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Male Dominant, 50, springfield, Missouri
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Male Dominant, 50, Ft Wayne, Indiana
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Male Switch, 48, Chattanooga, Tennessee
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About MrRandel
I will send photos privately, but I don't post publicly, sorry!
I've been into BDSM things for many years but due to a busy vanilla life I'm still relatively low on experience. The result is that I'm reasonably knowledgeable with experiences to back it up, but I'm still also discovering the full range of things I enjoy.
General Dominance
I'm a nice guy (in vanilla life at least), a Dominant guy and a sadist. I love a sub to give herself entirely to me, I respect her, value her, and have no problem discussing and/or putting into practice some wonderfully perverted acts. That said, I know things take time and wouldn't expect anyone to automatically submit without question. I get my buzz from the domination itself, having and using the power and authority over a sub -- as long as I'm in charge, I'll be happy, and the choice of what to do comes next. However, power and control can be part fo so many settings, as can a sub or slave giving herself wholly to me, and I have no problem with the more forceful side of things -- both types of play appeal to me equally for different reasons, as you'll see below.
Along with power comes trust and other such things. I enjoy being trusted, relied upon and having a sub's wellbeing in my hands. People have different views on Doms earning subs' respect, but I personally feel that a sub has no reason to trust me if I don't show that I can be trusted, and I will do all I can to put a sub at ease and help her gain confidence in me and thus be able to submit to me more fully.
Please don't confuse being a friendly, respectful guy with being timid or scared -- I can be a caring sadist, but it's the "sadist" that rules and I know many subs and slaves don't like the softly-softly approach, and that suits me fine too. I'm not trying to be all things to all people, but I can be several things to several people, and that includes subs/slaves who like a Dom to look after them and those who just prefer him to freely take what he wants.
A (Pretentious?) Illustration
Imagine a soft, lingering kiss followed by a sharp slap to the face, or being spanked till you cry then held tenderly by the spanker while you sob, or a calm, confident voice speaking words that are honest, open and appealing, most of which concern torture, humiliation, power, control and "kinky fun". That's the nicer side ... the harder side is far more brutal and needs far less flowery language to portray.
So what am I into?
Not all my "interests" listed here are things I've experienced, just things I'm interested in. Since Dominance itself comes first I don't think of play as having to contain any set element; different subs enjoy different things, and different things can work better with different people ... and, of course, during play safe words can be used and we can discuss things as they happen, so both Dom and sub can respond to each other and make the experience all the better.
I can be sadistic and enjoy causing pain or humiliation, but I'm also caring and can be trusted to look after a sub. Particular interests of mine at the moment include: - spanking and other corporal punishment - sploshing, food fun and other messy things - Daddy Domming - anything that seems fun -- see my list of likes for more ideas!
Small -- but important -- Print
I'm always honest and would rather lose a friend through honesty than gain one through lying.
I can't offer a romantic relationship. I'm already attached, I do this with her knowledge but not as a couple. I can, however, offer deep commitment to play, perhaps on a regular basis, and, along with that, I would love to make some real friends on here.
I don't do copy-and-paste memos.
I don't generally memo people who aren't looking for what I can offer or anything like that.
I appreciate courtesy, and, while I'd love to make loads of friends, a polite "thanks but no thanks" is preferable to nothing at all.
I aim to practise what I preach.
The Final Word
I'm a bit of a philosopher and love a good debate or discussion, be it BDSM-related or not. Anyone is welcome to contact me and, unless you're really rude, I'll reply. |
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