MzTlaz

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	About MzTlaz 1/2/07 Not looking for a relationship at this time. I'm a Lifestyle Dominant currently living outside CA but visiting frequently until relocating to the South Bay early next year. I don't do cyber domination and I don't want to micro-manage your life. I'm not on the planet to fulfill your fantasies so do not come to me with a laundry list of what you like. I'm not anyone's Mistress till I say so....so don't address me a such. I'm a real person who values the whole person in myself and others so if all you present to me is a facet of yourself I won't be interested for long even if that facet interests me in the begining. You better know why you are in the Lifestyle and I don't mean what kinks you like...I mean what motivates you to the Lifestyle from a psychological aspect. That said, I'm an attractive (many say beautiful) intelligent, educated, articulate and creative woman who takes care of herself....if you capture my interest I will send a photo, I'm only posting a very discreet one at this time due to the large amounts of mail I get when I post more...but it should give you a clue as to who you might be dealing with. I do date Doms and Switches, I like the interaction as long as the goal isn't to 'conquer' me, mutual respect is key here....I am aware I do have a submissive side....lol...somewhere, buried deep, though others dispute that...but you won't get to it 'playing Master'. I would love to have a jointly headed Patriach/Matriach leather family....and I do see that in my future. If you are submissive and want a relationship with me as opposed to just a play arrangement you better have a dominant side to you in your regular life.....I do not find the totally submissive male attractive for a LTR. Well...from this you can probably tell that I'm pretty much straight forward and even blunt....but don't be mislead to think I'm a 'hard bitch'...I'm extremely feminine and my scenes are fun usually causing much laughter from the participants and the onlookers. In private I do like to play deep in the psychological areas so you must be willing to explore your 'deep darks'.

And the New Year dawns.
As the caffeine kicks in I feel quite happy and somewhat excited about the upcoming year...it's going to be a big one for me...I can feel it in my bones. My birthday horoscope predicted a lot of what I already have planned and indicates much success...so the signs are good.
I don't think I've ever been as excited about a new year as I am about this one....start the new job on Wednesday and art class the following week. Lots of ideas for paintings bubbling in my head and maybe it's time to release onto canvas the images that have been locked up for so long. Oddly I'm quite excited about working with my instructor...he paints well and it's definitely going to be interesting working with a Mormon religious painter, and it doesn't hurt that he's rather attractive. Hmm...will I shake up his world or will he reform mine? LOL!

So, as this year comes to an end I find myself being very outspoken. It's a time when you better not ask me anything unless you're really ready for blunt and possibly brutal honesty.

Maybe it's got something to do with people around me being wishy washy right now.....I've had enough! I mean....I had some guy come into my place of work the other day to ask if I was single and would go out with.....HIS FRIEND!!!! The guy is 53 years old and behaving like he's in junior high! I told him to tell his friend I was too busy to date....not exactly a lie as with two jobs and school it's technically true, but I would never date a man who doesn't have the balls to approach me himself.

So with things like that happening, and that's just one example of many, I really feel like speaking my mind...yeah....uber FemDom moments. As for this site...well I think it's much like the others....full of people looking for wank fodder. Odd that you can actually have a decent conversation with some, real person to person, but in the end all they want really is to bring it down to that old "wank material" thing. Someone to fantasize about, someone willing to feed their fantasy.

Shame really.

Whoa! Life is busy. Just to let those of you writing to me know that I'm just so busy right now that I don't have the time to write the replies I want to...so just bear with me and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.

It always astounds me that men trying to pass themselves off as Lifestyle Dominants so often lead off by showing themselves to be disrespectful. They spout off a lot about respect and honor but their behaviour totally betrays them. Integrity is doing what you say you are going to do, showing up on time, phoning when you say you will.

I'm not sure if some men see keeping someone waiting is some kind of badge of Dominance but to me it's a sign of disrespect and a big red flag. Being a FemDom maybe male Doms see this as a 'subtle' way to exert their Dominance over Me and I'd tell them to grow up...lol! All it will get them with Me is a "see ya!" I really hope the submissives do this too.

Honesty is the best policy. Wonderful and true words that I wish more people lived by. The truth will set you free! Why carry the burden of lies? What good does it do? I've been shown the damage it does lately, I've watched as someone's lies have unravelled and seen the damage those lies have done. The thing is the person who gets hurt in the long run isn't the person/people lied to because they probably/hopefully will move on and recover but the liar....that's the person who is hurt in the end and they really have no one to blame but themselves....no matter how much they try to make it someone else's fault. The person they blame is usually the one who stumbled across the truth and confronted them with it....the old 'shoot the messenger' deal.

What makes some people be their own worst enemies? We all know someone like this, someone who has wonderful qualities, amazing potential but over and over again messes up, pushing away the very people who care about them. Is it unworthiness that controls them? Do they feel so insecure about their true self that they have to wrap it in something they think is more attractive, only to find that the 'image' they create does exactly the opposite of what they wanted?

I feel the most attractive people are the ones who live authentically even if their authentic self is a full 180 different from mine. I met a lady recently who was exactly this, and I know a lot of people would laugh at me calling her a "lady" as she lives on the sexual edge of our lifestyle, but she impressed me so much with her authenticity that's how I think of her. She taught me a lot about the counter side of the lifestyle I choose to live.

To live true to yourself even if others may shun you because of it takes courage but once you make the commitment to do it, it does actually become quite easy. There's a freedom about being completely yourself, an inner sense of pure joy when you let go of the fears that keep your authentic self caged.

Being in this lifestyle, being a dominant, I think a lot about power and power exchange and we do so much more to ourselves in day to day life than can ever be done even at an infinite play party. How many times we give away our power thoughtlessly and without any consideration, be it by being concerned with how someone sees us, thinks about us or how we bow to social convention to fit in.

And those people who feel the need to create an image of themself, to embellish their life, to create something they feel is more 'dark', more 'mysterious', more 'exciting'....well, they are the true submissives because they submit their authentic self to nothing more than an image, a fantasy. It may seem an easy way out at first, an easy escape from a reality they don't like but they do become enslaved to the fantasy and it takes a huge amount of work to stop it from falling apart....and fall apart it always does because it grows and becomes too much of a burden to carry all the time.

If you see yourself as someone submitting your authentic self to a fantasy please have faith in yourself and the people around you and take your control back.

This journal really should be giving you clues about what I look for in the people I involve myself with. Maybe it should be titled 'The Things That Make Me go "UGH!"'
In the Lifestyle community we often talk about respect, in fact, the word is tossed around with such frequency one would imagine it's meaning would be totally understood. However, this is not my experience. Lifestyle or vanilla respect is shown to people in some very simple ways...by acknowledging a person and not ignoring them, by listening to and taking into account their beliefs and feelings even if you don't agree with/share them, by not calling them names or saying rude things to them (and prefacing it with "with respect" really doesn't cut it...in fact, that makes a mockery of respect). The only thing that these things have to do with respect in my book is to erode any respect I might have for the person doing them.

What is friendship? Are friends just people who can help you out? When you talk to a friend is your first thought about what they can do for you? Do you think of calling someone only when you have a need?

Or do you call someone to see how they are doing? To offer an ear or a shoulder? Do you make contact just because you care?

If someone contacts you would you rather it be because they want something from you or would you rather it be just because they were thinking about you and wanted to know how you were? Follow the Golden Rule...treat others as you would want to be treated.

Often people, when confronted by a truth they don't wish to acknowledge, will go back to primal reactions, that is, they will either fight (argue, become angry) or take flight (ignore the confronter, pretend it didn't happen) and frequently do both. My hope is to find people who have evolved further than this primal reaction, people willing to look within, learn and grow....not as easy as it would seem to be....but like Pandora, I still have hope.

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