naturalsubbie

I was watching Dog Whisperer the other night. He was called out to train a bulldog. Her owner was neglectful and she didnt trust people or other dogs. She was possessive over her food and went after other dogs. They thought about putting her down. The Dog Whisperer changed her into being submissive. He didnt push her. He would do something and let her respond and stand and wait until she relaxed before pushing her futher.  I think I fell in love with the Dog Whisperer. He is the way I feel a Dom should be. Quiet, calm, assertive, patient, gentle...the dog isnt bad, the owner is. The dog just needs to be retaught. A dog everyone wanted to put down for being so anti social, he took in and made her submit. I want my dog whisperer.

Does anyone else believe that D/s is about the emotional and spiritual connection of a couple? In order to have that connection, there has to be a foundation to build a life on. That foundation is not build by reading a profile and having one night of conversation. Honestly is this just me? Is it my inexperience talking because I seem to be the minority. I want a very stable and secure foundation to build on before I get into the D/s portion of our relationship. Maybe its the fact that I am a single mother with children that makes me feel this way. But if all I wanted was kinky sex, I can get that without submitting any sort of emotions or mental control. For my play time to have meaning and be real, I have to feel safe and secure and loved and owned and stable. Otherwise its just a nice fantasy. Dont get me wrong, fantasies work for some but I prefer reality. If you cant relocate to me and be self sufficient, if you cant be available to get to know me on a very personal and daily basis how can we build a real (as opposed to online only) stable foundation? Someone please give me feedback here. Honestly am I just new and naive am I asking too much?