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	First of all let me say this: FORM LETTERS ARE INSULTING!!!! If you cannot be?bothered to put some effort into your FIRST CONTACT, why the HELL would I believe you would be less lazy should I?give you any of my?time? ? *I really suggest you read my EN*TIRE profile before writing to me. ? ? ? And yes I will know....I have superpowers! *and?now,* onto the profile... ? I have decided that what I really need is a house wife/husband. Someone that enjoys creating Domistic Bliss for his/her family. NOT a freeloader or "kept" person who just wants to prance around in an apron and heels with a tray of brownies!? 1950's inspired, or happy barefooted?hippie it don't matter to me as much as having an sincere desire to create a warm loving household for your family. This is potentially a long term relationship but will start as an on-going part time process of getting to know each other and see if we are what the other really needs to be happy as more than just a playmate. So we will not be rushing into play, though play is a strong element of this. I laught a lot, have a strong silly streak, so if you are looking for a "Femnazi" type ..well that ain't me! ? There is a lot more, but this should give you a good idea of what I am looking for. Be aware you would be seeking to join with me and my Husband as OUR housewife/husband.? The sexual, emotional attachments to each of us is totally up for discussion. My husband is NOT Dominant OR Submissive. He is Kink Aware...volunteers at various clubs, co-owns our Swingers/Kink/Poly Crossovers club and is in an Open Marriage with me,,,,but NOT in a D/s relationship with me. ? Ok, there is enough to start to form a picture of us and what we seek. So..read on for more about my interests and if you feel this is something you would like to discuss...let's talk. ? ? ? Form Letters will be instantly rejected. If you don't like it, don't bother sending me one. I will not be the least upset on missing out on chatting with such a lazy git! My approach to finding a sub for a relationship with is: IT IS A RELATIONSHIP! Treat it much as a date in the vanilla world. Show me your interest in me, court me, woo me. Show me you are fun and interesting, respectful and strong without being pushy or crude. Bring me flowers, hold my chair, and open the door for me. Defer to my wishes with grace and receive my smile with joy. Is there a book that you really enjoy? Lifestyle or vanilla, that would be a thoughtful gift to share and will give me iinsight into what you are like. Lets make a connection, find common ground other than kink! Do not approach me with a shopping list of your Kinks and BDSM fantasies....there will be time for that once we decide we even want to spend time together. If you wish to determine if we are compatible enough to start a dialoge, take a look at my profile. I have spent considerable time filling it out. ?You can see my interests quite clearly in BDSM as well as the mundane world. If all I sought was a sub to beat and boss I can find that any weekend at the local clubs. I want more..and so do you or you would not be writing me... If you are just looking for physical kink under the guise of a D/s relationship, you have the wrong person. Telling me that you can do "oral worship for hours" is YOUR kink, and I don't want to hear about it..untill I TELL you to talk about it, and that won't be untill I have decided you have EARNED such a favor. I am in a poly relationship with a wonderful man...a Service Top for the most part. He understands and encourages my search for a sub to share our life with. My heart is big enough for this... So, when you write to me keep in mind what I have said above as well as the following no-no's Write something INTERESTING..On just my 2nd day here I have actually received a message that said nothing more than.."Prehaps?" YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDIING?!? What Dominant Woman is going to waste her presious time on someone too lazy to even TRY to make a good impression? DO NOT CALL ME MISTRESS! You do not yet have the privilege. We are not in a relationship and that is what that title means to me. Ms. Mydnite, Miss or most any respectfull form ot address OTHER than Mistress will do.... .....Words have power...Names more than all others.... I am Aggressive, Direct, Outspoken, Caring, Harsh, Sadistic, Loving, and want to find a sub that truly NEEDS to serve such a Woman and be appreciated for it. You MUST have your profile filled out completly! Do not approach me with a bare minimium profile and a "ask me whatever you want to know" attitude. WHY SHOULD I DO ALL YOUR WORK?! INCLUDE A FACE SHOT IN ANY MESSAGE. I?do not cyber! Do not write to me and ask me what nasty things I would like to do to you...the answer is NOTHING! I do not cyber and asking this is just another way of getting wanking material without investing in a relationship! You need to live close enough to me to actually be able to build an ongoing reallife?relationship. So guys, if you are more than 2 hours away, it will not work. And NO I will not chat with you on another site, I will NOT IM or anysuch thing. Be content you have my interest here untill such time we have built enough mutual interest for something else! My preference is for large, masculine men with hair on their chests. You don't have to have any on your head, but on the chest is a plus. Whimpy, shrimpy men that I can pick up and body slam are not appealing. (though I just might enjoy tossing you around enough to concider if in all other ways you present as masculine, rather than a sissy.) ?In Female subs my preference is for curves, the more old fashioned "hour glass" figure. Very tiny, skinny gals I fear I might break! lol I DO NOT however suffer fools gladly. I have no patience with those that think they will be the exception to my rules. If this upsets you...PLEASE, approach someone else...it will not change. JUST FOR FUN, I'M ATTACHING A COPY OF AN ACTUAL** EMAIL I JUST RECEIVED... "well thanx for your time bitch mistress lol " AND THIS BOY WONDERS WHY NO WOMAN WILL GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY! Seems he didn't like my refusual to serve his desires....thinly discuised as a plea to worship me. ? ???????? Yes my darlings I am a kinky slut at times and darn proud of it!! I have never understood?where the idea came about that just because a woman is Dominant, she cannot enjoy sex! Well my hubby understands that at least for me? this is Not true. Male or Female,?wherever you fall on the scale of D/s, M/s, whatever.....feel free to contact me if you would?be interested in being invited to play. The location will be in the Cleveland area of Ohio ??????

1/2/2012 11:46:13 AM

Anyone know why the button on my "update profile"'page that "should allow me to add photos in not "clickable"? Is it just that now I am on my iPad? Cannot enlarge my screen or contact management here.... I have t been here in months so I don't know if it's the site or not....

9/2/2010 12:37:44 PM

So in the interest of hearing from the folks here...that may actually know this "boy", as we met here and all our conversations took place here....
I am copying a post I made elsewhere.

What causes a likely submissive to fall off the planet?

by MydniteRose 22 days ago

there goes another one....

Ok, this is a rant...but not really...it's a plea for enlightenment..but with a pinch of WTF?! thrown in..

I have yet again apparently scared off a potential sub...and wonder how/why?

I responded to a very nice, well written first message from a self proclaimed submissive male looking for a Domme. This one actually read my profile, (I have a first contact phrase at the very bottom of it and he used it as instructed, so at least he skimmed all the way down), he commented on several areas of mutual interest and included a face picture of himself as I request in my profile.

A good start and after a few days of similuar messages were exchanged I set up a f2f meeting for this friday.

Well, now our exchanges have gone from several a day..to 1 short paragraph yesterday where in he said he would write in detail later that night...well it's the next morning and ...you guessed it...NADA.

I am NOT going to chase this boy, but WTF??!!

I pointed out in the very beginning that at any time he could change his mind..all I required was he behave in an ADULT manner and SAY SO. Not just fall off the earth...

WHY is it so hard for a submissive to just SAY he is not as ready as he thought...no longer interested in me in particular...or has found another he feels is more compatible?!?

I stress just these things over and over again and even when they assure me they would never behave in such an inmature manner....

SHEECH!!!!

So, can anyone give me any insight into what the hell happened?

This is my follow up a few days later...

Ok so it's time for an update on this "sub".

After the OP this guy did contact me just 2 hours under my deadline to just write him off as a flake and said work had him too swamped to even get to a computer, with promises to at least let me know that was the problem in the future.

ok...so I accepted this, and once again made it quite clear I expected timely responses even if only a "too busy to talk right now"..and of course he would reply in full at a later time....

After another week of him actually following thru I invited him to a local house party for his very first experience with others in the lifestyle . I warned him this would either wet his appitite for more or be so different that his cherished fantasies that he would loose all interest...but either way I EXPECTED HIM TO COMMMUNICATE HIS DECISION.

That was sunday...guess who hasn't written, or responded to my texts?

YUP, and on top of the rudeness..I'm out his donation, as of course, he didn't bring any money.....

sigh

why do I bother?

And it goes on...

So I have sent a very short message on CM where we chatted several times a day....previously.....no answer...of course.

Two days later I send a text with the following:

so at the risk of seeming the fool when it comes out that you or someone in your family has been in a horrible accident and you have been at the hospital the past week...what the hell happened to all your assurances that no matter what the outcome you would always behave like an adult and never be so rude and inmature as to just dissapear without a word?!?

Just to show I am trying to keep an open mind.

@MS..I hear what you are saying, but I cannot help but wonder....

And chalk it up to my nature, but I actually DO worry that an accident has occurred...I mean it's the only thing I can think of that would keep ME from responding as promised.

I know, how likely is it that the computers, phones, textiing, etc all went on the fritz at the same bloody moment?!?

Final comments

I dare say he bloody well wasn't ready to go from "on-line to real life" as you say.

What I am most put out by is even repeating that he would never behave in such a rude and childish manner as to disapeear without so much as a "thanks but no thanks"...that's JUST WHAT HE DID!!

I can understand getting cold feet, I can understand not feeling a connection or attraction and deciding not to contuine, WHAT I CANNOT FATHOM IS THE TOTAL LACK OF MANNERS!

I even told him we D types talk, and good behavior would be praised and passed on....AND SO WOULD THIS TYPE OF RUDE SHIT!

it's a small community and I know I would be glad to pass along our on line history to any Domme who might be thinking of meeting this guy so she can make her own judgement it he is worth spending any time on someone who just falls off the planet like this.

I would ALSO have passed on a good recommendation if he and I just didn't 'click" but he was polite. I have done it in the past, and I know sometimes, for reasons the fault of none, people just don't match...but they could be the perfect fit for someone else out there.

Sorry, didn't mean to go off on a rant, it's just so disturbing, and the standard excuse of "cold feet" doesn't cover this ...THIS is just poor manners to my way of thinking.

I would never put someone else thru this shite...but then I am an ADULT and know how to , polietly, say "thanks, but we are just not a good fit. thank you for your time, and I wish you well in your search"

see? Not that hard is it?

so after all that, if you ever wonder why Dommes are so untrusting about some of the so calle d 'subs" that contact them here...you can see what the out come often is when we do trust a bit.

this is most likely his actual kink...

8/23/2010 8:28:36 AM

Here is something to think about....

I answer EVERY message I receive from submissives....that follows the 'first contact" request I have in my profile.

It is a simple thing, and it is there to let me know if the writer has REALLY read my profile. (they all say they do).

So, if you have written to me...politely....and still haven't received even a "no thanks"?..

You may need to go back and ACTUALLY READ MY PROFILE!

Just saying....

8/19/2010 5:04:10 AM

I just noticed I have a "bulk mail" folder overflowing with mail!

Guess what 99% of it is?..

SPAM! No, not that tasty slab of meat by products in a can....something far less desireable...."unsolicited mail sent randomly to a large group of people"..

In other words..FORM LETTERS!

If you even bothered to read the first line of my profile you would see how much I enjoy form letters..and now I know the powers that be here view them the same way...or WHY would they have given me the much loved...and much used REPORT SPAM button?

Yup, that's how each and every form letter is treated...REPORT SPAM....hope the management faries come to visit your profile soon you lazy gits!

3/22/2010 4:09:41 PM

STRAP ON PLAY!

Damn I miss it! I just got a brand new, custom designed harness for my favorite dildo (Big Blue) and no-one worthy of using it on!

I REALLY wish I could find a boy( now girls...no problem lots of fun playmates there) that wasn't so clueless I just get disgusted with them and walk away.

GODDESS! CAN'T ANY OF YOU BOYS READ?!?

While I have met some lovely people here it seems only Dom males and woman of any stripe take the time (or is it that they are the courteous ones?) to read my profile AND write a polite, non whiney first message.

I've gotten so many of the "do me" first messages telling me what I can do for them...and how I can dress while I'm doing it....and then they end the message with some asinine bs about how it's "all for me" like they are doing ME some kind of favor by "allowing" me to do all the work for them to get their rocks off!

~sigh~

I REALLY miss having a boy to take my strap on...for MY pleasure..and hopefully his is served by this as well.

The difference? He really is doing it for my pleasure....not topping from the bottom.

Is that asking too much?

2/24/2010 10:12:36 AM

It's been a while since I was last here...found a MUCH more user friendly site that I have been on...

So, I came back here to check mail.....and it's just more of what drove me from here.

CLUELESS, RUDE, "GIMMIE, DO FOR ME" MEN!

I mean are they really so clueless that they think a first message of "i need a spanking"..is gonna get them a good response?!? (other notables.."I live in willowick" ...."hi"....."call me...number attached...nothing else...just the number!)

No "hello, how are you? I READ your profile and think we may have things in common and would you care to talk a bit?"

NOPE!

Just launch right into what they want and maybe why I should give it to them...but really most of them are too lazy even for that!

Then if you ask WHY? these are the same guys that whine about how no one answers them or gives them a chance!

Uh guys, can you maybe see a "cause and effect" thing happening here?

Just because it hasn't worked out in your favor the first dozen or even hundred times is no excuse to short change the process...or it just becomes a self fullfilling prophecy!

10/5/2009 11:51:00 AM

I am now selling SEX TOYS..

*you can stop giggleing now*

Ok, yes I am another victim of the dreaded recession...downsized don't ya know.

But now I have time to do something that is at least fun.

So I am working for a company that puts on "parties".

Toys, lotions, lubes, games, books and lingerie.

Fun for me, you and your friends...and YOU get to earn lots of great stuff... FREE!

Ok, for this matter only ANYONE can contact me to discuss setting up a party or just to order something.

Talk to you soon.

NOT a "MONEY DOMME" scam...I REALLY sell stuff and set up TOY parties...NOT an undercover way of getting a "DATE" either!

9/2/2009 8:16:53 AM

WHY would you write to someone with a "friends" request...that you have NEVER even written to before?!?

How the hell do I know if I want to be your FRIEND untill I meet you and talk to you ....and see if you can read a profile enough to be worth some of my limited free time?!?!

Just seems like some are so impatient to get "involved" that the courtship process has been kicked to the wayside.

Instant "friends"...not likely.

I want to chat a bit...and see if you are both polite enough and intelligent enough to have actually READ MY profile...not just mail off a hundred messages to eveyone with a photo you like!

8/14/2009 6:13:25 AM

Where are the men who enjoy being men, who also enjoy a strong woman?!!!?

While I have nothing against all the men who are getting in touch with their girly side....it doe's seem that every other profile I read and message I receive is from such a "girl".

**sigh**

I really miss hearing from strong men...who just happen to find strong women exciting!

Come out, come out, wherever the hell you are!

2/28/2009 9:49:18 AM

Why do "submissive" males even bother? The vast majority of the so called "profiles" here consist of a Name...and MAYBE a header...and that's it!!!

Who the HELL is this profile supposed to attract?!!?

One guy has one line in his profile..."the name says it all"

LIKE HELL IT DOES!!!!
Just saying you are "willingtoserve" or some such nonsense doesn't tell me much of anythiing. I sure don't know if you are married, cheating, experienced or not, interested iin anything in common with me, etc, etc, etc!!
WHY THE HELL SHOULD A DOMME HAVE TO DO ALL THE WORK OF UNCOVERING A POSSIBLE COMMON INTEREST?!

come'on guys....are you that lazy? And if you cannot be botherered to put forth the effort into making an interesting profile....why the hell would we think you will put forth any effort for us?

1/13/2009 2:22:16 PM

I find it sad that so many males ( sorry it's almost never the females) don't even take a moment to fill out SOMETHING when they set up a profile!

I would think the reason you have a profile here is to get noticed, and hopefully contacted.

I know that whenever I look over the list of potential matches for my area and interests, if there is not at least a small intro paragraph I will not even open the full profile.

Why should I? There are many others to choose from and I shouldn't have to Chase you!

Just a FYI for those lonely, bewildered boys wondering why no one ever looks at their profile.

And the reason I find this sad? Because I believe many of these boys are just confused and nobody has taken a moment to explain that Dommes look for attention to detail, sincere effort, intelligence, oh and a photo wouldn't hurt your chances either.

If you don't make an effort on your own behalf up front, it leads us to believe you will not do so on our behalf should we consider you.

12/31/2008 10:27:29 AM

Don't get so excited by the fact that I looked at your profile that you neglect to actually
READ MY ENTIRE PROFILE......

And it that's too much reading for you (and I admit it's long. lol) then...please, pass me by.

The way I look at it is if you are sincere you would want to know as much as possible going in.

And if you are unable to follow simple directions, I have no great hope for your ability to follow directions in a relationship!

12/30/2008 9:36:52 AM

This is just the latest.....first time I have ever seen this self proclaimed "slave" (look at his profile)...

Why don't you get over it and just have your partner sub for you? No one wants to look at your ugly profile either. p u

Wonder what brought this on? Bet he's lonely.

12/16/2008 8:54:26 AM

What is the problem with reading my profile?

I even put in "bold print" at the very top that you MUST do so BEFORE writing to me!

And YES I know when you don't!

12/15/2008 1:46:40 PM

I just noticed a "pop-up": when I posted this...

"posts critical of others are prohibited"..

Well i"m not being critical..I'm just copying what they wrote with their own two fingers without changing a word...if it's critical it's on them!

12/9/2008 11:19:06 AM

Why do subs keep writing me with the line...

"I READ YOUR PROFILE..."

When it's obvious in the first line that they haven't!

Does this "Mass Mailing" approach ever work?

I would think the majority of Dommes here do as I and just delete and block...

Well sometimes I cannot resist responding to tell them why I am going to delete and block.
But that's only for the ones that show promise otherwise.

One such sub I even went as far as to direct him to read the profile and get back to me with the information I gave there for a proper first message...one that wouldn't end up with hime blocked....

You guessed it...he still didn't read it or he would have found the required phrase and put it in his second message where he asked me "what was wrong"

Arghhhhhhhh! If you cannot read, or if you can but think you are the exception to my rules, then why in hell are you contacting me to be your Domme???!!!!

Please take your jack off fantasies somewhere else! I am real and only interested in a real sub/slave....that reads!!!

11/29/2008 12:32:58 PM

I'm amazed by the sheer number of men seeking to be OWNED or TOTAL SLAVES that in the next sentence admit to have NO EXPERIENCE IN REAL LIFE WHATSOEVER!

I have been involved to some degree in this life for 25+ years.
Started as a swinger that really enjoyed a hard spanking..giving and receiving...

I have been a collered slave...it didn't last. I loved ( and still do) the man, but we were both denying our natures trying to fit into a different skin.

It's ok, self discovery is the building block of this journey.

But I would NEVER have thought of trying this right off the bat!
I don't believe in BORN slaves/subs. I do believe there are some with deep rooted tendencies that they become aware of early on.

My earliest fantansies were of BDSM and I began exploring this very early.

If you approach me for consideration you should be aware of these views.

Being a "newbie" and excited is a wonderful thing, just try not to throw yourself at the first likely Domme promising to be their slave .

It's not flattering to us, and could be dangerous for you. There are predators out there that will take advantage of your excitment.

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Age: 35

Liverpool, United Kingdom