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Why can’t romanticism and BDSM co-exist? Where did this misconception come from? There are so many on here that think that being a dom is about being an ass to the woman who has given so much of herself to you. Nothing says doms need to be mean. Nothing says they need to be an asshole. The relationship between a master and his slave, or a dom and his sub, is something that is truly special and it can only be enriched by the deep emotions of love and affection.

Do not confuse this with being strict or enforcing strong discipline. A master can be both loving, fair and kind, while being strict and demanding of his slave; I personally, have it no other way.

I scoff at writing this because I know what this site is all about. I have been on this place on and off, for many years and I have seen a ton of would be submissives get chewed up and spit out by the pretend-to-be doms who purport to be something or to have knowledge of something that they know nothing about. Most of what goes on here is about cyber fantasy of one sort or another. Tell me how it is that one can “collar” someone that they have never touched, never held close, never breathed in scent of their hair, or never kissed the side of their neck. I am sorry, but the dom in Arizona cannot have a submissive in Boston, period; they can fantasize with each other, but that is not a dom/sub or master/slave relationship. For many on this site, that is all they seek- fantasy- and that is fine, but it is certainly not what I have any interest in.

For those on this site who really do search for a real submissive relationship, I encourage you to write me. I have more than 30 years of experience as a dom and master, but with rare exceptions, I will not be concerned with how we match up on BDSM level- I am sure there will be no issues there if you are sincere about serving. I am professionally employed, have traveled extensively, care deeply about the outdoors and am very active in all outdoor sports. I garden and do woodworking, I putter around my 300 year old house and take lots pictures wherever I go. I love jazz and blues and folk and rock and anything that can get the soul tapping along with the beat. I read poetry and write some of my own badly. I am a world of diversity with a ton of interests and hobbies. I believe strongly in giving back to my community and helping those that have been less fortunate than myself. Now for you. If you are going to contact me, as we move forward, be prepared to talk about what you are like in a vanilla sense. Who are you as a person? What are you passions in life? What are your values? What beliefs do you hold strong? These are the things that will make a relationship sustainable and that is what I seek, a sustainable relationship that clicks on all level but has, at its core, a deep and strong BDSM connection. I am strict, demanding, very sexual and I will push you on all levels of your life, not just your submission, but I am also fair, and loving and cherish you, and the relationship we build, above all else.

I look forward to hearing from you.