hell aware of EVERY. DAMN. THING. I do to you. this line item goes hand in hand with the next ....

* Prey On You While You're Weak - By this I mean: picking up on women while in an inebriated state, hooking up with women while they are vulnrable or on the rebound, or in any other state of mind / body while you are not centered. Sorry but if you're mind ain't right, my interest in you can't be judged accurately either. We are ALL different people when we are at low points, and as I myself would prefer meeting a person while I am on an even playing field, if I have an interest in you, I can wait till you are ready to step up your damn self.

* Letting my entitlement outweigh my responsibility or contribution to the subject in question - this should be self-explanatory. Its one of the core values I live and breath by. You are never owed more than you put forward, EVER. And it should also be said I have little tolerance of those who for some reason think the world owes them a damn thing. YOU. OWE. THE. WORLD!!!

* Leap Frogging - to clarify the term as few outside my circle have heard it coined - Leap Frogging is when you make a friendship as a social tactic to get in the good graces of someone your interested in. Its a practice I've seen happen and a few have attempted it, to their failure, with me. I don't believe in the practice. It makes for insincere friendships and frankly, if I ever become that damn gameless that I have to rely on faux affiliations, then its time for me to retire and go full social recluse.

* Putting the kinkster ahead of the person - Sorry if this offends anyone, scratch that, sorry for your damn luck if it offends you: but as much as I love this lifestyle -it is primarily a source of amusement for me. That being said every person (Dom, sub, Top, bottom, Master, slave, pet, hedonist, chimichanga, or whatever title you've saddled yourself with) is a PERSON to me first regardless of the dynamic or lack thereof we have. PERIOD. end. of. story. This also entails one.. HUGE... pet peeve of mine the next line item..

* Last but least - putting the lifestyle ahead of my obligation to my family - as many of you know, I'm a single parent. It is my joy and honor to be a father. I will never, EVER, make anyone a priority over that obligation. That being said I don't interact with those who prioritize the relationship we have over taking care of stuff at home. This lifestyle is here, it isn't going anywhere, why cling to something so hard and risk losing your family?

Seriously, some of the "kinksters" on here.... laughable.  Makes me remember I why am not that enthusiastic about  searching on CM.  Either I get boring, annoying, or flakey in my inbox.   What ever happened to fun, grown, kinky, and drama-free?  

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Get the point yet? 

And so begins the sinful symmetry we commence on this tome.
On the edge of your vision, like a creature of your dark wet nightmares I roam.
Gagged with leather and bound with tape.
With vigor ferocity, I prevented your earlier attempt to escape.
And though your bonds are loose and you could break them if you try.
You know the chance of egress I left you is an obvious lie.
Yet still you snap free and make hobbled attempt to run.
With a growl I'm upon you, and now begins the fun.
Before you reach the door, to the floor you tumble
As I pin you to the ground I remind you, you wanted this rumble.
You moan you beg, you scream, you squeel.
But are silenced instantaneously bout the sobering feel of forged steel.
Now that I have your attention, wisely you hold still
I cut away your clothes with practiced and surgical skill
This is only the opening step in our game so complex
Because you hunger to give me your pain, your pleasure, your sex.

Started this morning - contemplating my writing annnnd thinking of how to arrange the fulfillment of a very specific fantasy of mine.  Then some idiot decides that I am THE person to bring their stupid to my inbox. Ugh.

Approaching me before I get some coffee is an ill advised endeavor on a GOOD day.  

4 -Reasons Why I have no interest in Ethnicity Focused Kinksters (EFK)

1) Adherence to stereotypes - seriously either a) they put on airs of immitating the supposed common and expected behavior of those of whatever ethnicity they are approaching or b) are almost OFFENDED by you not acting that way. For me -ethnicity is part of my description, not my definition. Hell on NUMEROUS occasions I get accused of not being black because of the fact I am - not thuggish, because I'm geeky, because I use a plethora of expansive words. I don't limit myself by the fact of my skin being darker than the next man. And further more - people's who perception of ethnicity are so limited by a finite geographical area puzzle me. Half-Jamaican / Half-Nigerian here, been around the world several damn times and have seen various cultures, YOUR limitation of how I should act is laughable.

2) the ______ ethnicity is superior to _______ ethnicity inclusion in their kink. I "get it" your love of racism even perceivably positive racism sweetens your kool-aid. Some of you actually believe in kink subjugation or supremacy due to your respective ethnic backgrounds. People like you irritate the holy fuck out of me. CONTENT OF CHARACTER > color of one's skin.

3) For some damn reason every third EFK I run into, seems interested in getting pregnant to fulfil their fantasy of having mixed babies. In short, reproductive irresponsibility. Seriously there are enough children born to people unable to care for them. Enough people unable to have kids who actually have the desire, drive and means to take care of them, and frankly are better suited than someone who obviously just goes around on an ill conceived whim to find a kinky babies daddy..

4) Perceptions of limitation in selection of partners due to ethnicity - seriously in the last year I get messages along the lines of: "How much white pussy are you getting?" "Oh you're a Dom you must go for those white girls?" "If you were a real black man you'd only go for an ebony queen?" Sorry - but I have NEVER let ethnicity be a factor in who I want to hook up with, play with, etc.

Round 1 of my homework for the week is done. Saving the rest for Sunday. Now to brainstorm and write.

Ok have a plan for weekend asides from studying for my finals. I think.  Writing is definitely part of it. I want to add some horror into my sci-fi. I am still going epic, just darker or more suspenseful. And will get back to the gym for damn sure, no more slacking.  Need to find a place to watch the UFC fight. 

And now from my own personal glossary -

Wreck - To leave one's sexual partner in a sweaty bipedal pool of post orgasmic nigh incomprehensible bliss, severely compromising their ability to walk right for hours if not days afterwards. 

I feel.. the need to chase. To pursue. To tackle. To pin, to consume. To ravage.  To drink in your screams, your gasps, your heat.   Your pain, your fear, your pleasure to be my feast. I want your struggle, your lust, your release.  

Ok...  new rule..  IF YOU CONSIDER "Lil Wayne" GOOD HIP HOP YOU CAN NOT ROLL WITH ME!! 

Seriously how the fuck did we go from MCs like LL, Snoop, Dre, Heavy D, Nelly,  Tu Pac, Latifah,Ludacris, MC Lyte, and a plethora of excellent artists to having  Niki Minaj, Lil Wayne, and Wes Kalifah being known as "the best rappers of our time"  If this is the best of the 2013 era,  yeeeeah I'll just head to Dimple and get me some ACTUAL good music from the late 90s - early 2000s... When MCs put boots to asses  on them beats AND their lyrics.  Where you had to have SPOT. THE. FUCK. ON. production and can rhyme your way out of a paper bag. I mean seriously you have artists - and I use the word loosely  making money off of songs that during the GOLDEN AGE of Rap - wouldn't even last a day.  And that goes ESPECIALLY for Lil Wayne's ass...   How the fuck can you say "you conquered the world of hip hop and you want to take a year off be the greatest skate boarder of all time."  Mutha fucka please!! 

In closing - manufactured souless beats, weak sauce rhymes and leading the pants sagging idiot set - yeah..  fail. 

Why is it so many CollarMe women outside of my area show such intense interest? Is there some sort of "safe distance because I don'y have to back up ALLLL that hot talk up."  Let me say this slowly.

Unless 

You

Are

In 

Sacramento

The Bay area

Reno 

or San Diego (as I visit there yearly)

I am not interested.  

Even if you are visiting. 

Secondly - yes I write and speak properly, I don't use a ton of slang in my writing as I write how I think (if you haven't garnered from the measure of complexity I sometimes display in my writing - I'm a bit on the high function side.)  If your definition of my ethnicity is quantified by my grammar use, please - get to steppin'  I don't have the time for you.    I'm only looking for those of the grown fun and kinky variety whose upper lighting actually has some measure of function.

July can't get here soon enough... San Diego, I sincerely hope you are ready.

While I would love to meet someone with similar interests, I treasure meeting someone who is actually interesting #10minuterule

Fact - I am not a "day one Dom you" kind of kinkster. meaning I won't even try to engage in kinky or carnal activity on our first meeting. I am a fervent believer of person first, kinkster second. The better I get to know you, the better I can read you. the better I can read you, the more likely you will actually enjoy our time. And if you're not having fun, then time is being wasted.

Fact - I tend to see flakiness as a lack of sincere intent. If fickle is your flavor, I might decide to mess with your head.

Of course I have some rather awesome ideas for a couple stories when my brain is moving so damn slow. lol.  I think I will brainstorm a couple ideas. Sidenote  - contemplating the fruition of one fantasy, just have to find someone who is down with it, and has a compatible schedule.  lol

FYI - as I feel a stronger wind in my creative sails, I might disappear into my own head for a bit without word prior. During these times all responses will be delayed. I will try to give notice before any scheduled outings prior. I should also state at this time I am no longer looking at making new carnal acquaintances at this time.  In short - if we have not started a dialogue at this juncture - 07MAR2013 -  that shows a measure of some intent  and impetus of progressing to something interesting - I am not going to entertain the notion and any flirtation, innuendo, other such minutiae cannot be guaranteed to go beyond me trying to keep peripherally entertained. Summary explanation - its been a while since I've felt "hungry."  Heck for the first time in years, occupation wise and soon subsequently living situation wise, I am making a measure of progress.  I'd rather spend this facet of my time with partners I know have a mutual measure of lust.  Theory is fun. Practice  is better.  

In the interest of safety, staying in tonight. Sorry to disapoint, but between pain sparking off in my knee and lack of energy, can't drive.

In a bit heading to Sac-Con to get my geek on.

Not sure if I am going to make Sunday or a Saturday a gym shake down day @califit haven't been in a while and I need to crush it out.

If you haven't already, feel more than free to look me up on under the same user name on another kink site ;)