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I first contacted Lexi on Collar Me on this day four years ago.
We first met in person on the 16th October 2007 and we have been together ever since. |
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If we exchange half a dozen friendly messages why suddenly start deleting messages unread?
It's petty and rude. Please at least have the courtesy to let us know that you no longer wish to correspond with us, perhaps even let us know why? |
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In under two months it will be four years since we first started messaging each other on Collar Me. In October it will be four years since we first met in person.
We have shared so many things and overcome so many hurdles that life has thrown at us. Thank you Collar Me for bringing us together. |
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Thanks xs**tdollx for your message:
"The guy in your picture looks like Christian Slater if he put on a shitload of weight and had a bit of a serial rapist look in his eyes."
Mildly amusing but why block me so I can't check whether I am supposed to be insulted by it. |
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So there's a sub profile claiming to have found a mistress. Only problem is the photos of the mistress are on at least fifteen different porn sites plus a couple of other sites warning about fake profiles on collar me. They are so wide spread that even tineye.com can find them.
What would you expect most clued up or caring subs to do? Perhaps ask some pertinent questions or try to get a unique photo showing their domme? Nah, they have a little whine that you are upsetting them by making false accusations about their two day old relationship despite supplying the various URLs to all these other copies and clones.
You know what, sometimes a stupid sub deserves a fake domme although I'm not sure which one to feel the most sorry for.. |
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If you see a profile with a picture that looks like a pixie/fairy version of Alyssa Milano, guess what, Alyssa Milano isn't really on Collar Me!
In fact it was a photo Alyssa posted on her Twitter account last Halloween showing her costume. |
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"I do not have webcam so don't ask. I have a mobile and will give it out to those I trust but don't expect me to talk I hate my voice."
Okay, this person may be a genuine female sub but it sure looks like a pretender to me... |
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If you are claiming to be from the UK perhaps you should make sure that your photos don't give away your lie.
Showing French or American plug sockets isn't always a give away but it certainly raises suspicions, especially when there aren't any British style sockets to be seen. |
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Are there really so many single kinky lesbians in this lifestyle? I wonder as so many of them seem to be amateur porn stars with their pictures on other sites... |
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Is there ever any justification for deleting messages unread? Discuss. |
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This site is great. Watching a fake name and shame another fake.
You just couldn't make it up! |
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"Please be gentle with me as I was in a relationship I thought was with a Dom, but he was actually just a bully."
Taken from a profile of someone that has learnt the hard way. From a number of conversations I have had recently it seems too many people are making the same mistake. That makes me sad! |
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Discovered just how much Lexi enjoys here Wartenberg Wheel. Lots of lovely marks.
Only drew blood a couple of times. Probably! |
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I'm bored. Bored of trying to weed out fakes. Bored of trying to get to know people, chatting for a while, identifying many shared interests and then nothing, no response. Bored of humouring people when it's obvious their photos are stolen or, well, clearly not them. Bored of people looking for cheap thrills with no intention of actually going through with their fantasies. Maybe we are the boring ones or maybe some people are just plain rude. Still bored though! |
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Where does being a Dom cross over in to being a Bully?
Is Domination bullying but with consent?
I feel there is a very fine line here... |
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Just to prove Collar Me is getting increasingly obtuse is the latest message from a sub thanking us for looking at her profile. It became rather surreal when she deleted the response unread. Random! |
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How rude! Manners cost nothing...
"To all of those who think that just because they sent me a message i should therefore automatically reply: i'm sorry if you think i am rude... but guess what, the fact that you are so bothered by it shows how petty you are & is indicative of a large ego & no balls!just be grateful i didn't waste any more of your time or mine!!!"
I guess the writer is the one that is petty and has a large ego. Never tried to contact them but was just surprised at this from a supposed submissive. |
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Does it take a dominant man to make a submissive woman do his bidding or does it take a very special submissive woman to persuade the dominant man to spend the time and effort to get her to do his bidding? |
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Renting a slave by sending money in advance to Western Union? Are there really people on this site stupid enough to fall for that?
Almost as bad as some of those incredible bad photoshop pics showing writing on a pad that has obviously been added afterwards.
Fuzzy pictures usually means they are taken from thumbnails or other images available online. Worth trying www.tineye.com to see what other sites the same pictures appear on. You may be surprised.
Anyone refusing to talk, send more pics or go on cam even after chatting for some times should also send the alarm bells ringing.
Good luck to all those that are looking. There are plenty of good, honest people on here willing to be very naughty for the right person. Try not to get disheartened if the search takes some time. |
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I see a number of people saying they are interested in hypnosis. I can see the attraction of having no control and being made to do humiliating things but isn't it more humiliating to do them when you do have control but have chosen to do things anyway? |
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Contrary to popular opinion there is no definitive BDSM standard, no standard or accepted way for a Sub or Dom to behave and no correct way to do things.
There is merely the way two people that have found each other and agree to proceed.
Just because someone wants something extreme or gentle doesn't make it wrong, just different to what you might want...
And don't let anyone tell you otherwise! |
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A couple of notes for some of the fakers on here:
If you are going to claim you are from the UK then stealing pictures where the plug sockets are clearly in the US isn't a good idea.
Also if you are going to photoshop showing a girl holding a sign try not to make the paper look too white otherwise it is obvious that the pic is a fake. |
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So many profiles demanding no one liners or cut and paste messages. Requests that someone write a thoughtful introduction that may or may not ever make it's way through your complex bulk mail to actually get read.
Well if you don't put enough information on your profile to allow us to even make an introduction yet alone tell whether you are worth the effort how or why should we bother?
Worse still are those that don't bother to answer with more than a yes or no. Do you want to have a conversation? If not, why are you here?
I won't even mention those stating no cam, pics or whatever and online only. Yeah, righto, that can only prove that the person behind the pic is not being 100% open and honest!
P.S. Having your photos clearly stolen from another profile or an easily recognisable porn star is about as sad and pathetic as you can get.
P.P.S. "Well I just want to serve someone" is not an adequate response when asked "What is it you are looking for"! |
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Two years together. Looking forward to many more! |
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In just one week we will have been together for two years.
We met on Collar Me, got to know each other, first by message and then via MSN.
Our first meeting was 16th October 2007. How time flies when you are having fun :-) |
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Until recently have been chatting off and on to a 'girl' on Collar Me.
Seemed nice enough but always a bit flaky and unreliable not to mention the pictures she gave out freely were obviously not her yet always excuses over no cam or recent pics. Lies that were soon exposed.
She wanted to be blackmailed but the information given was always a bit vague or didn't ring true. Often contradicted herself within relatively short periods.
Regularly challenged on the lies which were, to be fair, admitted to but then covered up with more lies.
Eventually being exposed as a forty something man rather than an early twenties girl but only after wasting plenty of our time and eventually causing significant distress and upset to Lexi.
The thing I don't understand is what someone can get out of such online activities that by their nature can only ever be totally superficial and shallow lest their lies be exposed even sooner.
Surely the pleasure from spending time with someone you know outweighs that with a random stranger you barely know.
All that has happened is honest and trusting couples such as ourselves become jaded with the whole Collar Me experience and lose any desire to put themselves out there and try to get to know new subs or make new friends. |
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Have noticed a worrying trend on CM.
If a picture is so small it doesn't open in the full profile view without pixelation then it's likely to be a fake.
After all, if you own the picture then you will have no problem having one big enough to look good in your profile.
On a similar note, someone wanting online only or with only one picture and unable or unwilling to supply any others? Run away! |
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A word of warning about MissChloe...
Vanessa4DD noted that she gave 'her' several opportunities to prove who 'she' was via cam and phone but on each occasion no evidence was forthcoming.
After chatting with another member of the site I passed on this warning only to have MissChloe send an unpleasant message to my sub complaining about me calling her a fake.
My message to 'her' asking about this was deleted unread.
I think you can draw your own conclusions from this although I would be happy to hear from anyone that has evidence to the contrary.
Unfortunately that would just prove MissChloe to be an unpleasant and petty woman rather than an unpleasant and petty man. Ho hum! |
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Why is it when you invest time, energy and, perhaps more importantly, emotion in to things you invariably just end up disappointed? |
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Anyone on here have any contact with 'mariematthews'?
Seemed nice at first then got a bit flaky over time. Shared some pics and then shared some more. Later ones appeared to be of someone else and sure enough they were.
Some were obviously from FaceBook so tracked down the girl in the pics. She seemed a bit hostile when contacted and then Marie got flakier still. Pretty soon she would ignore us on MSN and CM but seemed to be on here quite regularly.
Shame as she seemed nice but I guess you can't be too careful. Looks like her CM profile has gone now so I guess she must have been a total fake.
Perhaps some guy close enough to get her FaceBook pics, and those from her sister and another relative but not quite the girl we all thought she was. |
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Chatted to some nice people recently although have to warn others about 'DangerousDesires'.
Her Master offered her to us in a cut and paste message but failed to give us any reason to bother with her.
A long ranting tirade followed from her before she then blocked us. Then we were unblocked and she apologised and chatted to Lexi.
Then I was invited to join the MSN conversation where her and her Master who proceeded to talk cryptically and not explain what they were talking about when asked.
So having wasted our time for 45 minutes they left the conversation and blocked us once more. Very, very bizarre behaviour and we still have no idea what went on.
A surreal experience all round! |
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Lots of people online early on Christmas morning.
Have a great time! |
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Have found at least three profiles so far using pictures stolen from Liz Vicious.
Why do people feel the need to hide who they are? |
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Had a lovely weekend with my girl. Nice to forget everyday stresses for a short while. Obviously lots of hot wax helped... |
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Glad the human element overrode the automated censorship after someone, I'm guessing Querida2, complained about our previous journal entry.
Not nice having a post reported and removed for no reason. Nice of the moderators to override things and do the decent thing.
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Thoughts for the day:
- Why did WileyKit chat initially and then not read messages from our joint account or teensub's individual account? Bulk Mail perhaps?
- Why did SatisfyNeeds seem lovely, chatting for long periods, sending photos, etc. and then disappearing off the face of the earth yet still being online and deleting messages unread? Changed her mind perhaps?
- Why did mariematthews chat on and off for a while and then stop responding? Just a busy life?
Answers on a postcard please... |
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A little concerned at the number of Doms/Dommes on here that seem to see a Sub or Slaves limits as a challenge and do their best to push them way beyond their comfort zones, perhaps even causing them to mental or physical damage in the process.
Surely a Dom, or Domme, should be looking to help and support their Sub so that they can be everything they possibly can be. Clear guidance, a strict regime and a supporting environment should be available to any Sub or Slave.
Pushing limits gently is one thing but only after you have got to know the other person and have an understanding of those limits, the reasons for them and their reactions when they get close to their boundaries. Over time those limits may change but they should also be respected.
A D/S relationship takes a lot of effort but remember it costs nothing to be a decent human being along the way. |
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Need to spend more time with my girl. Hardly enough time at the moment to support our vanilla schedule yet alone indulge our kinks... |
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Had a lovely weekend away to celebrate our one year together x |
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